Greg Williams
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@CSASuperman
Pastor of the Historic First Baptist Church Confessionally Reformed, formerly IFB. Husband and father. Alumni of TTU, RTS, SEBTS, CIU.
Just wanted to share a little story that’s been on my heart. Someone very near and dear to me married his best friend, a sweet professing Christian who was a virgin, when they were both young. Five years into the marriage, she devastated him and our family by seeking an open marriage, feeling she had missed out on life. She remained unrepentant and the marriage ended in a heartbreaking divorce. Of course, purity is the ideal, but it doesn’t define worth, nor guarantee covenant faithfulness. What matters most in marriage is not someone’s history, but a true profession of faith and the reality of a transformed heart in Christ.
Virginity should not be the #1 factor Christians look for when considering who to marry. Godliness and being attracted to them is. Virginity matters, and it's a blessing from God. It's not wrong to desire someone who is a virgin. And past sexual sin regularly carries present-day consequences. But I fear we've placed virginity on such a high pedestal that it's become an idol for many. The Bible doesn't say that someone "is free to be married to anyone [they want] — only if they're a virgin." It says that someone "is free to be married to anyone [they want] — only in the Lord (aka, only if they're a Christian)" (1 Cor. 7:39). In other words, what matters above all else is that your spouse is a believer, virgin or not. Again, while desiring to marry a virgin isn't a bad thing, it becomes a bad thing if it causes you to miss out on marrying the person who truly matters: the man or woman who's born-again, passionate about Jesus, excellent in the God-given characteristics of a godly wife or husband, and physically attractive to you. And a mature Christian should desire those things in a potential spouse above all else, regardless of the past sins the person may have gone through (though they should certainly weigh out that aspect as well in this decision, since it does matter).
@riemersonck 2.) you still see Trevor’s wife Ashley as a whore and you feel pity for her husband for having married someone who was so damaged. The attitude is so un-Christlike it is sickening. I wonder how Jesus saw Mary Magdeline? Think he referred to her as the former whore?
The amount of hate thrown at virgins from pastors this week is disgusting. Repent.
I knew a young man who had 2 women who were deeply interested in him—both church-goers and pretty; one was a virgin, the other a single mom. After much counsel and prayer, he married the single mom. He saw more godly character in her and too much vanity and pride in the other.
I knew a young man who had 2 women who were deeply interested in him—both church-goers and pretty; one was a virgin, the other a single mom. After much counsel and prayer, he married the single mom. He saw more godly character in her and too much vanity and pride in the other.
I knew a young man who had 2 women who were deeply interested in him—both church-goers and pretty; one was a virgin, the other a single mom. After much counsel and prayer, he married the single mom. He saw more godly character in her and too much vanity and pride in the other.
Can we just let Trump fight and win the Iran war without constantly undercutting our President? The war is going fine. Everyone relax and stay patient. Keep calm and carry on.
