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@Uzzohh @jon_d_doe Nawa oo! Many of you here cannot understand simple sarcastic questions ❓ Look how they are throwing insults....

@jon_d_doe Agba, I would to know. You're Yoruba, but you want to campaign for an Igbo and Hausa ticket. Won't you be called omo ale by your tribesmen? How do you intend to navigate the harshness of supporting Peter Obi as a Yoruba man.

I want to make this declaration. If Peter Obi and Kwankwaso emerge as the presidential flag bearers, I will use my platform to campaign for them. And I'll vote for them. I'll not accept any penny to do this. I don't like President Tinubu. And that's that. End.

@theakpabio @ObaDeleke Please just say by the dictates of Christianity not God....

The rule against cohabitation is not for everyone. It's for Christians who have chosen to live by the dictates of God. If you have chosen to live by other rules, it's all good, and be proud of your decision and disobedience. But if you have chosen to live by the Word of God, then cohabitation before marriage is not permitted for you.

You people love to shout “fornication!” anytime they hear a couple lived together before marriage. Let me be honest about my own life. I cohabited with my wife for 6 years before we got married, not because we wanted to rebel. Not because we didn’t value marriage. Not because we lacked morals. We lived together because we were building a life together. We learned how to handle bills, resolve conflict, share responsibilities,support each other during hard times and see each other beyond the “dating version” We saw each other sick, broke, stressed, emotional, tired, and imperfect and still chose each other. By the time we got married, we weren’t strangers trying to figure life out. We were already partners. Marriage didn’t start our relationship. It confirmed the life we had already built. You may disagree with cohabitation, and that’s okay. Everyone has beliefs. But reducing every couple who lived together to “fornicators” ignores reality and dismisses real commitment, growth, and intentional partnership. Sometimes, cohabitation isn’t the absence of commitment. Sometimes, it is the preparation for it. ❤️💡

@itohan_olat This story is not true. The thing cannot stay strong inside there for hrs abeg

We are newly married and my husband doesn’t allow me to wear clothes at night. He said I should not wear anything while sleeping. When I sleep, he prefers to be inside of me as we sleep till morning without doing anything. He won’t let me remove it and he won’t do anything. It must be there. He said he paid a big amount for it. We didn’t date because we were not in the same state. Now married, I moved to his location and this is what I experience every night. If I remove it, he will wake up and put it back. He only removes it when we have intimacy but he doesn’t really like intimacy. He enjoys leaving it inside there. I know it’s too early to complain but I am tired already. He doesn’t let me sleep comfortably because it keeps moving inside me. What should I do? @ chummy 😂🤣🤣 sorry for the laugh but what?😲

@icekied Good decision from the husband

How can you be a married woman and you are depriving your husband of sex because you are fasting? Serious noise is going on in my street as I speak,this woman husband works in another state,so he comes back home every 2 weeks and stays for 3 days before going back. According to him,he said the last time he came the wife said she was fasting and she doesn't want to have sex so it doesn't affect her prayers. He said he didn't say anything,he understood her. This time he told her he was coming back home,that he told her playfully hope road clear😂😂😂😂. Only for him to come back home,the wife is telling him their church gave them 21 days of fasting again. Now he is saying she should leave his house since it's the church she is married to.

@jon_d_doe They said they go with them because of the insecurity in the country.

I agree with her. I went to my jamb office myself. Bought the form myself and completed it myself. I went to the exam center myself and came back home myself. We are breeding Agric fowls these days.

@declasiqstudio_ @Oreofe_06 This is worse than physical abuse... one can forget a beating but can never forget such an experience. Do you know how it feels to live and see such a man everyday? It's quite traumatic.

@Oreofe_06 You made you choice, but I don’t subscribe to divorce, Except for physical abuse, don’t divorce your husband that what I preach.

My first time in labor, I was in the hospital crrying and fight!ng for my life in the labor room😭😭😭😭😭 and my husband was busy in his mother's birthday party, 💔💔 enjoying himself with his family and friends. When I called him to come and stay with me in the hospital, he told me that he can't leave his mother at that point. I later gave birth to my baby that day and decided to end the marriage. From the hospital, i rented a house. I told him to go and marry his mother since my l!fe was at stake and I needed my partner to be with me, and he was not there. There is no point him being in my life. do you think I made the wrong decision?

@IamCounsellor_ @Oreofe_06 It is much better to be chasing people's husbands than to live with such a wick*d man.... wick*d family.

@Oreofe_06 If there is no serious circumstance surrounding him not leaving the birthday premises, he is supposed to be with his wife in the hospital. However, that shouldn't be a reason for her to end things. I hope she doesn't go after People's husband later on.

@patiophillip @TheOdin_II What if he's the father of the child?.

