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people who lack integrity, consideration and empathy know how to imitate these things when it benefits them. trust your instinct the moment you see their mask slip.

growth happens when you stop avoiding things that scare you. the mind can produce a thousand convincing reasons not to begin, not to try and not to risk discomfort. your life changes when you start listening to the one reason why you should.

my absence is not revenge. i just stopped allowing myself to care for people who don’t think twice about hurting me.

i already accepted who you are. that’s why i left so peacefully.

one of the most painful realizations is understanding that they did not love you for who you were but for how well you soothed what they could not face within themselves.

I love how she knows she’s the most gorgeous woman ever.

I’m not even kidding this is what I imagine angels that sit at the right hand of God to look like.

Bro the whole time I’m like they look alike

Your mother is problematic. Your father is problematic. Your son is problematic. Your aunt is problematic. The cashier at the local Tesco is problematic. You've probably bought a cookie from a bakery made by hands that have done unspeakable things. Every chocolate bar you've ever eaten has probably killed a 7 year old child slave in Cameroon. The gas that drives your car is fueled by engines of death. Every person who has ever smiled at you in the streets has committed some act that if you knew about it, would make you profoundly dislike them. We have all been bad, small, petty, unlikeable, cruel, downright mean. Authors are not special "problematic" beings, they're just more public. Part of being an adult is recognizing that without mercy for our fellow human beings, and ourselves, we'd all be condemned to death. Reading fiction should help us understand that we're all irreparably tainted with evil, every system is corrupted, every line is broken. And like, that's okay. That's what it means to be alive.

One thing bout me… ima always let you do what you would rather do.

Over-explaining is a survival strategy. When you grow up in an environment that berates you for making small mistakes and doesn't believe you when you didn't make any — your brain learns that being misunderstood is dangerous. Over-explaining is a learned response to not feeling heard.

my cat just came to nap right next to me and i can't say it enough... BITCH I'M A MOTHA! NO DRAMA!

Identity is built in the mind long before it’s seen in your behavior. The mind listens to everything you repeat. You owe it to yourself to speak over your life carefully. You want others to be considerate of you? Start by being considerate of yourself.

Me when my cat comes to fuck me up

In that summer heat, the air right before a storm… nothing beats it.

Healing your self-esteem happens in phases. The method of “thinking positively” could never work without questioning the identity you have built around your pain. It’s understanding that your inner narrative can feel convincing because it’s familiar, not because it’s true.

The real reason why some people try to re-enter your life is to see if you still have the same unhealed door open for them. Don’t confuse being revisited with being respected.