Laura Rutledge

@Theholisticpsyc I idolized this enmeshment

Lorelai and Rory are the classic codependent mother and daughter. Rory is parentified by her emotionally immature parent. Lorelai uses her as her sole confidant (BFF), and there are no boundaries— Lorelai is over-involved in every aspect of her life. This shows up as: control, manipulation, and withholding. Lorelai projects her own dream of going to Harvard into Rory since childhood. When Rory applies to Yale, she sulks and leaves a dinner. Rory hides things from her for fear of how she’ll react. They never openly communicate and often give each other the silent treatment during conflict. Their dramatic relationship makes for an addictive show and leaves out the true pain, dysfunction, and shame that comes from codependent relationships.

From Marilynne Robinson: Love is holy because it is like grace--the worthiness of its object is never really what matters.

Prediction: the future of high-end product design and architecture will be highly informed by neuroscience and polyvagal theory

I'm reading a psychiatry textbook from 1975 and virtually all of the indicators of "sexual perversion" that are treated as a psychopathology (part of "borderline conditions") are the most normalized behaviors in modern-day porn and sex positive communities. So fascinating.

A Self Checkpoint: Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said by me now?

New #EMDR gadgets

@Adam_DelDuca Any thoughts on Authority Accelerator program?

I'm not thrilled w/ some of the things I did to try to manage my emotions in the past. Chances are you aren't, either. But-- we're not gonna time travel back & un-do 'em. Our capacity for change is here. Now. Today. This minute. Do the next right thing.

Getting TMS + EMDR = thorough 🙏 #traumarecovery

Complex trauma will miss NO opportunity to get you questioning your relationships or the reality of your experience. It LIVES for that sh*t. IYKYK. Remember: trauma is a MASTER impressionist, impersonating Obvious Reality at every turn. Do not click "Accept." It's malware.

Learning about P&ID and PEFS (?)

Your mind has made a hell of heav’n

Great thread

Being okay with being uncomfortable is a super power.

The character of Narcissus is the origin of the term narcissism, a fixation with oneself. This quality, in turn, defines narcissistic personality disorder, a condition marked by grandiosity, excessive need for admiration, and an inability to empathize.

Shame and creativity are opposites