@TheOdin_II Do you know what the man has found in secret? Is he even the father of that childm

Some men are truly wicked. Your wife is in the hospital, going through the pain of labour, fighting to bring your child into the world. It is one of the hardest things a human can face. That moment should bring you both closer. But where are you? You are with another woman, chasing pleasure while she is in pain. That’s not a mistake nor a slip. It’s a choice. You stayed away for two whole days while she went through it all alone. Then you come back and expect respect? Respect does not work like that. You earn it by showing up, especially when it matters most. A woman who just gave birth does not owe you anything after that kind of absence. You failed her. She might stay for the child. She might try to move on. But respect? That is hard to bring back once it is gone. What replaces it is pain, distance, and a slow loss of love. Some men are wicked because they choose themselves at the worst time. They hurt the people who trust them, then act surprised when things change. A strong man stays. He stands by her. He holds her hand through it all. He is present. Anything less is not just weakness. It is a choice. And that choice has consequences. 🤷‍♂️

@jon_d_doe That's correct 💯

The major difference between me and many of these online relationship or marriage "experts" is that, I write and teach practically & realistically. They write and teach theoretically and idealistically. That's why I am miles ahead. Stay with my page, and feed on reality. End.

@jon_d_doe God abeg oo🤲 save all my children, and my unborn generation from being this foolish and stupid. ... how will a man be this fo**lish.?

Just thinking about the DM that we read yesterday on the backup page. Your girlfriend told you that she was going to visit her ex. You then called her multiple times, until the ex picked and told you to stop calling her. You broke up, then later went back to her to continue the relationship. She later told you that she's seeing someone else, & that they have even collected marriage list. And that they have canceled the wedding date 4 times. She's now insisting that you should marry her, and that anytime she wants to go visit the man, she should inform you. And you want me to advice you. Shebi una see why I say make una dey pay me $20? End.

@IAmSagzee @ummuh_Zahra You just wrote my mind. Best advice for her

@ummuh_Zahra Words from a Wise Mind: "He didn't find peace. He found a hiding spot. If he's willing to trade a whole life without fixing it, he'll do it to you too. You're not his savior, you're just his escape. Walk away before his mess becomes your reputation."

I need honest, sisterly advice… please don’t judge me 😔 I’m 30, a health worker, and not yet married. Last year, I lived in the same compound with a man and his wife. From the outside, they looked fine… But I noticed he was always sad. We became friends, and after I moved out, he started visiting me. That’s when he opened up. He told me he feels disrespected and unhappy in his marriage and that there’s no peace at home. I felt for him deeply. Whenever he visited, I tried to make him comfortable by cooking, listening, and giving him peace of mind. Somewhere along the line, feelings developed. One day, we crossed the line. Now I’m emotionally attached. He says he wants to marry me as a second wife. I said no. Now he’s saying he’s ready to divorce his wife to be with me. I’m confused because I know his wife, we’ve spoken before and she has no idea. Part of me feels guilty… Another part feels like he deserves happiness. Now I’m stuck. Am I wrong for loving someone who says he’s unhappy in his marriage? Should I allow him to go ahead with the divorce? Or should I step back completely? I really need honest advice… what would you do?

@jon_d_doe Oh! that was a great sacrifice. He lived a life of pain and regrets. May his soul rest in peace 🕊️

My mother did not even finish secondary school. But I recall one night, she beat the hell out of me because I could not spell "school" I was in primary school at the time. I recall it was my neighbor friend called "Ozioma" that rescued me. He saw me crying outside and taught me how to spell school. That was how I was able to eat my dinner that night. My father was not a university graduate. But he was making public speeches and corrected us when we made blunders. My late father gave scholarships to many young men and women who could not afford secondary or university education. He did his best for us as his children. But we followed our paths and made our choices. My late father did not make the best decision in his marriage and his choice of a wife. And he suffered for it till he died. But my mother for the period she was with my father, played her role and made sure that she was felt. My father never remarried for almost 30 years until his demise. I saw my late father in tears and pains. He needed a wife, but he was more concerned for our wellbeing and didn't want any woman to come in to maltreat us. I recall one time, I asked him: "Daddy, mummy has gone, don't you want to remarry?" In his words: "My son, I love you all, but learn from my mistakes. I don't want you to marry your wife, and divorce her. I have suffered too much because I am no longer with your mother. But she's still your mother" My loving father died of heart attack at 72. And my mother wasn't at his burial. And that was my father's wish. We honored it. Now you know why I frown against divorce, and why I always praise my lovely wife. I learned from my father's mistakes and God blessed me with a lovely wife. End.

@jon_d_doe Is it something to jump with Joy. Your husband expressed some level of mistrust for you and you are happy.....the woman is not clean....

I saw a video of a married woman whose husband carried out a DNA test on their 4 children, and they all turned out to be his. The man behind the camera asked her: "So you're a faithful woman?" The woman was jumping with joy that she's a faithful woman. Why did her husband doubt her faithfulness in the first place? Let me just say this to married men. You should not beat your chest to say that your wife has been faithful to you or not. As long as you do not know or suspect her, believe it silently that she has been a faithful wife. The only prayer I would advice that you pray, is that may all your children be biologically yours. End.

@oyero61489 Everyone does not have the same level of grace. That was her calling.

