David Mark ๐ป ๋ฆฌํธ์ํจ
Okay, since this seems to be a recurring issue, Iโll address it so others can learn from it as well.
First, this is not a classic case of erectile dysfunction (ED). ED is the consistent inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for sexual activity. In this case, the man is clearly capable of both, so it doesnโt fit that definition.
What this points to instead is something known as situational or psychogenic erectile dysfunction, sometimes also described as partner-specific arousal issues.
This typically happens when there is a psychological or emotional disconnect with a partner. Over time, factors like unresolved conflict, reduced emotional intimacy, stress, routine, or even guilt can affect sexual responsiveness within a marriage.
In some cases, especially where there has been infidelity or growing emotional attachment elsewhere, the mind becomes conditioned to respond differently. The novelty, excitement, or emotional stimulation tied to someone else can temporarily override underlying issues, which is why performance may seem โnormalโ outside the marriage but not within it. Such that when he is with another woman he has grown emotionally with, he becomes a stallion but when with his wife, he becomes a chicken.
However, itโs important to understand that this isnโt always about another woman. It can also be about:
- Emotional distance between spouses
- Lack of communication or unresolved tension
- Sexual routine or boredom
- Performance anxiety
- Stress (financial, family, or work-related)
At its core, this is a mindโbody issue, not just a physical one.
Infidelity, when present, can absolutely damage intimacy and weaken the sexual connection between husband and wife. But even without it, neglecting emotional closeness over time can produce the same outcome.
The solution here isnโt secrecy or comparison โ itโs honesty, communication, and in many cases, intentional work to rebuild emotional and sexual intimacy within the marriage.
Hope this helps
Sir Dickson@Wizarab10
I get this same complain offline and online. What could be the problem?
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