WellWisher

Both sides of this debate, in my view, are unwilling to confront the issue head on, which is to say that men get horny and want to have sex and they’re annoyed if they can’t get it from their wives, who they feel on some level are obligated (and should want to) provide it. From the men’s point of view this is something that they desire, something that they want, something that they enjoy, something that only their wives can give them, and the general message is that this is at bottom not a serious concern. Neither side wants to take this seriously. Women just say outright that this is a crass, unimportant concern, so then men, some of whom seem to agree with that assessment, try to frame it as though the sex is really about connection and feeling and emotional completeness and really you need to have sex with us because this is how we express love in a relationship. The only way through this is just to say directly that men get horny, they want sex, and it’s very annoying when their wives won’t give it to them. The women in their lives either take this seriously and treat the concerns of their husband as something worth caring about and addressing, even if part of them thinks it’s kind of base and crass, or they don’t. And so while for many men it’s not really true that the sex itself is about connection and emotion, the lack of it is absolutely about denial and rejection and an unwillingness to provide something that the man feels is so simple to provide. From the man’s point of view it’s just like, actually I am very simple, actually my needs are very simple, actually it is very simple to provide for me what I need and what I desire, actually you have all the tools to provide it, actually it’s not even a little bit complicated. And yet.

It's genuinely crazy how unspiritual Muhammad's view of paradise was. It's such a sordid, undignified, and materialistic view on what the afterlife will look like. It seems too absurd to believe, and too obviously geared towards slaking the lusts of 7th century tribesmen.

You guys all know this actually happened, right? During the first term, Trump pulled from storage and used the drapes HILLARY picked out in the Oval when she was First Lady. Every time Trump was on TV in the Oval, she saw HER drapes. Absolute MADMAN. We don’t deserve him. 🇺🇸

Nothing in the old testament, with its endless plagues and floods, is as terrifying as Christ trying and failing numerous times to get a girlfriend.

Got banned from an atheist gc for Islamophobia wtf

there's a sex therapist who has a ritual of making out with her husband every night before bed, and so many of the comments on her posts are some version of "but what if he gets turned on and I don't want to have sex" and i need men to understand and prioritize non sexual touch.

Muslim parents in the US must tell their children to not take part in the pledge of allegiance, you are pledging allegiance to a kafir republic and I don’t think I need to explain how it’s problematic

nonsexual touch is actually magical and a cornerstone of a good marriage, you're all just pornbrained beyond any resemblance of sanity

How my wife looks at me when I ask for sex after an hour of tongue kissing and over-the-pants-stroking

what I learned from this is that if you make out with your husband but don't want to have sex, he'll be mad at you. this is great!!!!!!!!! who knows why dead bedrooms exist when husbands are this great!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m obsessed with perusing the profiles of these pretty white reverts and trying to understand their psychology

Muslims: "No, no actually our misogyny is noble! It's Western misogyny that's bad"