I had an aunt who never tolerated problems in the family. If a child was going astray, she showed up. If husband and wife were fighting, she traveled even interstate just to settle it. If someone was sick, she was there. If there was confusion, she called meetings. If a child was misbehaving, she prayed, corrected, guided, and carried them like her own. She was the glue. But few years back, we lost her. And now… her own children are struggling. The same woman who fought for everyone else’s home is no longer here to fight for hers. The father isn’t strong enough to carry the weight alone. The support she gave others, her own children are not getting it from anyone. Even as I type this, I feel guilty. How did we get here? Here’s the harsh reality truth: Nobody! and I repeat, nobody can raise, protect, mentor, and fight for your children the way you can. People may try. Relatives may promise. Family may mean well. But when you’re gone, the difference shows. It’s painful. It’s uncomfortable. But it’s real. Take care of your children. Build them strong while you’re alive. Because when the pillar falls, the house shakes.

@gabsonojo1 @jon_d_doe I don't support her recent actions but you don't know the loneliness she felt during the two years and of course suspected your father of cheating because he wouldn't have spent two years without sleeping with another woman.

In 2016, my eldest sister processed travel documents for my mother to go abroad and help take care of her twins. In fact, the preparation had already started even before the babies were born. As the first son of the family, I advised my mother not to travel because she was already in her late 60s, but she declined my advice. I then called a family meeting with my siblings, suggesting that instead of allowing our mother to travel, we should sponsor one of our younger sisters to go in her place. We all agreed, and even my eldest sister accepted that our fourth-born sister should travel instead. To my greatest surprise, my mother called me one day and told me she was already in the United States. I asked her to do a video call, and it was confirmed that she had already traveled. I was deeply pained, and we didn’t speak for some time. After five months, we expected her to return to Nigeria, but she didn’t. When we asked my elder sister, she kept saying, “She will come back next week.” But up till now, my mother is still living with them, while my father has been living alone all this while. My father just celebrated his 78th birthday last week. Later on, I discovered that many years ago, when we were younger, my father was posted from Lagos to Kaduna for work. My mother asked him that they should live together because she didn’t believe in long-distance marriage, but my father declined. After two years, he was transferred back to Lagos, and they continued living together until my mother traveled abroad. My father’s “offence” is that he did not allow her to join him in Kaduna at that time, and it seems she is now paying him back for it. Unfortunately, if my mother returns to Nigeria now, she may not be able to travel back to that country again because she has overstayed and violated their immigration rules. Up till this moment, my wife and I have been the ones taking care of my father. The travel arrangements were done without my knowledge because they knew I would not have agreed. Honestly, if not for God blessing me with a good wife, my father might have suffered greatly from loneliness by now.

If all of you are grown ups and no longer live with your parents. Then your mother comes to visit any of you either for omugwo or holidays. And she stays longer than necessary. Your mother is most likely punishing your father for something he did many years ago. End.

@properly01 @gabsonojo1 @jon_d_doe There's an issue in my neighborhood now. Two wives of a man abandoned him in a hospital bed to attend their grandson's birthday . The man just died. So all wives can gang up against their husband .... depends on the man treat them

@gabsonojo1 @jon_d_doe You can never see a man with more than one wife go through this nonsense. It’s always the “monogamous”

@kamaFever Somebody should resign from a medical career ? This is pure evil.

Me I won't blame or judge the husband for asking how to resign. Let us not lie, we know how busy and emotionally absent doctors can be because of their work. How do partners of Bankers and Doctors even cope?

@MAGA_licious_ @Joyoky1 But she does that when he has already checked out 😂

Men don't realize that a woman doesn't fall out of love because of another man; she falls out of love because of broken promises, lack of effort, poor communication, neglect, and a lack of empathy.

@kolawole60995 @BSAT_Properties He was still legally married to the first wife so she's still the head.

@BSAT_Properties The priest and church members known who the man constantly role with, who stood by him to his last breath & who they always come to church services together.

Today inside church, something dramatic happened. A family came for Thanksgiving after burying their husband/father last week Thursday. The man had two wives when he was alive but was only living with the second wife. He had issues with the first wife when he was alive that warranted them not living together, but she was still legally married to him. So, the drama started when the first wife and her children came out standing in front to present the thanksgiving gifts to the officiating priest, who was already standing and waiting for them. That was when the second wife and her own children rushed to the front with their own gifts to block the first wife and her children. Noise and commotion erupted everywhere. Some of the gifts they had for Thanksgiving got damaged in the process. It took the intervention of the priests, church wardens and some family friends to calm them down. I had never seen anything like this before. They threw blows at each other. The way they were exchanging words after church, I think the drama continued later at home. One of the baggage that comes with today's polygamy. The man left big problem unsolved before he died. © Ndubuisi Nicholas

@Oba_Agu002 @FrancaOmeruo @talk2veee May men be generous to your wife in such ways.

@FrancaOmeruo @talk2veee Men are generous and always want to care for other women but you women of these days are very selfish trying to keep a man all to yourself. How will that be possible?

She don dey talk small small.. Unless it’s a Movie Script. All the best to them 🙏🏽