Mark Tyrrell

While empathy is a strength, it can become a liability when it enables abuse. Therapists can help clients separate explanation from justification. This clarity prevents clients from colluding in their own mistreatment. Read my latest article on my blog: buff.ly/xdjD2LZ

Kindness in health care begins with listening, because when providers truly hear patients and one another, it leads to better decisions, stronger relationships, and more humane care. buff.ly/1XTMy8c

In healthy dynamics, love and protection equip someone to leave and face the world, but in the devouring mother pattern, they unintentionally become tools to prevent them from doing so. I've included a video version of this week's article here: buff.ly/jRGs7vm

When working with people who've had terrible childhoods, we need to locate their personal strengths and resources. We can ask how, despite what happened to them, they still managed to find success and some fulfilment in the world. 👇 Video case review buff.ly/hFiUwdY

We have to let others take responsibility for themselves, even young people. To greedily take more of our fair share of the 'blame pie' is to deny others a chance to grow and thrive. buff.ly/m0ULHnI

If you get too hung up on wanting 'a relationship' as a general idea, you may fall into the trap of flinging yourself at the first vaguely available (or not!) creature to enter the room. buff.ly/qV8mDrO

In this week's Clear Thinking I give you 5 actionable tips to help you help your low confidence clients overcome the anguish of chronic self doubt. buff.ly/OwN79GI

Sometimes FOMO is a question of missing out not so much on things we care about, but on things we feel we are supposed to care about. Instead of asking 'What am I missing?', ask 'What truly matters to me?' Click here to read more: buff.ly/Jj8zjQw

In the same way that ultra-processed food offers the illusion of nourishment while quietly eroding the body and mind, modern life often serves up a highly engineered version of human experience: convenient, addictive, and hollow. buff.ly/mvKy7eV

Truly confident people aren't the ones who know for sure they'll succeed; they're the ones who know they'll handle failure if it happens. buff.ly/kpFvMWk

Wanting something from someone who doesn’t have it within their capacity to GIVE you what you want from them is, of course, a losing game. buff.ly/qCMd6jm

Tall poppy syndrome may not be an official diagnosis, but its emotional impact is real. As therapists, we have the opportunity to challenge the cultural scripts that tell our clients to shrink, apologize, or hide away. buff.ly/q1nrotZ

Chronic people-pleasing, often a manifestation of low self-esteem, blocks honest and open conversation, and that can be a serious problem in therapy. Therapy becomes another performance rather than an authentic endeavour. buff.ly/jOTMmCz

If, by the time we go to bed, we haven't 'used up' our physical and mental energy, we may feel restless and seek out activities (such as scrolling online, watching TV, or even just worrying) that stimulate us even more. buff.ly/EzXWZDG

Strong in-person social networks are associated with lower rates of depression, anxiety, and even dementia, while online 'socializing' without actually meeting up with people may increase loneliness and depression. buff.ly/SrWL101

Moderate adversity in middle childhood (ages 6-12) and adolescence may actually promote resilience to anxiety, while too little adversity during some stages of childhood may be associated with long-term anxiety conditions. buff.ly/JLv64dH #blog #research #psychology

Can hypnotic storytelling really be used to enhance immunity and even redirect blood flow? Click the link below to find out more about the magic of hypnosis. buff.ly/zNbMxx2 #hypnosis #stories #story #storytelling

You don't know for sure you can cure someone's warts or help shrink a tumour, but you can suggest to a client that we don't know just what is possible – and we can work together with an openness to that possibility. buff.ly/zNbMxx2

Indoctrinated belief, unlike knowledge gained through experience, may initially have been implanted through the whipping up of emotion, and ever after be re-enacted through the state of high emotion. buff.ly/CWT8zyT #philosophy #indoctrination #psychology #therapy

We should always be compassionate, kind, decent, and caring to people who are suffering. But with some clients, the kindest and most compassionate approach we can take is to help them transcend their self-pity. buff.ly/rxyuWoi