@lauraradley @GreatLakesWife_ Plus another 7-9 days for implantation. Pre-implantation the baby exists but you aren't technically pregnant.
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Charity
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@GreatLakesWife_ Plus, even a 40 week pregnancy is actually 38 weeks of pregnancy. The first two weeks are pre-ovulation. I gave birth a few days before my 40 weeks due date, and I was pregnant for 8.5 calendar months.
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I can’t be friends with people who think a 40 week pregnancy is 10 months long
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Porn is just consensual videos of people having sex, today, 98% of the time, and has no deeper meaning.
You guys are weird and repressed. It's beginning to bother me.
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@dovidfeldman lol no thanks I’ll take a husband who’s actually a competent lover
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@cherpers Sad to hear you say that.
Worked with 1000s of women, who, after focusing on what their hubby was doing right (10-100 things he does, everyday), got their juices flowing!
Good luck to you!
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Sex is like food for our marriage.
In truth, we don't eat food because:
❌ It tastes good
❌ We desire it
❌ We feel like it
❌ It looks good
❌ I'm in the mood
But rather, because ultimately, if we don't have food, we will die.
So too, your marriage. 🙏💚
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@dovidfeldman No sir female desire is responsive even when it’s healthy. It’s not male desire. It requires things. This is a biological reality.
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The only person responsible for your desire is you. Marriage isn't a dog-and-pony show where we jump through hoops to get our spouses to show up.
If you are having desire and intimacy issues, I encourage you to get help and fix them.
Here's a tip:
Walk into any therapist's office, and say, "I have a loving and amazing husband. Here are the 10-100 things he does for me, many of which he does every day. But I'm struggling in this area. Can you help?"
Guaranteed that your desire will skyrocket!
Here's a podcast that can help:
iheart.com/podcast/270-bu…
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I depends on the mom’s personality and that’s okay too. Having people around me right after birth doesn’t bother me a bit. I’m not self conscience at all so it’s easy for me and I enjoy it. But tons of moms are or will be in that really intense period after birth. Or have stress for other reasons. It’s some of our most vulnerable times and we should not be expected to be at our best or be accommodating like we usually would be.
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Women: right after pushing a baby out of my body while I'm bleeding and struggling to walk, I'm not interested in having guests see me in that state so they will have to wait a few days to meet the fresh baby. My mom will be a support person for me the way women have supported their daughters through childbirth since the beginning of time.
Batshit Crazy Brittany: so you're saying you hate your husband.
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My best pregnancy was my 4th in 4 years (not on purpose lol) so I looked into the data and the risks of close spaced pregnancies were based on women in undeveloped countries with food insecurity. In developed countries the risk is insignificant and actually some show slightly better outcomes for pregnancies less than 2yrs apart
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@cybelethebest @CuriousBunnie12 Yeah it’s retarded. Women need at least two years to heal and recover and remineralize their bodies (and that’s assuming the woman in question quits nursing pretty early). This whole “pregnant and nursing for X amount of years continuously” is bullshit.
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RW twitter health advice is for women is to have 8 babies in close succession but also be sure to prioritize luxuriating in bed and leisuremaxxing.
Carnivore Aurelius ©🥩 ☀️🦙@AlpacaAurelius
ladies, you need to be progestrerone maxxxxing progesterone is basically female testosterone, the most healing hormone for women
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@jane_autism @cybelethebest @CuriousBunnie12 @grok do women in developed countries with good nutrition have worse outcomes with pregnancies less than 2 years apart?
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@newsom_maryann @randplaty @GiaMMacool At the very least he was a competent lover then which kinda supports my point. He apparently had spades of confidence and generosity in the bedroom even if he lacked safety relationally. So he had a bunch of what we’re talking about. He wasn’t needy and whining for duty sex.
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@cherpers @randplaty @GiaMMacool I don’t have the stats to say whether it’s a minority or not.
What I can say is that I had a friend who was in a straight-up toxic relationship, yet she was completely hooked on the guy.
And honestly, there’s only one way to say it: he had her dickmatized.
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It’s hilarious how women who actually enjoy sex get branded “hoes” by the same bitter wives who haven’t given their husband a proper blowjob since 2019.
Ma’am, the real slut is the one letting her man starve while she gatekeeps the bedroom.
Projection is one hell of a drug. 😂
Brent LaJeunesse 💯@brentlajeunesse
@GiaMMacool My wife always tells her friends, take care of you man, because there is a bitch out there with a sammich and a BJ.
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@newsom_maryann @randplaty @GiaMMacool Perhaps but it’s the significant minority and typically a sign of something unhealthy in their sexuality.
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@cherpers @randplaty @GiaMMacool Again, you are correct, but not 100% correct.
There are women in unhealthy relationships who still experience strong sexual desire for their mate.
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Even if a spouse has 10 ways they love, if there’s something broken that affects the sexual relationship that can be enough for a woman to shut down. If he’s loving in 10 other ways but selfish in the bedroom, the 10 other ways won’t matter. If he has 10 ways but can’t flirt with his wife then the 10 ways won’t matter. You can’t force female desire. It has to be carefully fostered.
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@cherpers If a spouse can't peel off 10 reasons and examples of how their better half loves them, they need help.
If this is you, you can start here, with the "I Have an Amazing Hubby" worksheet:
dovidfeldman.com/wp-content/upl…
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@newsom_maryann @randplaty @GiaMMacool True but that’s how it works in long term relationships. Sometimes novelty and the initial attraction does allow for attraction to be high without those things but in long term relationships safety attunement and competence are absolutely impactful.
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You’re not wrong on this, but you’re also not 100% right.
Female desire is complex. For some women, the safety piece is going to weigh a lot more than it does for others.
I don’t think women who have had sex with a guy they barely know assessed him to see if he would stick around.
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@randplaty @newsom_maryann @GiaMMacool That can be true initially but not over long term relationships
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@cherpers @newsom_maryann @GiaMMacool See Meredith Chivers or Morta Meana’s research on female desire or even Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity. Women have intense desire for men that they don’t even know much less are safe and emotionally attuned.
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This question is great for the men but what is the question for the ladies? The question is..do you find this man attractive enough to proactively and genuinely want to have sex with him 2-3x/week for life?
Chris Williamson@ChrisWillx
Nietzsche’s advice on marriage. “Marriage as a long conversation. When entering a marriage, one should ask the question: do you think you will be able to have good conversations with this woman right into old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but most of the time in interaction is spent in conversation.”
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@randplaty @newsom_maryann @GiaMMacool Nope simply untrue. Female desire scans for safety and attunement. It’s biological. We need a partner we can trust to take care of us through a pregnancy and child rearing. If he shows signs of selfishness or incompetence we can shut down sexually even if we don’t want to.
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@cherpers @newsom_maryann @GiaMMacool Every person has power to foster genuine desire. But people don’t usually know how, that’s the problem. It’s starts with building cultural values. If every woman bragged to their friends how she was having sex with her husband and how good it was, this is a first step.
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@treeline12k @GiaMMacool Yes David sexually men do have to do more of the work. That’s a physical fact.
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@cherpers @GiaMMacool Selfish. You have agency, but expect him to do all the work.
You have an evil notion of the sacred covenant of marriage and will find any excuse to rationalize abusing your husband.
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That’s assuming bad intent. It’s more like “when I’m not loved well sex makes me feel used and doesn’t feel good” and “when I’m loved well sex is good and exciting”. Your version is very transactional “I need sex in order to love you.” “After you give me sex I’ll love you more but you have to earn it by giving me physical pleasure” that version is icky.
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I'm sure I'm misunderstanding you, because this almost sounds like using sex as a weapon:
"When you are a good boy, and I feel love, you get sex. When you are a bad boy, and I don't feel love, you don't."
"If you behave yourself and make me happy, we can have sex. If you don't, then no."
Like I said, I'm confident I've misunderstood.
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@wil_da_beast630 Denying your partner love is not always abuse but it is unhealthy. If things are broken enough on one or both ends then certainly some forms of affection will be off the table for a while. Love is unconditional. Closeness is not.
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Is denying your partner sex, or other forms of affection - coldly canceling "massage and movie night for her," as a man - a mild, real form of abuse?
Adam Lane Smith | The Attachment Specialist@AdamLaneSmith
Starving your husband biochemically while expecting him to stay monogamous is a form of abuse in a marriage. Agree or disagree?
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Charity retweetledi
The red pill’s criticisms of women are largely correct.
Feminism’s criticisms of men are largely correct.
It’s their victim minded solutions that are the problem.
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