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@faramadeit

𓆩♡𓆪 𝒶𝒸𝓉𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓁𝒾𝓀𝑒 𝒶𝓃 𝒶𝓃𝑔𝑒𝓁, 𝒾𝓋𝑒 𝑔𝑜𝓉 𝒽𝑜𝓇𝓃𝓈 𝓎𝑜𝓊’𝓁𝓁 𝓃𝑒𝓋𝑒r 𝓈𝑒𝑒…

in your head rent free انضم Aralık 2025
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i been knowing. suppressing and analyzing my emotions instead of feeling them, and invalidating my own feelings cost me my sanity.
Anish Moonka@anishmoonka

The research behind this is wild. If you spent years bottling your feelings, huge chunks of your life were probably never recorded in the first place. Every time you push down a feeling, your brain has to choose: save the memory of what's happening, or shut the emotion up. It picks the emotion. In 2000, a team at Stanford tested this. They showed people a surgical film. Half were told to react naturally, the way they would if they were alone. The other half were told to hide their reactions, like someone trying not to look upset at the dinner table. Then everyone took a surprise memory test. The suppressors did worse on every measure, on what they'd seen and on what they'd heard. The same pattern held in two more experiments in the same paper. Brain scans later explained why. Your brain has three jobs when something emotional happens: tag the feeling, put what's happening into words, and save the scene to memory. When you reframe a feeling instead of suppressing it, all three regions fire together as a team. When you suppress, that teamwork falls apart. The memory-saving region goes quiet while the brain fights its own emotional response. And it compounds over time. Suppression keeps cortisol (the stress hormone) high, and cortisol shrinks the part of your brain that saves memories. People under chronic stress can lose 10 to 15 percent of the volume there. Even three weeks of elevated cortisol shrinks the wiring between brain cells by about 20 percent. The damage can partly reverse once the stress drops. But not always. The long-term cost shows up in the dementia data. A Finnish study followed 1,137 older adults for about a decade. People who said they habitually suppressed their emotions had nearly five times the risk of developing dementia. The researchers accounted for genetics, smoking, obesity, and education, and the gap still held. There's a way out. It's called cognitive reappraisal. Instead of shoving a feeling down, you change the story you're telling yourself about what caused it. A tough meeting becomes practice. A short-tempered friend becomes a tired friend. Same event, new frame. And because reappraisal kicks in before the emotion fully fires, your brain never has to fight itself. A 2003 study from Stanford and UC Berkeley found reappraisers ended up with more positive emotion, better relationships, and higher wellbeing. Zero memory cost. So when you say you don't remember half your life, you might be right about that. The part of you that saves the record had other orders the whole time.

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we are all ponmicals
we are all ponmicals@twoponmotwoegg·
nigerians love "at least" ehn at least he's helping people, at least there's light 12 hours a day, at least we have solar, at least at least
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YH
YH@Yemihazan·
There was a time in this country that "night travelling" was a thing. People deliberately leave their houses late, so they can get to their destination in the night... Trying it now feels like suicide.
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tomi ❤︎
tomi ❤︎@tomixoxoxo·
also love my men very woke and liberal especially when it comes to sex and autonomy, be very open sexually, emotionally and politically. anything else feels suffocating. a traditional conservative man has nothing to offer me but distance
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Jannik Beginner
Jannik Beginner@Wana____·
I really dislike the people who think politics is merely a game. Those people who are impressed by election riggers because they "know how to play politics." Your quality of life is in the gutter but you're hailing the "master strategist."
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y4yi
y4yi@yxyiagain·
make person help me do 310 to the 690 wey dey my opay, i wan buy bread and akara.
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iampelga ❤️
iampelga ❤️@BabyPelga·
One thing about me??? I am never ashamed to tell people my age. 😂 I’ll open my mouth waaa and tell you my real age.
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ayo ?
ayo ?@ayblaack·
e get some prices you hear, your negotiation skills go disappear. you go just talk "na wa o" waka commot
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