Jamie Lance

You’ve been running a program you didn’t install. Most of us have. The beliefs about success, what you’re supposed to want, how much is enough — a lot of that was written before you were old enough to question any of it. I’m a writer and former mental health worker from a working-class background. I write about finding that source code. The inherited patterns. The unquestioned scripts. The assumptions so old they start to feel like your actual personality. More in The Reframe. Link in bio.

@PaulChek Classic line and still true. Most people’s opinions about your life were formed without knowing the half of it. Take what’s useful and leave the rest.

Don't let other people's opinions guide and direct your life. Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one, and most of them stink.

@RealTalkKim A great comedian makes you forget they wrote that joke a hundred times. A great actor makes you forget they rehearsed that scene for weeks. You make people forget what you’ve been through. That’s a skill.

People assuming you got it easy is really just a compliment to how well you carry yourself.

@WearCoby19733 Forward momentum, even if it feels like a small amount, is still a step towards where you want to be.

The longer you delay, the harder it gets. Start before you feel ready.

@ZoyaBloomz Exactly. And your brain doesn’t always recognize that you’re not taking action. It thinks you’re doing something even when you haven’t taken any action.

@thereframe_ The giveaway is when self-improvement starts working like entertainment. You get relief from recognising yourself in the problem, so the insight starts feeling like movement. But nothing changes because the content is soothing the loop, not interrupting it.

Signs the self-improvement content isn't helping: → You've read the books and nothing's changed → You identify with the problem more than the solution → The insight feels like progress → You're on your fourth life coach

Been close enough to that experience to know it’s real. The way a room changes when a man has nothing to show for himself is brutal and mostly unspoken. The only answer I ever found was to get back to building something. Not to earn their respect back. Just to be able to live with myself.

Unemployment hits differently when you’re a man. Family treats you differently. People lose respect for you. Nobody cares about you and what you say. Family is only nice when you have something to offer. Get up every day and fix your life. The world is very cruel to a poor man.

@Tim_Denning Been there done that. The get-rich-quick market survives because it sells to people in pain who want the pain to end fast.

Going broke because you keep chasing get-rich-quick schemes is extremely painful to witness.

@Kekius_Sage Years in a toxic environment rewires your baseline. You start to think the tension is normal because it’s been constant for so long. Getting out and feeling the difference is how you realise how much it was actually costing you.

Psychologists say leaving a toxic work environment can significantly reduce chronic stress and help the nervous system return to a healthier balance.

🚨 Psychologists say leaving a toxic job can repair your nervous system faster than a year of therapy

@Tim_Denning Delusional optimism is underrated as a strategy. The people who built during previous technological shifts weren’t the most cautious ones. They were the ones who decided the opportunity was real before anyone could prove it. That window is open right now.

The explosion of AI shouldn't be feared. This is the greatest time in history to be a builder. AI amplifies a person's skills. The ones who are screwed are those who don't embrace it. But they won't become homeless. They'll just be forced to change. FAST. This is a good thing. Too many fat cats got email forwarding jobs that added no real value. This inflated their egos. They then started inventing fancy job titles that mean nothing. A mass reset in the egos of all these corporate workers is long overdue. And it's coming. Fear ruins the opportunity. Having delusional optimism enhances it. We're living through a digital renaissance. I've never been more excited. You should be too.

@Lovelistening1 @heavensbvnny That was extremely brave of you Irene. I hope that step helps you to heal.

@thereframe_ @heavensbvnny I had same. Kept silent about child abuse all my life. Today I told a Dr for the 1st time in my life. They can't treat you if they don't know the truth about you. I'm 78.

I’ve noticed that people who grew up walking on eggshells around parents who got angry easily or changed moods without warning often become adults who overthink every word, replay conversations in their heads, and assume they’ve done something wrong, even when nothing actually is. If you can relate, this page is for you.

Growing up without money doesn't teach you to be careful with it. It teaches you to be afraid of it.

@KevinSzabo14 Exactly this. I don’t go to the gym and work out every day because I’m “inspired” or “motivated” either. Some days it’s a struggle just to get in the door. But I do it because I know it’s good for my mind and body and I never regret going.

“I’m not motivated” Guess what? Nobody is bro. No one wakes up And thinks to themselves: “Hell yeah I get to work For 16 hours and get Rejected 1000 times” But winners do it anyway. Because it’s worth it.

@Digitalprospec2 @basedbrickpush1 Different kinds of Aussies go to Bali. Plus, there’s dickheads in every country.

@basedbrickpush1 Go to Bali, you might have a different opinion.

Don't think I've ever met an Australian I didn't like. Super direct. Low threshold for bullshit. Can take a joke. Turns out that the prison island idea is pretty solid.

@basedbrickpush1 Yeah we got a pretty sweet deal getting banished to a paradise island 😂

@WearCoby19733 The post sitting in your drafts because it’s not perfect yet has helped nobody. Post it

My tweets aren’t perfect. Typos. Bad wording. Not always clean. Do you think that stops me? People don’t follow you for perfect English. They follow you for value. Post it anyway. Improve as you go.

I hear that. I’m not talking about making them suffer, I mean letting them work things out for themselves, learning how to deal with problems etc. If we’re always hovering over them to make sure everything is perfect, the first time something goes wrong they won’t be able to deal with it emotionally.

@thereframe_ I know what I went through to build up my life, and I wouldn't want my kids to experience it

Some parents can't let their kids struggle because watching it activates something unresolved in themselves. It's not about the child — it's about what the struggle reminds them of. They step in too quickly. The intention is love. The effect is the kid never builds what they could have.

@olalakesi Exactly. And we can teach those experiences to our kids.

@thereframe_ Sometimes we are meant to experience something in other to teach other people about it

@thought_harbor The ability to adapt without losing sight of where you’re going is one of the most underrated skills there is.

It is important to have a plan, but it is also important to be flexible. Sometimes life changes and your plan does not work anymore. Do not get upset. Just breathe and find a new way to get to your goal. Being able to change is a sign of a very strong person.

@LewisHowes The first one is the one nobody prepares you for. Changing for the better and losing people because of it is a real and painful part of growth that most advice glosses over.

3 uncomfortable truths about personal growth. 1. The people who loved the old you might not like the new you. And that is a price you have to pay for evolving. 2. Life might feel messier at first. Trust the process. 3. Healing does not mean forgetting. It means the memory no longer controls your daily decisions.

@DeejayBeau_ Absolutely Deejay. Struggle teaches us a lot about life and our kids need to learn about how to deal with it too.

@thereframe_ They should experience life. That includes danger, failures and mistakes.