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@realEstateTrent Try covering the window with a blanket or something. My son used to be like that, particularly when he was with rear facing seat.

OK, so today we realized that our daughter throws up during long car rides. Who can relate, and what do you do?

@realEstateTrent I had a recent discussion about paying taxes on trading gains and somehow my advisor was warning me of taxes... I'm trying to check if I'm just stupid or something is missing but isn't it in my interest to actually hope for higher taxes that come from higher gains???

There are people who are so triggered by taxes that wouldn’t take $1M because of the taxes they’d need to pay.

@morebutter Assist the goal yo!

We haven't talked enough about how bad Declan Rice has been this season.

@xwanyex I take on average 10 photos of my son daily...

When I was a kid, I never really understood carrying around pictures of your kids in your wallet. Was that just to show off your kids to other people? No, of course not. Parents get immense joy from images of their children. Another thing that obvious to parents and not so much to non-parents.

@realEstateTrent Whoever Google recommends as a good lottery lawyer.

You find out you've won the lottery. Who's the first person you call?

@realEstateTrent We had ours yesterday in SoHo. Spent 5 hours riding subways and ending the night walking from Little Island up High Line to Hudson Yards.

This is so much different than how I pictured myself raising kids, and I’m absolutely loving it.

@newyorkcitykopp It's been so so long since I last ate at Freeman's!!

@Frediculous Folks don't understand comparative advantage. We agree on dates and locations together. I plan the flights, my wife plans the hotels.

@realEstateTrent Gmail has a reaction feature. Same with Outlook.

Would love the option to simply like an email

@Osi_Suave Now I need to experience the Spa part. Hopefully it’s as good as my marriage 🤣🤣🤣

My wife is away for work, and I am utterly adrift without her. Nights feel longer. The silence is heavier. I find it hard to sleep without her beside me, her breathing, her warmth, the quiet gravity of her presence. Day by day, we’ve woven ourselves into each other’s rhythm thread by thread until I can no longer tell where I end, and she begins. There’s no one to watch shows with, pausing to laugh or comment on a character’s foolishness. No one to share a meal with, not just the food, but the feeling of being known while eating. Sometimes, we just sit in silence, doing our individual tasks, but in that silence, I feel safe, loved and understood. Marriage, when done right, isn’t a prison. It’s a greenhouse. You grow in it upward, outward. You bloom. I only wish I’d married her sooner. Every act of sacrifice I make for her big or small is done not out of duty but devotion. Because she has brought such rich, radiant meaning to my life. I remember coming home exhausted one night and falling asleep on the couch. I woke up with my shoes off, a blanket tucked around me and somehow, that moment told me everything I needed to know about love. Marriage, when in sync with the right person, is like downshifting from gear 8 to gear 3 as you approach the Bus Stop chicane at Spa-Francorchamps. You’re flying at 300 kph, the engine screaming, the world a blur, and then 8. 7. 6. 5.4.3. Your brain compresses time. Your left foot dances. Your fingers are poised. Your soul smiles. Each downshift lands like a heartbeat, perfectly in time. The engine brake sings a beautiful symphony of pressure and grace. The gearbox spits and crackles like applause in a cathedral. The car shudders not in fear but in response. It’s alive. And you are dancing with it. As you trail-brake into the corner, the rear end flickers just enough to remind you that you're mortal, but you're calm. Gear 3 locks in. The car rotates like it’s thinking with you, not against you. You glide over the curb, short-shift to 4th, and rocket out of the apex with purpose. That’s what marriage is. When it works, it’s not chaos. It’s control. It’s not noise. It’s harmony. It’s not slowing down, it’s finding the right gear to move forward together.

@BowTiedBroke Just spent a week there last week. You need to be strategic with the fast passes. There's no way I am waiting more than 30 minutes for any other ride though. You have to enjoy the atmosphere there or just roaming around taking pics.

@tedfrank I also think that people attribute increases in expenses to external factors out of their personal control, but treat the rise in their incomes because of their efforts; rarely do people connect that incomes and expenses (cost of living) are related.

I did not realize when I was younger how much inflation would affect me as I aged. When you first start shopping, renting, and buying things in your twenties, it establishes a permanent baseline in your mind. A twelve-pack is $3. A relatively new 3-bedroom condo on top of the Orange Line is $480,000. A new starter car is $10,000 and an upscale one is $30,000. Movies are $5-$8. A date at a nice restaurant is $40 with tax and tip. A fast food burrito is $2. An expensive college is $20,000/year. A hotel in Manhattan is a $200/night splurge. When the price of all those things doubles and triples as you get older, you feel sticker shock every day. And I’m like 99th percentile in math and economics and understand cognitive framing issues and discount rates and real vs nominal and the rule of 72 and that I give my employees COLA raises, yet I get hit with that irrational emotion all the time. (I have to pretend I’m in a foreign country and mentally divide every price by two to get from Biden dollars to Bush dollars.) I can’t imagine how someone with neither that education nor those intuitive math skills copes.

@realEstateTrent Many talking points about NYC are from people who don't want or like the city life. I get that... The stories I read of NYC of old were scary; my experience living there, quite different. I have moved out for now, but probably return once I no longer need a house and yard.

