devjani biswas

Attention seekers are often the greatest drama creators you will encounter, because their need for validation fuels chaos and conflict. If you value your peace, the wisest choice is to cut them off immediately.

Irritation is the very first sign your nervous system has had enough.

I just saw a woman explain why she doesnt do 50/50 on dates and her reasoning gagged me. She said : if i go alone id be paying for my meal, and if go on a date and pay 50/50 id still be paying for my meal so why would i want to get dressed up, spend energy on emotional labor, holding conversations, entertaining my date, if im just gonna pay for my own food anyway? Id rather wear my yoga set and scroll uninterrupted. And couldnt have said that any better!!!

Trauma, stress, grief, anxiety, cause high histamine levels. When your body's working to fight allergies and inflammation, you have less energy for emotional regulation.

Most disrespectful people are narcissists, because they often lack empathy and self-awareness. They don't care about others' feelings; they only care about their own. They never see problems within themselves, only within others. Narcissists are often rooted in bad character, a broken mindset, poor attitude, and growing up in tough situations. That is why their behavior and actions are based on how they experienced life when they were young. When you are with a narcissist, at first you feel great, you sense a strong connection, intensity, and excitement. But over time, you will be torn down, drained of energy, blamed for everything you do, and suffer endless emotional pain. You have to spot it early, because you cannot be happy with them. The longer you stay close to a narcissist, the more drained and hurt you will become.

Your inner child doesn’t need your excuses, It needs your discipline, your protection, and your consistency. Be the adult who keeps promises, and the voice that says "I’ve got you now". Heal what hurt you. Provide what you lacked. Correct what was modeled wrong. Forgive what you couldn’t control. Unlearn what tried to limit you.

@Theholisticpsyc The hardest part is that you have to do it for yourself. No one’s coming to save you. But every time you protect yourself, listen to yourself, value yourself, that’s the apology. That’s the proof your inner child needed.

Let your life be an apology to your inner child and a proof that you are the parent you always needed.

Making children hug or kiss people they're not comfortable with is the beginning of people pleasing. It teaches our body is for others and that discomfort is something to endure not to address.

@nate_postlethwt Thanks for not going on a killing spreee

Messages for your body after trauma: -Thank you for carrying on even though you were hurt. -It wasn’t your responsibility to respond differently. -I’ll respect your responses. I’ll listen to what you tell me. -Your safety is my priority. What else?

Sometimes quitting and giving up is the biggest relief. You're not mean to stick with everything, forever.

Without enemies around us, we grow lazy. An enemy at our heels sharpens our wits, keeping us focused and alert. It is sometimes better, then, to use enemies as enemies rather than transforming them into friends or allies.

Dating people with narcissistic tendencies is one of the leading cause of almost every health issue we see. Few people connect health issues to relationships. But the connection is research based:

Women don’t just walk away on a whim; they leave after they’ve exhausted every possible way to stay. By the time a woman initiates a split, she’s already mourned the relationship while she was still in it. It’s not about giving up, it’s about finally choosing peace over a lost cause.

Men: “Women initiate most divorces.” Correct. Women also initiate most breakups, most therapy, most emotional labor, and most attempts to fix things before leaving. Men just initiate most denial and most problems.

Assuming a man “doesn’t know better” is how women talk themselves into tolerating disrespect. Most men know exactly what they’re doing, they know when they’re being careless, inconsistent, or selfish, and they bank on you doubting your own perception instead. Ignorance is often just a convenient mask for intention.

Your first mistake in life as a woman, is to assume a man doesn't know what he is doing.