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@thotsminning
amateur low level sociologist, amateur linguist {insert social construct here}-abolitionist zoomer i studied statistics and i will appeal to my authority, sir
We hosted SF's only co-ed mixer with more women than men. 45 women, 35 men, and 4 relationships I personally know came out of it. And I'm the guy who went viral for staying "single until series B." Here's the storytime: One random Sunday I tweeted that there should be a singles mixer for YC and a16z speedrun founders. The shitpost hit top news on X. Consensus: "no women will sign up." Instead, dozens of women DMed me: "please make it happen, just keep the ratio right." @dianeemccormack from Fondo offered to run it. @peggy_wang from SparkChat & @parthma said they're single and in. While we planned, I went viral again with my bro @contextconor for joking I'd stay "single until series B." @gregisenberg called it the single worst trend to come out of silicon valley. People called me "everything wrong with SF," said incels were killing the city's dating culture (fun fact: it doesn't exist). So now I was the "single until series B" guy throwing SF's biggest singles mixer. The irony was not lost on me. But a million views, thousands of DMs, and hundreds on the waitlist were counting on me. @pulley signed on to sponsor. So I leaned in. I asked @peggy_wang to be the face of it, dunking on the techbros: sign up so you don't end up like me, single until series B. I was guiding people to a treasure I couldn't possess. And it worked. Best event I've ever hosted. Curated people from every walk of life, not just YC founders, actually hit it off. The girls' group chat is still popping lol. Moral: you can have your cake and eat it too. It's just harder. You can stay "single until series B" and still help everyone else find their person. As @gregisenberg put it in his tweet calling us out: you can have it all. (all love, I like his work) This is independent of my startup @KoyalAI, which helps people make films with AI. Yes, also controversial. I can't help it.
The original post about the SF dating event was cringe (yet innocent!). The reactions to it, though, are becoming a pattern. See the attached image. I think we’re facing a cultural assimilation problem that remains largely invisible because these groups do well financially and are otherwise prosocial. Because of this, I worry that East and South Asians have become the face of misplaced anger toward “coastal elites.” If you live in these circles you might not see it, but a lot of Americans will have a hard time accepting 2nd-gen East/South Asian immigrants as the new professional class. Merit doesn’t matter to many of these people because they read much of "striver" culture as crass therefore undeserving status. And on top of that, they’re seen as “stealing” a birthright from downwardly mobile heritage Americans.
The original post about the SF dating event was cringe (yet innocent!). The reactions to it, though, are becoming a pattern. See the attached image. I think we’re facing a cultural assimilation problem that remains largely invisible because these groups do well financially and are otherwise prosocial. Because of this, I worry that East and South Asians have become the face of misplaced anger toward “coastal elites.” If you live in these circles you might not see it, but a lot of Americans will have a hard time accepting 2nd-gen East/South Asian immigrants as the new professional class. Merit doesn’t matter to many of these people because they read much of "striver" culture as crass therefore undeserving status. And on top of that, they’re seen as “stealing” a birthright from downwardly mobile heritage Americans.
