JOSEPH LIFE

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“Describe Mumu”

A lot of civil servants make twice their monthly salary on this platform, Yet I will never advise you to stop your 9-5 job

The solution cannot be to keep paying ransomse. It’s a never ending cycle. Government would not care, kidnappers would be happy. Nothing would change. Yes. You’re encouraging more kidnapping . When are we hitting the streets. That’s the only solution atp

Am I the only one who doesn’t see anything wrong in what she did? Ooh, maybe I’m a realist and I don’t get beclouded by emotions. That man is a red flag because every other man knows you should be ahead of your woman in certain key areas. Financially and intellectually, she should be able to look up to you as her leader and mentor. Men naturally demand respect and submission. You cannot expect that from a woman who earns more than you, who may even be smarter, and who has a career edge over you. Look at how Veekee James, at every slight opportunity, lets the world know that she is the one paying the bills and not Femi. How many men would tolerate that? Money carries authority and command. It takes great effort for a woman to earn more than you and still remain submissive. As a man, I can never marry a woman who is financially better than me. If I am earning 250k, I will marry a woman who earns the same or less. Someone may ask what happens in marriage if she grows and eventually earns more than you. That is different. At least she grew under my leadership. I must have played a role in her growth, and that is still to my credit. Always ensure you are financially steps ahead of your woman. He who pays the piper, to a great extent, dictates the tune. On the lady’s part, women are hypergamous by nature. She was honest with herself. When it comes to marriage and relationship decisions, women can be ruthless, as they should be. This kind of salary arrangement often leads to a 50/50 dynamic, or it results in issues such as her constantly explaining financial decisions or being pressured to support him financially. She knows the man more than we “online in-laws” do. Who knows how financially reckless he might be? He could be the type who constantly monitors a woman’s finances. As the higher earner, no matter how we sugarcoat it, even if the man insists on running the home with his modest salary, given the economic realities of the country, she will still carry a heavy financial burden. Many women do not want that. I like to be honest and blunt with myself. If this scenario involved my daughter or sister, would I encourage her to marry a man who is less financially stable than she is at the start of the marriage? Absolutely not. In the future, many of us will become fathers, and you will understand. When you visit prospective in-laws to say you want to marry their daughter, the first question is, “What do you do for a living?” Then imagine discovering that your daughter earns more than her husband-to-be. Ask yourself honestly whether you would still encourage that marriage.

While others are drinking Hypo, I was busy in my kitchen 😎 Na why my money dey always finish for weekend 😂