@DEM0CRATIC_DIVR @cessonmute And what about the medical bills from the pregnancy? What about the disruption of the mother’s life? What about the health issues that come from pregnancy (and can extend beyond)?
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Greenhighwriter
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@cessonmute All kids deserve a life. Put the child up for adoption if you really don’t want it, but do not abort the baby. Even in rape a baby shouldn’t pay the price of loosing its life just because it was conceived in rape.
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Some woman claimed this was just “pet play” like I don’t think she knows what pet play is. Some women are so happy to protect the patriarchy and the men who use it to abuse 🙃
Does not sound like pet play to me at all but I’d love to have someone more well-versed in BDSM respond
Ducky@insultduck
Lol. No. I'll be married until the day I die, most likely. My wife, on the other hand, will end up alone (she's younger and will probably live longer than me) unless she decides to engage in another relationship later in her life. Do I see women as sex toys? No. I see them as pets. My wife is my pet. One I get to fuck whenever I please. Which is often. And... if you asked her, she'd tell you that she truly enjoys being the pet of the man she loves. It's a phenomenal life. I suspect you, by contrast, will remain just as miserable as you are now :P
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Do you think all women should be submissive to men? We should just accept whatever treatment they give us with a smile. Voluntary submission is one thing but forced is something else entirely. I don’t have the energy to keep engaging with you. It’s a waste of time have a nice day
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Eh pet play, sounds like their kink. If he is being honest about any of it and she is happy, then probably just their thing.
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A healthy woman does not fear sex with her husband.
She desires it. She craves it. She hopes that touch will turn into sex. She wants it to turn into sex.
On the other hand, a woman who is fearful of having sex with her husband either has something seriously wrong with her hormones or her attitude. Perhaps trauma, often self-inflicted trauma.
And she has placed a burden that is hers to carry onto her husband.
She needs to buck up, get some help, and stop externalizing her own problems onto her spouse.
emily may@emilykmay
it's actually a great idea to make out and cuddle every night before bed with zero pressure of it leading to sex. people's intimacy would improve tenfold if women felt safe doing this without fear of it always turning into more and someone getting mad if you don't want to!
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Does not sound like pet play to me. It sounds like he doesn’t think of her as a human and instead a possession to do with as he chooses. But it’s clear you’re going to make excuses for whatever men espouse. It’s sad to see women so vehemently work as agents of the patriarchy
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy x.com/insultduck/sta…
Does this sound like a bdsm relationship to you or just disrespect? Yeah, do whatever you want in the bedroom as long as it’s consensual but some of the stuff these men are posting (in this thread) is just plain horrifying
Ducky@insultduck
Lol. No. I'll be married until the day I die, most likely. My wife, on the other hand, will end up alone (she's younger and will probably live longer than me) unless she decides to engage in another relationship later in her life. Do I see women as sex toys? No. I see them as pets. My wife is my pet. One I get to fuck whenever I please. Which is often. And... if you asked her, she'd tell you that she truly enjoys being the pet of the man she loves. It's a phenomenal life. I suspect you, by contrast, will remain just as miserable as you are now :P
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Usually pets is a bdsm reference which is consensual, but thats an entire other conversation
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy And I clarified over and over that your situation seems good but that doesn’t mean you can speak for all women. When did I say anything bad about your husband/situation? You are lucky. I wonder about the women whose husbands are speaking in this threat calling them their “pets”
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Just because I'm submissive and do not deny my husband sex does not equate to him treating me like just a hole to fuck.
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Wow, telling you you’re more than what men in these comments are saying you are! How rude! Saying you’re a full fledged person with autonomy!?!? The horror! Be serious. This is what the men in this thread are saying and you’re supporting them.
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Lol when you said I'm more than just a hole to fuck? Very respectful
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy I am asking you to define how YOU picture it. That seems to be one of the big miscommunications. Some people are seeing it as prolonged kissing with tongue and light touching. Others view it as groping and grinding. Don’t talk down to me dude I have been so respectful to you :/
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy How do you define making out? Men can get turned on from anything. You could wear yoga pants and he’d get a hard on. Are you now required to drop everything and tend to his needs? If he needs more he can do it for himself. You are a human with autonomy not just a hole to fuck
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy How are you viewing “making out” cause I’m viewing it as a more focused kissing session (could take 2 mins) whereas some of these men seem to view it as a hours long edging session. She never said she goes on for hours just that they take time to enjoy each other before bed.
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Okay if you might not, that is denying them sex then. I'm not going to bake a batch of cookies then hit my husbands hand away every time he wants one either. Why try getting someone to that level and being like, eh no. That just seems unfair.
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Then you misread because she never said deny them sex. She said without the pressure of having sex meaning they might have sex they might not. It’s easier for a lot of women to want to have sex if it doesn’t feel like a requirement and instead becomes a choice
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy This all started from women wanting to make out with their husbands and deny them sex, I think. Unless I'm on the wrong thread.
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy I’m glad you it brings you comfort. I respect religion. However as someone who had cancer at 6 years old and has experienced lots of health issues/tragedy it makes it harder for me personally to believe in a higher power who would inflict that on innocent children
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy God never said there wouldn't be pain or suffering. His grace and word helps use see through our tradgedies. I lost my mom to cancer and have battled unexplained infertility for 8 years. I have struggled with God at times.
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Why are we talking about libido? You’re bringing up a lot of personal anecdotes (which is fine) while dismissing others anecdotes (not fine). I don’t think we’ll ever be on the same page since you seem to advocate total submission from a wife despite the danger that might cause🙃
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Google, I have a higher libido than my husband. There are a lot of women sexually frustrated too, it is just not talked about as much. Age, depression, unhealthy habits, stress can all tank a man's libido too. It is not talked about as much.
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy So the answer to all of this is just communicate better! Yes, that’s what i’ve been saying. So often women are taught to settle for bad behavior. The goal here is to advocate for yourself and to teach women to be more comfortable in their sexuality without fear or pressure 🙃
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy That could be true, and they need to work on communicating better. When I post this I'm also talking about marriage and not just dating. At the end of the day in a monogamous relationship you're all each other has for desire. And that will change with age, libido and hormones.
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Nope! It’s hard to be one when words like “pediatric oncology” and “massacre” exist. I care about other people without having an omnipresent man in the sky tell me I have to :/ I respect religion but don’t personally adhere to a book written by man that tells you how to behave
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy But respecting his needs, if he is satisfied with not having sex in that moment but a blow job would work, why not? I want him satisfied and relaxed. Are you Christian?
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Yet we only seem to focus on women? How often does a man yield control of his body (in a potentially painful way) because his wife has a “need”. No one said never have sex with your husband but no one is entitled to anyone’s body despite what an old book (written by men) says
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy 1 Corinthians 7:4
"The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife."
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy I imagine a lot of your willingness comes from your partners ability to communicate/listen to you.
Some women are saying that they aren’t getting that. Ideal world all would be like that. It doesn’t seem like that’s what some women are getting/what some men extend to their wife
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Well it shouldn't feel like pressure or guilt. When you marry you are both giving your bodies to one another to have and enjoy. Both going into it with pleasuring each other, because there is no one else. I'm happy that after 16 years my husband still wants me.
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@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Well, like I said I’m glad you’re in a healthy/happy marriage but that isn’t the case for everybody. I’m sure there are lots of women like you but there are also lots of women who don’t feel that way. Both are okay.
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@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy And TMI, if I'm never not in the mood, which is extremely rare (maybe touched out from breastfeeding, or my period) I have no problem taking care of him other ways.
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