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i make (batik, embroidery, linocut, watercolour) art • she/her • unhinged
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engordar por ter transtorno mental é a pior coisa do mundo pq não é culpa sua ter engordado, mas todo mundo achou que é
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Ruby Barker, atriz de Bridgerton, mostra impactos físicos de seu transtorno bipolar, como o ganho de peso.
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More cats are being abandoned during the Hari Raya season, often left at markets or near restaurants as owners seek convenience or try to avoid boarding costs.
"Hari Raya is a time of compassion, and we hope Malaysians will extend that compassion to animals by treating their pets as part of the family," SAFM told FMT.
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pregnant women in high-stress jobs or home situations are statistically more likely to carry female fetuses to term because male fetuses are less likely to survive extreme stress, and if that isn’t nature’s subtweet, I don’t know what is. Even before birth, girls appear to be built to endure pressure, yet we still question whether women can handle high-stakes roles, boardrooms, operating rooms, CEO positions, or other seats of power. Gender inequality is rooted in patriarchy, not SCIENCE.
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Hit me with the harshest reality truth.
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@moong3nder happy chinese valentines new year black history ramadan mubarak day to everyone
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You figure this out the hard way, usually.
Not in a calm, notebook-at-a-cafe kind of way. More like standing in a kitchen at 23:58 with your heart in your throat thinking, why does talking to this person feel like emotional ping pong against a brick wall.
For years you think “emotionally available” means they let you cry on their shoulder. They answer the phone. They listen. They say the right soothing sentences. They are there when you are falling apart. So you check those boxes and declare, yeah, this person is safe.
Then real life starts to press.
Something small at first. You say “hey, lately I’ve been feeling a bit distant from you.” And you watch their whole nervous system panic in real time. Micro eye roll. Jaw clenched. Suddenly they are joking, deflecting, turning it into a bit. Or they get weirdly angry, like you accused them of a crime. Or they shut down, eyes going flat, saying “I don’t know what you want from me” while their whole body leans away.
You clock it as “they can’t handle my feelings.”
What you’re actually watching is a person who can’t handle their own.
Because your sentence didn’t just drop your emotion into the room. It woke up theirs. Guilt. Shame. Fear of failure. Fear of being the bad guy. Old stuff from childhood about never being enough, or always being blamed, or being yelled at when someone else was disappointed. All that rises like smoke, and instead of breathing it, they throw it back at you.
Emotional availability is not about who brings the tissues when you cry.
It is about what a person does when their own chest starts to burn.
Take the classic “we need to talk” moment. You sit on the couch, heart pounding, rehearsing your lines. You’re not trying to attack. You’re trying to connect. You say something like “when you disappear for days without texting, I feel really anxious, like I don’t matter to you.”
Now watch.
If they are unavailable to themselves, they will sprint away from whatever comes up inside them. They will say “I’ve just been busy” in that tone that means drop it. They will bring up one time you were slow to answer as a counterattack. They will make a joke out of your fear so they don’t have to feel their own discomfort. They might even start crying in a way that swivels the spotlight around, so now you’re comforting them for being “such a terrible partner.”
They are not actually with your feeling. They are fighting for their self-image.
Because to sit with you in that moment, they would first have to let their own stuff hit. The guilt of knowing they did pull back. The shame of not being as attentive as they want to believe they are. The fear that they are failing you. The grief of realizing they may not know how to do better yet. That is a lot. If they have zero practice staying with their own emotions, they will do anything to dodge that hit.
So they stonewall. They over-explain. They start a lecture. They shut down.
And you walk away thinking, maybe I’m too sensitive.
You’re not too sensitive. You are just bumping into someone who has a lifelong habit of abandoning themselves the second anything heavy shows up. Of course they abandon you too. It is the same reflex.
There is a reason people who are emotionally available to themselves are usually not the smoothest talkers.
They might stumble. They might say “I need a second, this is bringing up a lot.” They might go quiet and actually think. They might admit “hearing that makes me feel ashamed” and let that hang in the air. They might say “I want to stay with this even though part of me wants to run.”
That right there is availability.
Not perfect behavior. Not perfect regulation. Just the willingness to stay in the room with what they are feeling instead of throwing it on the floor or on you.
You see the difference most clearly in conflict.
Two people are fighting. Same argument as always. One says, “you never listen.” The other says, “you’re always criticizing me.”👇
rachel (is sending love and warmth your way)@rachelclif
something it took me 27 years to learn: emotional availability isn’t about a person being available for your feelings it’s about them being available for their own
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