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@aakashgupta cognitive behavioural therapy: nobody gives a shit what you did so its saul goodman
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Musician/composer/arranger and nerd of many varieties. A rational voyeur sailing the purgatory void that is twitter. Discussions are dope AMA
Dune 가입일 Mayıs 2020
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The "invisible guest theory" is a 25-year-old psychology experiment with a TikTok rebrand, and the actual mechanism is more useful than the viral version.
Cornell ran this in 2000. Made students wear a Barry Manilow t-shirt into a room full of strangers. Students predicted 50% of the room noticed the shirt. Actual number: 23%. Less than half what they expected. The researchers called it the spotlight effect.
The mechanism is anchoring. Your brain starts with your own experience of the moment, which is extremely vivid and detailed because you're living it, and then tries to adjust for how much less other people are paying attention. The adjustment is always too small. You feel 100% of your own embarrassment and assume everyone else feels at least 60% of it. They feel about 15%.
But here's what the viral version leaves out. Gilovich ran a follow-up and found the effect works in BOTH directions. People also overestimate how much others notice their positive contributions. You think your clever joke landed with the whole room. It didn't. You think everyone saw you handle that tense moment well. They didn't. The spotlight shines equally on your wins and your failures, which means both are mostly invisible.
The real freedom isn't "nobody's judging you." The real freedom is that nobody's paying nearly as much attention as you think, to anything you do, good or bad. Once you internalize that, you stop performing entirely.
sugamummy 🧚🏽♀️@ceraliza
Once you learn about the invisible guest theory it will literally change your perspective about gatherings and socializing
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This is why “love yourself” is reductive and incomplete advice when people talk about body insecurities driven by conventional beauty norms. People generally treat you better and nicer when they consider you beautiful. Being outside of that box is a dehumanising experience.
Nathan@OIuwatosin
My friend lost about 30kg and is crashing out because he just realized how superficial people really are. Folks are suddenly nicer to him, and he's become more visible at work.
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when i was 260 pounds, people treated me like a dog. when i was 200 pounds, people treated me like a dog who did a cool trick & deserved treats contingent on more cool tricks. when i was 120 pounds, people treated me like a person! then i hit 90 pounds & everyone was like Omg Why
Nathan@OIuwatosin
My friend lost about 30kg and is crashing out because he just realized how superficial people really are. Folks are suddenly nicer to him, and he's become more visible at work.
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For those keeping track, MAGA is now Palantir, Lockheed Martin, Apple, Google, Miriam Adelson, Amazon, Booz Allen Hamilton, Microsoft, Mark Levin, Laura Loomer, and the Ellison Family
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The hardest part of wisdom is learning to stay silent when the ego wants to speak.
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Joe Biden pardoned 80 people in his time as President.
Trump in his first term pardoned 144 people.
Trump in his second term over 1600. 166 of them are separate from the Jan 6th pardons.
Take away the Jan 6th pardons, Trump still doubled Bidens pardons.
Miss me with this BS
Deplorable Garbage Guy@Wesi1202
@mavsmarie Did u have this same response when Biden did it?
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I have gotten skinny at various points in my life, and it's wild experiencing every single person including your closest friends and family treat you better. It kind of makes you hate everyone to realize how conditional everyone's love and care is.
Nathan@OIuwatosin
My friend lost about 30kg and is crashing out because he just realized how superficial people really are. Folks are suddenly nicer to him, and he's become more visible at work.
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France to ditch Windows for Linux to reduce reliance on US tech, per TC
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one time i moved and so i had to get a new doctor and i was like “hey like once a month i really can’t sleep and my last doctor prescribed me this thing to help can i please have a new prescription?”
and he was like “ohhhh well now that you asked for it i can’t give it to you”
i was like “…well i asked for it bc my last doctor gave it to me. how am i supposed to go about getting things that i have previously taken??”
and he was like *shrug*
i was like “listen i know you can literally look at my pharmacy record and see that i pick it up like once a year bc i actually don’t even like it, i just need it to sleep sometimes”
and he was like “yep i see that. but i can’t give it to you bc you asking for it is drug-seeking behavior!”
so then i just had to live with intermittent insomnia until i could get it from mexico.
Julia Marie@julia_doubleday
Drs have such weird control issues that you literally have to go into every apptmnt acting like you’ve never heard of the concept of medication. I’m not just talking opioids or benzos. I mean even if you want migraine meds for a migraine you have to let them come up w the idea
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THEY SENT FOUR HUMAN BEINGS 452,000 KILOMETRES BEHIND THE MOON AND BROUGHT THEM BACK TO SPLASH DOWN IN THE EXACT SPOT THEY CALCULATED BEFORE THEY EVER LEFT THE GROUND
THE MATHEMATICS WORKED. THE PHYSICS HELD. THE SILENCE ENDED.
EVERY ENGINEER, MATHEMATICIAN, PHYSICIST, AND PROGRAMMER WHO TOUCHED THIS MISSION IS THE COOLEST PERSON ALIVE AND THEY KNOW IT
WELCOME HOME
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“Tanrı bir insanı yüceltmek istediğinde, onu her zaman önce paramparça eder.”
— Charles Spurgeon
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The President of South Korea said a video of the IOF tossing a Palestinian child off of a roof reminded him of Japanese crimes against Koreans during colonialism and the Holocaust
israel says this “trivializes” the Holocaust. As if Koreans and Palestinians are inherently cheaper
Israel Foreign Ministry@IsraelMFA
The remarks by the President of Korea, Lee Jae Myung, including the trivialization of the massacre of Jews on the eve of Holocaust Remembrance Day in Israel, are unacceptable and warrant strong condemnation. President Lee Jae Myung, for some strange reason, chose to dig up a story from 2024 and to cite a fake account that falsely presented it as a current event. This account is notorious for spreading anti-Israeli disinformation and falsehoods about Israel. The event discussed occurred during an operation against terrorists, at a time when Israeli soldiers were facing direct and immediate threats to their lives. The event was thoroughly investigated and addressed two years ago. Yet we have not heard a single word from the President about the terrorists who were at the center of this event. Nor have we heard a word from the President regarding the recent Iranian and Hezbollah terror attacks against Israeli citizens. Mr. President, it’s always better to check before posting.
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Deeply, DEEPLY hilarious that everything on the Artemis II mission worked perfectly except Outlook, a conference call, and, briefly, the toilet
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Hating your shadow only leads you to destroying yourself.
⋆@lowkeyalbert
i hate yelling. i hate getting out of character. i hate arguing. i hate being mad. i hate everything that makes me negative.
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I see no difference between this and when the tea was thrown into the harbor 🤷🏾♂️
𓅃 UAE Exotic Falconry & Finance@FalconryFinance
update: video of the employee setting the fires shows that this is politically motivated and that he is actually a hero of the people
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