Shai Schechter

I think my biggest take away from the way everyone is responding to this is a reminder that: your self image dictates how other people see you. If he just said “yeah i don’t really find little kids that stimulating. After about 15 minutes i get bored” literally no one would have cared because that’s how the vast majority of dads feel. But all the self attack and shame and loaded language in the post primed half the people to read it in a far more sinister way (“he hates his kids and can’t bear to spend more than 10 minutes with them!’”) and the other half to see an easy mark who already hates himself, so felt much more comfortable piling on with more criticism. The way you treat yourself is the way you’re asking others to treat you. They assume you know yourself better than they do so they trust your opinion. If you hate yourself, so will everyone else. If you respect yourself, so will everyone else.

it's about… why capable people are feeling more burnt out, disconnected, stuck in people-pleasing than ever the ways we strive to accomplish, achieve, act a certain way to be 'good enough' and what unfolds when we can let go of those conditions and own what we truly want