Tend Task

We’re thrilled to announce the re-launch of Tend Task, a newly imagined tool for household organization - merging the need for meaningful support in day-to-day duties with the sincere desire to show up for the people in our lives. tendtask.com/journal/new-lo…

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Both coaching and therapy are incredibly useful tools, depending on what your needs happen to be. Read the full blog to learn more. tendtask.com/journal/coachi…

Coaching is for personal or relationship development. When working with a coach, clients develop specific goals they want to achieve in their lives and/or relationships.

Therapy is healthcare. You and/or your partner are working with a trained, licensed healthcare provider to diagnose mental health conditions and alleviate the associated symptoms.

We often get asked about the difference between coaching and therapy. What's the difference? Is one better than the other? Why would my partner and I see a coach and not a therapist? Let's talk about it!

Using a tool to share the load can be helpful. Tend Task: Household Organizer is a great place to start. tend.page.link/download

But maybe you and your partner value the seasonal opportunity to connect with your family and greater community. Another option is to delegate. Break the task down into smaller tasks and talk to your partner about how they can step in to help.

We're big advocates for examing holiday traditions to see if they align with our values and we should keep doing them, or letting them go if they don't. Earlier we suggested banning Christmas Cards if they make you crazy.

And yes, some people manage to pull off their holidays with grace and aplomb. I say, “Good for you, now go help your friend because she’s fucking losing her shit and could use some support.” tendtask.com/journal/ban-ch…

Now, in your life, Christmas cards might be compulsory. I am not saying you should stop sending them out. But what I am saying is maybe, just maybe, it is time to examine why some of us drive ourselves out of our minds for two months out of the year.

Why do the holidays make adults insane? By the time I was 35, I hated Christmas. And then, in the winter of my 40th year, I did not send out one single Christmas card. Not one. And no one cared. 🧵

Delete or delegate tasks that are adding too much weight to your mental load. Essential to this step will be having a conversation with your partner, if you have one, to find out what they can take on or what you can choose to cut out completely. 4/4

Assess your data. Go over your list and mark next to each task whether it filled your tank or drained it. If you're finding your day is 80% draining and 20% fulfilling, that could be a good place to start thinking about how you're spending your days and how you can rework. 3/4

We recently appeared on the excellent 3 in 30 Podcast and offered listeners the following 3 takeaways on how to lighten your mental load. 1/4

Listen to the podcast to learn how you can be entered into our coaching package giveaway, exclusively for 3 in 30 listeners. 3/3

Our episode, How To Lighten Your Mental Load, offers three easy steps to help clear out some of the chatter in your head surrounding all the things that don’t end up on your to-do list. 2/3

We loved talking to Rachel on 3 in 30, an excellent 30-minute podcast that offers three easily actionable items for moms. 1/3 3in30podcast.com/261-mental-loa…

Follow @tendtask for more tips on how to create a balanced, harmonious, and equitable household. 5/5

Learn to comfort baby on your own. 4/5

Research shows that an unequal division of household tasks and cognitive labor becomes much more unbalanced when children enter the picture. Here are some steps you can take in the early days to set your family up for success! 1/5