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Chris Vol 25

@BatmannotAlfred I need to start walking consistently again.🙂‍↕️ Nowhere to go as I’m out of school and unemployed.😭

@__ajala It IS starving. And I be walking about a lot 😭

Started the year weighing 67kg, now I’m on 62. The weight gain diet I’m about to get on??

(Self sub lmao.🙂‍↕️)

Core biblical teaching should equip men, women, singles, marrieds, etc for everyday obedience without waiting for a conference. If people need a special event to learn basic Christian living, then regular church teaching is failing.

What we need is a holistic syllabus within our local churches. One that forms believers in the Word, in community, in ordinary life. If we had that, we wouldn’t need a conference for every life stage.

Me I think we need less conferences actually.

@itschargiee @StellaObatoye Fly girl!

Life lately 🎀

I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again. Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing. Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for. If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide. But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.” I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that. Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.

@ifetemini Yes. Long story but I was stopped at the airport. Just do it yourself at the appropriate place to avoid stories that touch.

@__ajala Are you for real??

Whatever you do, don’t pay anyone to do it for you. I know what my eyes saw.😂 Just go and do it yourself. There’s an office at Ikeja and another at Apapa.

Tuff mehn. Somebody cannot even be a nerd in peace.🙂‍↕️

Such a funny thing to say. And a slippery slope too!

@idueseniosocoj Do we not have more than enough of these songs already? Why is he gravitating towards the AI songs?

DISAGREEEEEEE

I’m uninterested in furthering this conversation. Just wanted to point that out.🙏🏾

No person on the face of the earth, bar Christ himself, has “always been Christ like”.

I wouldn’t say being thick is the beauty standard in Nigeria, because people have different perceptions about “thickness”. However, the average Nigerian woman is big/thick. Let’s actually be truthful.

Our purple inhaler.😭

Maybe because I don’t live with my dad, but it’s all so funny to me. You people have interesting families.