Eze Kingsley Ohaji@ohajielom
This is similar to what happened between a 35-year-old man and me last year before he eventually joined the people to start dragging me on X through Forex Influencers.
He came to me voluntarily because he wanted to learn how I trade, particularly how I traded gold.
Before the mentorship began, he praised my composure and knowledge. He told me that if certain people on X understood gold the way I did, everyone else would have to leave the internet for them.
He was so friendly and complimentary that he jokingly asked whether I needed a wife and said he could offer me two of his sisters, adding that his girlfriend could join them. That was the nature of our conversation before the refund dispute.
During the first week, he specifically asked whether the programme included one-on-one sessions or whether he would only have access to the videos. I confirmed that it included one-on-one sessions. I also instructed him to study the information inside the coaching group because it was important. Therefore, the programme included private sessions, the coaching group and access to the trade calls.
He responded that he was already going through the group, observing the phenominal performances and was ready for our private sessions whenever I was available. I told him that our sessions would take place on weekends, and he agreed.
About a week and a half later, he contacted me to confirm whether the trade calls group had become inactive and asked whether I had stopped it. I told him no.
When he later complained that he felt I had abandoned the engagement, I immediately proposed a call for the following morning. I asked him to number and prepare all his questions so that I could address them during the call.
He was the person who asked me to move the call to the weekend because he operated a business and said his customers might interrupt him. I agreed and again told him to prepare his questions. A little over a week later, he suddenly asked to cancel the mentorship and requested a refund.
Let me make this completely clear:
- He did not demand a refund because I could not trade.
- He did not demand a refund because I could not teach him.
- He did not claim that my trading performance was poor or that the mentorship lacked value.
His own messages show the exact opposite. He praised my knowledge, acknowledged the performances he was observing and repeatedly asked for one-on-one sessions with me.
The reason he gave for requesting a refund was that he had overleveraged his personal trading account while trying to raise money quickly, blew the account and became financially stranded.
Those were his own words.
He admitted that he was financially down, that the week had been unfavourable for him both on and off the charts, and that he had over-leveraged his account while trying to raise some money. He said he lost everything, had placed himself in a serious financial mess and had nobody or nowhere else to turn.
He told me that receiving the money back would go a long way in helping him. He even asked me to deduct whatever amount I considered fair for the time he had already spent receiving trade calls and participating in the coaching group.
Therefore, his refund request arose from the consequences of his own over-leveraging and financial hardship, not from any inability on my part to trade or teach. I told him that I had never refunded anyone. He then informed me that he had left both groups so he could think clearly.
About four weeks after coming to me, he reported me to a forex blog and demanded a refund. After everything, he later returned, apologised and asked me to understand him as a man. He admitted that he was broke and that his financial condition was the reason he demanded the refund.
I accepted his apology. We laughed about it, and I warned him never to do anything like that again. Yet, about two weeks later, the same man asked me to lend him $2,000, or at least $1,000.
I refused to lend him the money, but I still continued teaching him and gave him two additional lengthy sessions.
Several weeks later, he reported me again, this time to Forex Influencers. He deleted parts of our conversations, removed the surrounding context and presented himself to the public as an innocent victim.
The screenshots circulated on X did not show how highly he had praised my trading knowledge and performance. They did not show how friendly he had been, to the extent that he jokingly offered me two of his sisters and said his girlfriend could join.
They did not show that he had admitted blowing his trading account through overleveraging. They did not show that his refund request arose from his personal financial hardship rather than my ability to trade or teach.
They did not show that I offered him another call, that he personally requested that the call be moved to the weekend, or that I continued teaching him afterwards. They also did not show his apology or his subsequent request to borrow $2,000 or $1,000 from me.
Before you take sides, judge someone, or end a relationship, hear both sides of the story. The first person to speak is not always right.
Many people have created lifelong enemies because they believed one story too quickly. Do not let someone use you against an innocent person.
The public was only shown selected conversations. I had the complete record. Evidence is everything. Nothing beats evidence in this world.
Silence does not protect you; it gives people room to rewrite the story. You may have every receipt and choose not to speak, yet they will still paint you as the perpetrator.
Document everything. And when necessary, reveal everything.