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what stays in your life without force is yours by dharma & whatever leaves despite all efforts came only to teach you a lesson.

Don't confess your love for them. That makes it about you. Show your love for them. Do things for them. Prove it to them. But, don't make it about you, this is key. Many men will show their devotion in a way that is manipulative, seeking to create a debt. No, no, no. In the age of swiping and flesh commerce, elevate the conversation. Be available, be interested, even be honest about your feelings, but observe boundaries and ask for nothing. Better even not to talk, as words mean nothing. Do things. Not big gestures, but consistent tokens and acts of love. It can be as simple as, "I enjoyed this book and thought you might like it."

The research behind this is wild. Your face as a kid shaped how teachers treated you, how many friends you made, how much practice you got being social, and even how much money you earn right now. It starts before you can crawl. Babies just hours old already prefer attractive faces. Researchers at the University of Exeter showed newborns (average age: 2 days) pairs of faces and tracked which ones they stared at longer. The babies consistently picked the faces adults rated as good-looking. The sorting starts on day one. Teachers do it too. In a 1973 study, they were given identical student profiles with different photos attached. The teachers rated the good-looking kids as having more academic potential, paid them more attention in class, and gave more detailed help when they struggled. Same kid on paper, different face, completely different treatment. This creates a loop that psychologists have studied for decades. When people expect you to be friendly and capable, they act warmer toward you, and because they're warm, you actually become more social in return. Researchers at the University of Minnesota proved this in 1977 with a phone experiment. Men were shown a fake photo before a call (not the actual woman on the line). The ones who thought she was attractive were friendlier. And the women on the other end, who knew nothing about any photo, became more outgoing in response. The expectation changed real behavior in real time. Now picture this running on repeat for an entire childhood. The good-looking kid gets picked for group projects, invited to birthday parties, gets smiles from strangers at the grocery store. Each of those is a rep. Social skills work like a muscle, and you get better by doing them over and over. The kid who got fewer invitations and fewer smiles fell behind for a simple reason: less practice. The University of Texas pulled together 919 studies on attractiveness and found the same four things every time: people across cultures agree on who is good-looking, those kids get judged more favorably, they get treated better by the adults around them, and they end up with stronger social skills. Once the loop starts, it feeds itself. It carries into your paycheck. Economists at UT Austin found that workers rated below average in looks earn 5 to 10% less per hour than average-looking coworkers, even when education and experience are the same. Over a 40-year career, that penalty alone runs into six figures. A 2026 study in Personality and Individual Differences tracked kids rated for their looks at ages 7 and 11, then checked back at age 50. The ones rated attractive in childhood still had better social skills four decades later. So yeah, this tweet is more right than wrong. But the real driver is practice. Being less attractive as a kid meant fewer people reaching out to you, fewer good interactions, fewer chances to build the muscle. You didn't lack a social gene. You got fewer at-bats.

One day

(talking to someone i desperately want to spend time with) well we could go outside together if you want

"A man with no money and a woman with no beauty see the world without illusions."

It is written (Qadr)

A woman’s physical attraction to a man is directly tied to his competence, not just his looks. You can be the most handsome, wealthy guy in the room, but if a woman has to constantly manage your life, remind you to do basic tasks, or play the role of your mother, her romantic and sexual attraction to you will completely evaporate. Women don't actually want to be the "boss" of the relationship; they just want a man who is capable enough to finally let them rest. The fastest way to dry up a woman's affection is to make her manage you.

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Iranian women from Bakhtiari tribe shooting on horseback

"In my castle, I can do whatever I want" Kitchen for Singles (2022) dir. Hiroki Sugiyama

when I found an autistic man like myself

i hate him & i hope he pays for what he did to me & always stays a miserable loser. how he freaking didn't think that i deserved an explanation, any acknowledgment, any heads-up when i literally begged him to let me be there for him. how one day he woke up and he decided that -

i have gotten through terrible moments of my life in friendships, family, academics, past heart-breaks with so much courage. i never gave up. but this time it hurts bad in a way it engulfs all my light, because i really thought i had love. because i was really happy.

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oh u have flaws? watch me love you anyway Loser