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@natssauer As the 100% nighttime mom, just gonna drop this here.

my hot take is mother doing 100% of nighttime care for baby is least disruptive for the baby, and if you get good at efficiently feeding your newborn and getting them back down quickly, everyone (mom, dad, and baby) gets better sleep. more so than if mom and dad traded off on nights in pursuit of fairness.

@kevinburch @tallsnail @astupple Nice, I'll give it a listen. Thanks.

@wtfitskeke @tallsnail @astupple Start here, easy overview open.spotify.com/episode/5YOhdY…

infant parenting: intuition, surrender, vibes toddler parenting: a rigid system of statutes, swift enforcement mechanisms, zero tolerance policy

@kevinburch @tallsnail @astupple The closest thing I've read to this philosophy is "Hold on to Your Kids". I'm all for giving children autonomy and treating their world as valid, but I'm skeptical from the quick overview I just read. I'll put his book on my list nonetheless. I'm always happy to be proven wrong.

@wtfitskeke @tallsnail Don’t. It’s terrible advice. Follow @astupple and read his book. And yes I have a son age 3.5 right now so this isn’t theory.

@TracketPacer Lady network administrator here, I've had a similar experience. Nothing but positive overall.

supportive things men have done for me in my career, as a woman in a male-dominated field:

@chipilonita Lady network admin here, both make the internet go.

i don’t think there’s a difference between a router snd a modem i think yall are just trying to confuse beautiful women

@bryan_johnson No regrets tho

@bryan_johnson Oura speaks the truth. I don't drink and I'm not sick lol. Rhr was up and hrv was down last night despite quality sleep.

Ave thanksgiving meal is = to smoking 7 cigarettes. Why and how to avoid... Average + 4,500 calories across day + 229 g fat + 69 g saturated fat + 450–600 g carbs + 150–200 g sugar (pies, rolls, alcohol...) + 3,000–4,500 mg sodium The damage: + massive glucose spikes + insulin surge + crash then hunger rebound + acute endothelial dysfunction + oxidative stress + immune suppression + sleep disruption Roughly equal in metabolic injury as 7 cigarettes. How to eat + start meal with small amount of nuts: macadamia nuts, walnuts, hazelnuts, almonds + roasted vegetables + legumes (lentils, beans, edamame) + add extra virgin olive oil + lean meats (no skin) Will help you avoid/minimize the real bad stuff + brown sugar sweet potatoes + marshmallow casseroles + glazed ham + rolls and stuffing + deserts Do you best to avoid alcohol entirely. Our culture around thanksgiving is literally insane. We celebrate killing ourselves.

how it feels to have a scheduled phone call later in the day

@nadiainthought I definitely agree, that's true for most narcs. I was thinking of my mom who's a narc and delulu. She's not fishing for a reaction when she throws shit like this out there, she's just talking to hear how right she is, and you dear reader are her loving audience.

it exposes narcs and they get more heated bc what they're looking for you is *a* reaction bc that's what supplies them. i actually think this is the best defense against getting pulled into conflict with narcs. but you're right that narcs won't rly change their behavior; they'll just move onto new supply that does react (speaking from personal experience)

my dentist is a dad of college kids that seems to operate on guilting and shaming people. he said "i tell people like you to do xyz and you don't listen" in this shaming tone. there was this catch-pause after like he was waiting for me to get dysregulated and scared, but in my head this year there was a calm "why the hell is he talking to me like i'm 12" and i just neutrally looked at him. he straight up changed how he was speaking to me after YEARS. don't return energy that's not respectful with any of your energy and just watch people change wordlessly

You gotta read this line by André Gide

i do not set ‘reminders’, i do not ‘structure’ my tasks, i do not ’write things down’. i RAWDOG it. and if i do not remember, i don’t DO IT.

“He doesn’t look autistic” My apologies, son perform autism for the lady please.