Dr Sian Rowsell PhD

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@kingsmac locked in the sports centre. Please would someone come and let us out thanks!

Like many others, we’ve lost a lot of followers this week. If you are a UK resident who believes in a health service that is free at the point of use, please give us a follow and share this message. We cannot let the bullies win.

“Illness is neither an indulgence for which people have to pay. Nor an offence for which they should be penalised. But a misfortune, the cost of which should be shared by the community.”

Women’s Aid stands in solidarity with Gisèle Pelicot and commends her immense bravery to speak out against her abusers and seek justice. Gisèle has demonstrated remarkable courage which will undoubtedly pave the way for other survivors who have been silenced.

Gisele Pelicot takes stand at French mass rape trial with message for survivors: "It’s not for us to have shame - it’s for them" bbc.in/4fi94dN

@GPBinNL Love it!

Abuse victims will often minimize what they are experiencing as a way to cope with their reality. 💔 We tell ourselves it’s ‘not that bad’ and ‘others have it worse’. We convince ourselves that if we just try a bit harder or make a few adjustments, it will all be fine. The media adds to our denial – we read about the most horrific cases, and we tell ourselves, ‘At least my partner doesn’t do that!’ After consistent mistreatment we also forget what a loving relationship looks like - the abuse has become our new ‘normal’. 😔 As a result of our partner’s manipulation and our own rationalizations, we truly do not realize we are being abused or how bad it really is. Sometimes, it is only when we start to open up to others and notice their looks of shock and concern when we talk about our experiences that we begin to understand the gravity of what we’ve been enduring. Finding our voice and speaking up, even if it’s just to one trusted person, can be the first step to reclaiming our lives. Freedom starts with awareness. #EndAbuse #BreakTheSilence #SpeakUp #YouAreNotAlone

After I left my abusive husband and started speaking about the coercive control, I was often asked, 'Why didn't you just say 'No' to him and stand up for yourself?' Saying ‘No’ to my ex-husband would result in hours, days, or even months of bombardment, harassment, put downs, accusations, belittlement, intimidation, or threats, until I’d usually concede. Most of the time, it wasn’t worth the psychological torment to say No to something he wanted. 😩 In an abusive relationship, it is NEVER as simple as saying No. #emotionalabuse #manipulation #CoerciveControl

Domestic abuse is not only what the abuser does to you, it is also what you are not allowed to do for yourself. #coercivecontrol

Victims don't stay in an abusive relationship because they are weak. They stay when they fear, often rightly so, that the consequences of leaving will be worse than the consequences of staying. That is a very hard place to be in. #domesticabuseawareness

Abusers spread lies and false narratives about their former partner to preserve their image and continue their manipulation. Remember, no one is a worse source of truth about a woman than the person who mistreated her. #postseparationabuse #coercivecontrol #manipulation

My abusive husband never directly dictated my decisions, but somehow, I always ended up doing exactly what he wanted. This is the subtle power of coercive control. ⚠️ During Covid lockdown, he decided he wanted to plan a summer holiday abroad. Despite travel being banned at the time, he concocted a scheme involving a medical appointment to exploit a loophole. I didn’t want to go. I was afraid of the consequences if his plan went wrong, especially with the Covid rules and border closures changing constantly. So, I said no. That’s when his verbal onslaught started. 🗣️ “You just want to live in fear, don’t you?” he spat out. “You want to be a sheep like everyone else, following the rules like a good little girl.” He began to harass me relentlessly, day in and day out, bombarding me with insults, belittling remarks, and sending me links to articles about resisting ‘government dictatorship.’ He positioned himself as the victim, claiming he was getting depressed and that he would “lose it” if he had to stay in our country over the summer. He used his physical health as leverage, insisting he needed to be in a warmer climate because of recurring infections. “If you don’t agree, you are absolutely selfish and don’t care about my health at all,” he said, attempting to guilt-trip me. Then he involved our 5-year-old son. “How would you like to go on an amazing holiday to enjoy the sun and beaches?” he asked him. “Just you and me. Mummy will stay here because she’s too scared to go.” He glanced at me with a smirk, confident that he had made his threat clear. 😠 He tormented me every day for months until I couldn’t take it anymore. So, I relented. And this is the insidious nature of coercive control. They grind you down until you literally have no fight left. You surrender to their demands and choose the path of least resistance because you learn the price of defiance. In the end, they strip away all your power, leaving you feeling trapped in a life entirely dictated by their needs, wishes, and demands. #coercivecontrol #emotionalabuse #manipulation #toxicrelationship #psychologicalabuse #narcissist #domesticabuse

@Lookinupatstars That you love her, and that you’re proud of her for working really, really hard. And that it’s ok to feel all the things that she’s feeling right now. Ask her what she’d like for lunch. ask her school if they think it’s worth getting any scripts back for a review of marking

My daughter didn’t get the GCSEs she was predicted (across the board, by 1 or 2 grades 😩). She worked really, really hard too. She’s upstairs crying. What do I say to her?!

Caitriona Dennis et al.: Richard Alexander Pauptit 1954–2024 @liu_universitet... #IUCr journals.iucr.org/paper?S2053230…

@Neilsimpson @george__mack Let’s not forget Ballroom dancing - also very good for posture x

@george__mack Dance classes fella...either contemporary technique or ballet... And as for who...any adult dance teacher near you will be able to do a job for you.

What's the biggest thing you've done for your mobility and posture? I can hear myself 10 years in the future getting angry at present me for not actioning this earlier.

I bet every time you’ve victim blamed a woman and said, ‘why didn’t she just leave?’ You hadn’t considered ‘incase he ties up her and her family and kills them all with a crossbow’, as one of the options. We know for most women, the most dangerous moment in abuse is when they try to leave. You are most likely to be seriously attacked or killed as you leave, or just after you leave. That was certainly true for me. Twice. One time resulted in lifelong injuries. Both resulted in police investigations and arrests. Just from choosing to end the relationship. So next time you learn that a woman is stuck in abuse and can’t/won’t leave, maybe reserve your judgement and consider how much risk she knows she is at.

I felt that.

@Stephen_Curry Sorry to hear that Stephen. Wishing you both all the best

We will find out the details regarding his celebration of life soon. Thank you for reading, we send kind wishes to you all during this time. ❤️

He lived his life to the fullest, including in his scientific research, wide travels, passionate cooking, singing, playing guitar, beautiful paintings, creating, blogging &solving crosswords, skiing many slopes and motorbiking for many miles. He also loved looking after our 2dogs

Dear friends and family of Dr. Richard Pauptit, who was father to Sonia, Owen & Morgan. It is with great sadness and heavy hearts that we announce that Richard unfortunately passed away in hospital on Sunday the 30th of June. @richardpauptit