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We need to talk about the grief of losing your entire identity to motherhood while the man you married gets to keep his hobbies, his freedom, and his career completely uninterrupted.

bell hooks said that White people will meet a Black person who completely challenges every racial stereotype that they have, but rather than giving up the stereotypes, they create a special category for that person and say, things like “Well, you’re not like other Black people”, instead of saying, “My ideas of Black people were too narrow”. This is called “subtyping” and it leads to the survival of negative stereotypes because the new category individual who’s supposedly “not like the others” is mentally isolated from the group. What this shows is that bigotry is all about protecting an existing hierarchy and it doesn’t matter much whether a person is exposed to other people or not. Which is why meeting intelligent, kind, accomplished, or complex Black people does not dismantle prejudice if someone is emotionally invested in keeping the stereotype intact. Exposure to facts and figures doesn’t change the situation either. Someone can know the statistics on crime, education, poverty, or discrimination and still keep racial stereotypes because the stereotype preserves a sense of superiority and avoids confronting historical responsibility. This is part of why bell hooks further argued that racism is emotional and ideological more than just purely ignorant, which is then why facts by themselves usually do not overcome a worldview that a person is motivated to preserve.

If he's in therapy for porn addiction it's definitely not working. Like I get catching tender and sexual feelings for a smart woman that listens to you without judgment. But theorizing about the tightness of her asshole and "fucking her brains out"? That's porn. I do not think that 17th century peasants were this inventive. I think man's natural state is down bad, sure, but having openly violently degrading thoughts to the point of constant distraction? That's being brainwashed into a psychopath by porn.

I’ve legit seen a wife who hasn’t had sex with her husband in 5 years be genuinely shocked and crushed that he’s having an affair. This level of cognitive dissonance is bugged out to me 🤣

Is it actually a thing on radfem orthodox twt that all sex with men is inherently sinful ?

My findings from my sex and politics survey, and some surprising results! Want to guess which gender/political party rates their sexual satisfaction the highest? Link in replies.

Brett Kavanaugh, a man in his 50s, had been valedictorian of his high school, at Yale College and a star student at Yale Law, had clerked for the Supreme Court, had a top career as an appellate lawyer and federal judge and a pristine reputation, and then a random woman from the town he grew up in claimed he had groped her at a party 35 years earlier when they were in high school. Kavanaugh didn’t try to argue that the incident was consensual. He didn’t claim he remembered things differently than she did. He immediately stated that he had never even met the accuser. Denying ever meeting the accuser is a much stronger claim than merely denying assaulting her, and much easier to refute. After Kavanaugh made this denial, Christine Blasey-Ford no longer had to prove he had sexually assaulted her to scuttle his nomination, she only had to prove that the two of them had attended a party together at which such an assault might have occurred. She was unable to do so. She did not know whose house the alleged assault occurred at. None of the people she claimed attended the party corroborated any aspect of her account. Leland Keyser, a friend of Blasey-Ford’s, who the accuser claimed was at the alleged party, said she recalled no such event and had never met Kavanaugh. Kavanaugh produced a detailed calendar he had kept during the summer Blasey-Ford alleged she was assaulted, which included his whereabouts of every weekend night and listing who he was with. Kavanaugh argued that he could alibi himself and provide witnesses for any night Blasey-Ford claimed she might have been at a party with him. Blasey-Ford responded that she did not know the date of her assault and was not entirely certain it even occurred that year. Instead of being seen as persuasive, Kavanaugh’s calendar was mocked in both mainstream and social media because the reason he kept it was for a drinking contest he was having with his friends. Nearly a decade later, there is still not a single shred of proof or a single witness who will corroborate the claim that Brett Kavanaugh and Christine Blasey-Ford were ever in the same room before she testified at his confirmation hearing. Nonetheless, people like Nick Kristof still claim Kavanaugh was “credibly accused” of sexually assaulting this woman.

A society that pays a woman half a million a month to show her body on OnlyFans but only eight dollars for her mind on Substack is telling you everything about its future.

Starving your husband biochemically while expecting him to stay monogamous is a form of abuse in a marriage. Agree or disagree?

A woman who brings peace, cooks well, and gives a BJ a day will make a man happier than one who brings a paycheck home

To all the people sputtering “But a lot happened between Pearl Harbor and Hiroshima!,” yes, I’m aware. It’s a tweet, not a complete history of WW2. The point is that many people believe that once one side commits aggression (such as at Pearl Harbor and on Oct 7), the victim nation has license do whatever it judges necessary in order to utterly crush the aggressor, no matter the cost to civilian lives and infrastructure. This is a non sequitur, and evil according to just war doctrine.

Oh no you have a husband that loves you