The notion that a man will treat the woman he “truly wants” right has done so much damage to young women’s discernment. It’s never been about this dream girl. It’s always been about men’s lack of character. You understand this, the less you internalize how they view/treat you.
getting pickier actually made me kinder tbh. hard to find reasons to be bitter + cold when you simply don’t entertain things that offend your character.
I just read something that said “ Having good friends keeps from you from dating out of boredom. A lot of people don’t need partners - they need a social life.” And YEAH!
loving yourself is so important, like real deep self love where you refuse to not implement what’s good for you. what’s gentle what’s patient what’s loving and kind.