Kintsukuroi

Asé. My love transcends with you. I love you Breanna.

Me every time someone I don’t even know beats cancer

They put 17 people, married an average of 21 years, into a brain scanner and showed them a photo of their spouse. The same parts of the brain lit up that fire when a teenager has their first crush. Two decades together, and the chemistry was still going off like fireworks. The study ran at Stony Brook in 2011. What changes after 20 years is the anxiety. That panic of not knowing if they love you back, the wondering, the checking. All of that fades. The pull toward them stays. So that tells you what old love looks like in the brain. It doesn’t tell you how a couple gets there. A marriage researcher named John Gottman has spent 40 years on that question. He films couples arguing in his lab at the University of Washington and predicts whether they’ll divorce. He gets it right 93.6% of the time, from 15 minutes of footage. More than 3,000 couples now. He watches the two-second moments between sentences. The pauses. That’s where the prediction lives. The fights themselves matter less. His go-to example: your wife is staring out the window and says, look at that bird. You glance up and say, oh wow. Or you keep scrolling on your phone. That tiny choice, that little reach for your attention, is what he calls a bid. He watched newlyweds in his lab and followed them for six years. The couples who were still married had responded to each other’s bids 86 times out of 100. The couples who divorced had responded 33 out of 100. Same money fights. Same in-laws. Same dishes in the sink. The one thing that was different was the bird. This part stopped me. Gottman found that 69% of the things every couple fights about are problems that never get solved. The chores. The money. His mother. Whose family they spend Christmas with. The arguments repeat for 50 years. Happy couples and unhappy couples have roughly the same list of problems. The happy ones learned to argue about that list without contempt. The eye roll. The sigh. The little smile that says you are pathetic. Gottman calls contempt the sulfuric acid of relationships. He says it’s the single biggest sign that a marriage is over. When you see two old people asleep on each other on a plane, the forgiveness in that picture is real. They have absorbed thousands of small failures by now. There is something quieter underneath the forgiveness, though. Decades ago, one of them said look at that bird. The other one looked up.

The “Baby Mine” scene in Dumbo (1941) is still one of Disney’s most heartbreaking moments, Dumbo reaching for his mother through the bars while she rocks and comforts him the only way she can.

The reason why he's even "academically stupid" within the series is bc he wasn't properly taught jujutsu before being thrown right into the fray. The few times we have ppl properly explain shit to him? He catches on almost immediately. He isn't stupid, he's uneducated. Cont.

Michael Jackson would've gone hard as a JoJo antagonist

Ppl thinking EVERYONE is replaceable is def a social media downside

“the unfed mind devours itself” - gore vidal

This is the type of discourse the world needs more of fr

I was obsessed with bioluminescence as a child cause I loved the idea that the sea, just like the sky, was full of stars, too.

Stay flexible enough to receive. You have not met all the friends life has for you. You haven't touched or tasted all the abundance the world has for you.

Profound appreciation for the human mind, creativity runs unbridled.

Y’all them keyboarding classes we took in school really paid off 😭😭😭😭 I be typing my ass off til this day , eyes closed and all 😂😂

"If you don't fit into the crowd, it means your place is on the stage."

I once read somewhere that after an especially exhausting life,some souls choose to reincarnate as a tree spending a century just resting. I haven't looked at trees the same since then

in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you created.

how it feels to go in the bathroom when ur the right amount of tipsy at the bar

F*CK YES

saw someone i know randomly out in public, proceeded to text them a photo of them from behind with no further explanation , then got to revel in watching them frantically spin around trying to find me.

Me: *disables Google home microphone* Me: hey google Google: your microphone is currently disabled Me: