Meryem Alay

I got this question a lot. Honestly it's just making sure to spend your time wisely. Like kids go to bed at 8-9pm, meaning I have 3-4 hours once they are asleep. That's plenty for games, reading books, learning piano, meeting with friends, etc.. During weekends, and between 4:30 until 8/9pm I'm with my kids. When they need me, I'm for them. I cook food sometimes, try to help them with homework. But my wife is also a very good partner. We complement each other, without her, things would be a lot of harder. She does most heavy lifting with the kids (She decided to look after the kids, her decision), and delegate other things for me. During middays, I walk, while walking I also listen to podcasts, sometimes I just use my treadmill and watch a TV show. Sometimes I just sit down, and write down to my journal (that's something I try to get better). Again, just 30 minutes on these, and in one month you'll finish whatever you want. When I play games, that's my only focus. Once a game is finished, I start reading a book, that's my only focus. I have these burst, so if I'm into designing a new things, that's were all my energy, everything else get little time. But time is still wisely spend (for me at least) Of course working from home, I can use my time more efficiently. But I know from the past when I was commuting (when I was working in Istanbul), I used that time to watch or read books. Most people however, they just don't do anything. At evening, they binge watch Netflix (nothing wrong with that, I also do that), but I only do it once per week or month, the rest I make sure to spend wisely. It's pure discipline. If you're master discipline, you can do anything. You also need to be open for new things, and always be pushing. That's a character thing, if you don't have it, you can't do much. Some of my friends for example are very pessimistic about anything, I'm always trying to be optimistic. I've learnt that life is better if you look from the good sides, and that a good mood opens more doors, especially if you're also a good learner and willing to push.

Hayatıma bak, 36 yaşındayım ve hiçbir şeyim yok. Ömrümün geri kalanını borç ödeyerek geçireceğim. Her şeye sıfırdan başlayabilmek için geç bir yaş. Zaten eski umudum yok. Gerçekleşmeyecek hayallerin peşinden koşmak ve yaşıyormuş gibi yapmak. Hangisi daha zor bilemiyorum.