I’ve been living in New York City for over four years now. Yes, it’s expensive, taxes are high, and there are some interesting characters walking around. Those are some of the costs. Here’s what we get: Access to the best restaurants in America, no matter what type of food you’re in the mood for. Everything our family needs is just a short walk away. You constantly get to see friends in person, as they’re always passing through. Some of the best public and private schools in America. The network you build here, just by going about your day-to-day life, is incredible. You run into some of the most interesting people doing the most amazing things at the highest level. Access to the best doctors in the world. The career opportunities here are immense, no matter what you do. Central Park – my go-to spot – never gets old. If you’re a shopper, there’s nowhere better in America. If you’re an entrepreneur, this city forces you to think bigger on a daily basis. Broadway, sports, concerts, comedy – the highest level of entertainment, right in your backyard. The subway. Yes, the subway – and yes, millions of normal people take it every day – gets you around this place like a time machine. It’s a wonderful place to raise kids. Every kids' activity you can think of is just blocks away. Our son loves the Natural History Museum, and endless playdates are available either in our building or within a three-minute walk. Maybe all those folks who can afford to live anywhere in the world but choose to raise their families here aren’t so crazy after all. It’s had and always will have its ups and downs - long NYC 🙏

@morebutter Why you coming for my guy!

Spoken like a true coward.

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This is a short note on my experience as an immigrant and new American. The timeline is this: - 2002: moved from India to attend Grinnell College, Iowa - 2006: started PhD in computer science at Brown University, Rhode Island - 2012: started as a postdoc scholar at Cornell University, New York - 2013: started as a professor of computer science at University of Massachusetts Amherst - 2015: received a “Green Card” - 2020: became a naturalized American citizen Choosing to be a professor is not the most lucrative path for a PhD-holding computer scientist. In seven years at UMass Amherst, my faculty salary never reached the initial offer I received from Google when I completed my PhD. However, I vividly remember how I thought through my options in 2012. I estimated that U.S. taxpayers had spent roughly $400,000 on my tuition and stipend during my PhD. In Iowa, I had experienced extraordinary warmth and kindness from everyone—faculty and American students, but also ordinary people without any affiliation to the college. I felt I owed something back to the country, and so I decided to give back in the best way that I could—which is to teach computer science. I was also delighted to be able to do this at a rural state school. As a new professor, I continued being grateful for the support I received from the National Science Foundation for my research. That money was used to start the careers of students who are now in deeply technical roles at Roblox, Microsoft, Meta, Cursor, and other places. I’m delighted that some of my current students are working closely with the National Labs to advance national interests, or going on to teach computer science themselves. At this point in time, many computer science faculty are on leave from their university positions, doing high-impact work in companies. I recently spent two years as a consultant at Roblox, where I worked on large language models. Roblox is a wonderful place to work with lots of deep technical problems. However, I left that role because I needed to put more time into teaching. I felt that it was my duty to figure out how to teach undergraduate students what I had learned from my research on LLMs. Distilling contemporary research into undergraduate courses takes time. To sum up, my experience as an immigrant and a new American has been very positive. The kindness and generosity that I experienced over the years had the most natural effect—I consider myself a patriot. I serve the nation the best way that I can, which is to teach computer science and build up our technical talent. I intend to keep doing this—it’s not a debt I can repay—and there is no question of me stopping just because my work has recently become a bit harder. So, it makes me sad that the current generation of international students are less likely to have the experience that I did. A university can only admit students based on merit. It is up to the U.S. government to make national security decisions about who to admit to the country. But, please use a scalpel. Putting every student on notice makes the relationship between foreign students and the U.S. entirely transactional. We should instead be trying to create new Americans who are able and willing to give back more than they get, and our higher education system is exceptionally good at this.

@morebutter Deserves to be booed for blanking! Maybe they TCed him.

You're losing 2-0 and down to 10 AND you're booing Saka for being on the receiving end of a bad tackle? Enjoy relegation.

@realEstateTrent Outsource as much as you can - we had washer dryer in our apartment which was used only for the kid’s clothes. I just drop off my bag of laundry for pickup wash and fold. Same for my wife. See where you can find time back for you, but don’t expect more than 2 hours a night.

Been chatting with my wife about an issue I want to solve, but am a bit stumped -- so thought I would ask the question here, and maybe get some ideas: We both work full-time, and have two young kids at home. Our nanny leaves at 5pm, and then I get home a bit after that. We play with the kids for about an hour (while my wife makes them dinner), have dinner, and then we each give one of them a bath, and help put them to bed. By then it's around 7pm, we're both completely exhausted. We would like nothing more than to enjoy some downtime the rest of the night after a long day, but the work is just beginning. The kitchen and dining areas are now a mess from dinner, the dishes need to be done, and food needs to be prepared for the kids for the next day. By the time all of it is done, it's after 9pm, we are beyond exhausted, and the day is essentially over. We have a cleaner that comes to the house twice a week, but of course wraps up well before 6pm. What do other people do to solve this issue? How do you win back your free time after the kids go do bed, without leaving a mess overnight and ensuring they have food ready for the next day?

@realEstateTrent Can the nanny do bath time, around 4/4:30? I know dinner is messy but wiping them down is quicker than bath time. Food prep, you may wish to consider bulk preparation too; I was the primary cook and I’d portion out meal prep for a few days at a time. Don’t sweat about the mess.

@katyperry Welcome home!

there is no place like home 🌎♥️