Mercy Mueni

The most underpaid skill on earth: being easy to deal with. Not talented. Not brilliant. Just pleasant, reliable, and low-drama. In every industry I've seen, that person gets the call back. Every time.

People really hate when you don’t follow their system of social hierarchies and treat everyone equally 🤣

I hate yelling. I hate getting out of character. I hate arguing. I hate being mad. I hate everything that makes me negative.

I don’t think there’s any trait I hate more than someone not keeping their word. It drives me crazy, it makes me angry, it makes me spiteful,resentful, and worse if the said person comes and tries to gaslight me ati they didn’t say it. That’s how you lose me,as a friend,a lover…I’ll be gone without an explanation! Gone!

Millennials huwa na shida ganii? I pull up to work with a new phone,and the whole day you're just in my space ukiniuliza natoa wapii pesa smh. Like si kila mtu analipwa hapa or?

If you love someone remove them from the pedestal which imprisons them and denies the fullness of their humanity. Allow them to be imperfect and assure them that their so called imperfection is also a reflection of the divine.

Just because you understand someone's behavior, or why they are the way that they are, does not mean you have to put up with it. No amount of empathy or understanding should ever come before your wellness, especially if their behavior hurts you or makes you uncomfortable.

Don’t even let anyone gaslight you into thinking intellectual mismatch is not a thing in romantic relationships. It's not even about formal degrees or booksmarts. It shows up in things like curiousity, conversational depth, imagination, openness, and worldviews.

I hate when people disregard things that you do for them because they are not tangible. I have brought color to peoples lives, showed them new experiences, made them want better for themselves, been a friend to them, inspired them, brought constant laughter, showed them the importance of community, been a listening ear and the list goes on and on. It’s important to not let people downplay the value you bring just because they can’t physically touch it.

Being genuine will break your heart more times than you can count. You move through life with an open hand, thinking everyone else was raised on the same loyalty, the same honesty, the same “I got you” code. But then reality hits: people aren’t built like you. They don’t love as hard, care as deep, or stay as real. And that realization? It’s one of the loneliest disappointments you’ll ever feel

Anyone who automatically believes rumors about you has always had the intent to misunderstand/dislike you.

Some people in your life have never seen you at full capacity. They met you in a hard season, a transitional moment, a version of you still being built. Don’t let their limited experience of you become your ceiling. You are more than the chapter they witnessed.

im a little strict and come with structure. i cant tell you what to do but i can tell you what you’re not going to do with me.

You will get yourself most of the things you want a man to get you. Instead of manifesting a man who gives you those things, manifest being a woman who can afford those things you wish for. On social media, it's so easy to feel bad when you see girls listing how much a man gives them or what a man got them. The truth though is that those women who get men who give them money and outrageously expensive gifts are outliers. They are not the norm. You are most likely to be flown out courtesy of your work and brilliance more than you are by a man. There are endless conferences and workshops and if you lock in properly, you will find yourself with a fully stamped passport. Most of the women you see driving cars out here are not driving them courtesy of a man. They simply saved up, took loans, and bought themselves one. You can do the same. Men are not born with two heads and neither are they born with six hands. They are as human as you are and a majority are struggling as much as you are. It's beautiful if you find one who will give you everything you wish for. However, finding one who will give you everything you wish for is just a question of luck. And luck is not something you plan your life around. You can only plan your life around the work of your hands. It's also important to remember men take away gifts all the time. If you buy your own, no one is over going to send people to collect his stuff or his car along Mombasa road simply because you broke up. It will be yours. There's no greater joy in life than being able to afford the things you used to manifest. Believe in yourself as much as you believe in the generosity of men. -La’Patrona

I think yall sometimes forget that it's okay to change your mind about wanting someone once you get to know them lol

i think very highly of myself, not out of ego but because of growth. i know exactly what it took for me to become me.

something tht has really helped me this yr was straight up telling people that they “arent tht busy” and not “busier than me” when they try to bs me about making plans. i dnt have the patience to pretend tht u are so busy tht u cant find one day in 30-31 to go out to eat

I keep my distance from people who refuse to examine themselves. Accountability isn't optional for real connection. If honesty is something you avoid internally, it won't exist between us either.

empathy burnout is so real, i’m tired of understanding people.

Having solid friends matters. I don't mean the ones who just hype your pics or drop heart emojis. I'm talking about the people who show up when things get awkward, heavy, and uncomfortable. The friends who don't disappear when life gets messy, who sit with you through the rough moments, tell you the truth, and stay even when it's not fun or convenient. That's real friendship.