jessica nicole

as an autistic person i feel like sometimes i have this sort of “whimsical innocence” that makes it feel like i can’t comprehend somebody being mean. like people doing hateful stuff just doesn't make sense, there's no logical reason for why somebody should be cruel. it puts me in logic loops that end up turning into full blown spiraling when someone actively chooses to be incredibly unkind

women mask autism so well it looks like emotional intelligence and then they burn out at 30 and nobody understands why

Do you have the “what the fck is wrong with me” adhd or the “what the fck is wrong with everyone else” autism

@JW_Evolution please

this is the super bowl to me

Meet Spinosaurus mirabilis. I got to see the material and skull reconstruction in the lab last year. Lots of people have been working hard on getting this described for quite some time and it's great to finally see it published.

A new Spinosaurus species uncovered in northern Niger appears to have been a wading predator of fish like its close relatives, but it lived as many as 1000 kilometers inland from the Tethys Sea. The fossil find may represent a third phase of evolution for this group of massive, fish-eating dinosaurs. Learn more this week in Science: scim.ag/4tOnxpY

Autistics don’t cheat. We literally don’t see other people. In a relationship, you are it. The rest of the population turns into background NPCs. Someone could be walking butt baked in front of us and we’d be like, oh okay, cool, & go about memorizing your coffee order from 2017. I think it’s because we don’t fall in love in the traditional sense. We conduct a full internal audit, compatibility matrix, long term sustainability forecast & emotional risk assessment. And once you pass? That’s it. You are chosen. Completely locked in to a lifetime membership. That’s why people say fumbling an autistic woman or man is the biggest fumble of your life & they’re not exaggerating. You didn’t just lose someone who liked you. You lost someone who studied you, understood you, built a whole internal world around you, and decided (with extreme seriousness) that you were it. We have never been casual about love. If we picked you it was intensely & absurdly deliberate. Everyone else could die in a zombie apocalypse and we’d just… keep being obsessed with you.

i don't know who needs to hear this but in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you created

“You’re so strict” Thanks, I’ve seen what happens to women who aren’t.

a man with 'quiet' anger has a loud silence. how when he walks into the house, every bit of laughter and happiness just goes quiet, how the kids get up as soon as possible to get away from him. how his wife just goes "hmmm, yeah, ur right" over and over when he talks just to appease him.

It's crazy how much abuse I can tolerate.

Fixating on someone who’s minding their own business, repeatedly forcing yourself into their personal space until they assert a boundary, then playing the victim and smear-campaigning them as the attacker is psychotic and deeply predatory behavior.

Avoidance looks cruel from the outside, but on the inside it’s usually: -conflict intolerance -shame -fear of being seen as “the bad person” -or an inability to tolerate emotional responsibility. Remember, avoidant attachment is ALSO insecure. That’s not an excuse, it’s an explanation. XO, Dr. Jen

Liars lie. What are you gonna do about it?

Whenever ppl tell me that Im lying about something , i always respond with “who are you for me to lie to?” ..because lie to you for what? Everyone doesn’t enjoy lying, Im not even a good liar and you can’t beat me up..

Thank god puppies sleep 20 hours a day.