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THE MONSTERS WE MADE
I used to complain about how entitled women had become how everything felt like a demand, how nothing was ever enough. But one day, I had to be honest with myself I helped create that problem.
I remember my ex clearly. When we started, she was simple, appreciative. The kind of woman who said “thank you” for the little things. But I didn’t like “little things.” I wanted to impress. I overdid everything expensive gifts, constant money transfers, solving problems she didn’t even ask me to solve. If she mentioned something once, I made it my duty to provide it twice.
At first, she resisted. “You don’t have to do all this,” she’d say.
But I insisted. I thought that’s what being “the man” meant.
Slowly, her expectations changed. The same things she once appreciated became normal. Then they became insufficient. If I didn’t do more, there was a problem. If I pulled back, I was “changing.”
I started feeling used but the truth hit me hard I set that standard.
I trained her to expect more than was necessary, then got frustrated when she did exactly that.
That’s when I realized: a lot of what we call “entitlement” didn’t just appear. It was built, reinforced, and rewarded by men like me who gave too much, too fast, without boundaries.
We complain about the outcome, but we ignore the role we played in creating it.
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