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@jervyfermin Its the mindset that is wrong. Relationship is not supposed to work on its own. You (you in general) did not work on it.

@jervyfermin leave the other shocked/in coma, with the memories, clothes, perfumes, etc. N even then do it right. U have to understand y Alec Benjamin said "Could you find a way to let me down slowly? A little sympathy, I hope you can show me". Remember: relationship is a clockwork of gears.

i think the most brutal truth that people have a hard time accepting is when they already know that a chapter has already ended, when a relationship is not working anymore, when a person has changed from the way they used to be. --

You’re headed where you’re meant to be.

Codependency slowly disconnects us from our authentic self and creates resentment. Here's why:

People with childhood trauma tend to have fast and intense friendships relationships. Desperate for the love they didn’t get from a parent, they attach quickly— often missing red flags. Healing is about slowly building trust over surface intimacy.

Me ignoring her red flags because she thick

Our personality is not something set in stone or hard-wired. Personality is created based on child environment and first attachments (relationships.) At any age, at any time, we can unlearn and evolve the traits that make us ourselves.

Our younger developmental parts (inner child) fears losing our autonomy or being in a helpless situation, so we attempt to assert our dominance to stay safe. The issue is: these dynamics block authentic emotional connection

It's helpful to understand that power struggles are common when we felt helpless in childhood. If we had parent figures who: shamed us, engaged in harsh punishment, emotionally abandoned us, invalidated our reality , etc. we attempt to gain power as adults

Red flags don’t feel like red flags, when they feel like home. We repeat our childhood dynamics because they feel most familiar— and what’s most familiar feels most comfortable to the subconscious mind.

lack of communication leaves too much room for the imagination

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@TFlair4 @Theholisticpsyc I would agree to this and the op, both

@Theholisticpsyc Depends on the circumstance and who they’re around. Someone could be acting towards you a certain way, because of the way you are. Not necessarily cause of how they feel about themselves.

People’s behavior is a reflection of how they feel about themselves.

Stop putting your needs last. You deserve to be at the top of your to-do list.