Dr. Robin Stern

I'm excited to announce that my book, #TheGaslightEffectRecoveryGuide is now available on all platforms! This time, as an interactive workbook, readers can learn about gaslighting & how to recover through prompts, checklists, quizzes & reflective questions buff.ly/3EkOSHQ

You can still want a relationship to work and believe the chances are slim. That is what makes Oded Adomi Leshem’s distinction between wish and expectation so useful here. Hope has two dimensions. Listen on Apple or Spotify. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Hope #Peace #Relationships

We can be precise on policy and still lose people if we never speak to the human future on the other side of it. As Oded Adomi Leshem reminds us, it is not enough to name what is broken. We also have to name the fruits of peace. Listen here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

This conversation keeps pressing on a question I think matters in every part of life. Not only “Do I think change is possible?” but also “Do I still desire it enough to move toward it?” That is such a useful distinction. Listen on Apple or Spotify. 🔗podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

I loved Oded’s point that humans achieve things against the odds. We were not supposed to fly, and yet people kept imagining the sky until imagination turned into reality. Sometimes hope keeps possibility alive long enough for something real to be built. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

One of the most useful ideas in this conversation is that hope is not only about whether something feels likely. It is also about whether it still feels worth wanting. That distinction changes how you think about peace, relationships, democracy & repair: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

No future gets built by facts alone. At some point people have to feel that future is worth wanting. That is one of the sharpest ideas from my conversation with Oded Adomi Leshem. Listen on Apple or Spotify. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Hope #Conflict #Relationships

A lot of people think hope is the comforting feeling. Oded Adomi Leshem does not. Sometimes hope is what keeps you exposed to longing, uncertainty & disappointment because you are still emotionally connected to what matters. Listen on Apple or Spotify-->podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

Public life can become obsessed with what is realistic while forgetting that no future gets built without desire. That is one of the sharpest ideas in my conversation with Oded Adomi Leshem & it feels especially urgent right now. 🔗f.mtr.cool/kyvtvyhbbm #hope #gaslighting

People do not lose hope in one way. They lose it in two. Oded Adomi Leshem’s framework for hope names the split between expectation & wish, between what feels possible & what still feels worth wanting. That distinction matters in politics & in love. 🔗 f.mtr.cool/dpwficfplx

What does hope ask of us when the world feels this fractured? @OdedAdomiLeshem studies hope where fear, grief, conflict, and deep uncertainty are already shaping daily life and the way people imagine the future. Listen on Apple or Spotify. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Hope #Peace

In a culture that rewards reaction, patience can look passive. Hope can look naive. Complexity can feel like too much work. Oded Adomi Leshem, Pierce Harris, and Anne Snyder on Part 2 of Conversations at the Edge. More to come—> podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #TheGaslightEffect

Who taught us to admire caregivers most when they are disappearing? At what point does “so strong” stop being praise and start sounding like permission to ignore what the role is costing them? Sharon Salzberg and I wrote more in my new @PsychToday piece. psychologytoday.com/us/blog/power-…

I’m leaving this here for anyone who feels shaken by what they’re witnessing and doesn’t want to be pulled into cruelty, cynicism, or performance. May we keep choosing what protects our shared humanity. 🕊️🫂 -Robin #Peace #Caregivers #Relationships

School decisions are never just about school. They’re about race, risk, trauma, and the stories we inherited about who belongs where. Courtney E. Martin names the complexity without shame. Listen here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Community #SchoolChoice #Relationships

A lot of us say we want community, then we meet what community actually requires. Caregiving is messy, grief is inconvenient, and you still have to show up. ourtney E. Martin and me, Conversations at the Edge: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Gaslighting #Relationships #Community

Parenting isn’t the speech you rehearsed at dinner. It’s what your kids absorb on a random Tuesday, especially what you do when you mess up and how you repair it. Courtney E. Martin and me: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Conversationsattheedge #gaslighting #repair #relationships

We love to pretend our choices are personal, but a lot of “preference” is inherited fear dressed up as common sense. What did you inherit about “good schools” and “good parenting” that you never chose. Conversations at The Edge with Courtney E. Martin: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

If your first thought is “How will this look,” you’re not free. You’re negotiating with an invisible jury. What would you choose if nobody praised you, dragged you, or misunderstood you. Courtney E. Martin and me: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

“Performative” can turn a human decision into a courtroom where you’re forced to defend your motives instead of living your values. That’s where self gaslighting starts quietly. Conversations at the Edge with Courtney E. Martin: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Gaslighting #Performative

I keep hearing this lately: “I want to do the right thing, but I don’t want to be called fake.” That fear will make you police yourself until you can’t tell what you believe. If you want the longer conversation with Courtney Martin, it’s here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Gaslighting