Murphy Slaugh: Gallifreyan Time Dragon🔜FWA 2026

@woofknight Thank you for sharing. I'm sure it is hard to relate the bad stuff, but it is a part of your life. I'm glad things have gotten much better and you can have some peace, and contentment, and happiness.

Learning from my life.....This was a post from a while back with a few tweaks I'm putting this out there so others can maybe learn that they are not alone in their struggles or that they may find a possible resolution to their struggles through my own adversity and mistakes. Present day.... The long search has ended. I now have a loving partner and HUSBAND after so many years. We like any couple has our moments of annoying the shit out of each other but I know I would be worse off in life without him. I love you Tron and Tron's Mom Lynn is along for the ride! The past..... I grew up in a very Catholic family. We literally lived 200' from my grade school and church. My parents were very involved in things from church council to choir. I was also for many years. My Mom was my strength. She taught me so much about nature, looking for the good in things and in people. She supported me to be me and Dad....well.... he was there. That's about all I can say. I knew I was different (gay) early on in life. Probably around age 10 actually My grade school years were hell. I was bullied early on and each year I was with the same class so I would dread the start of school each year because I knew what was to come. Years later I have actually had one of my bullies apologize to me in his words for being a 'sadistic bastard" I hated school, I struggled because of the bullying, because some of the teachers and staff really didn't give a damn that I wasn't learning to my potential (turned out I was bored and needed something more challenging) When I started high school I went to a cooperative vocational high school where my freshman year was spent taking different classes to decide what trade I wanted to go into. For what ever reason, I chose commercial art. My sophomore year was at a new school where the my 2nd - 4th year of high school would be spent. Thankfully the bullying had been left behind in grade school or so I thought. I discovered that commercial art was not a good fit for me because I was left handed. My vocational counselor was also left handed and he helped me some on things but my sophomore and what was going to be my junior teacher had little patience with me. I tried hard but it just wasn't good enough for them. We had a project to do a poster for one of the local consumer education contests and everyone in class did one to submit to the contest and low and behold I won. My happiness was short lived when the instructors stood up in front of class ridiculing my poster and giving all the reasons why it shouldn't have won. That was pretty much the last straw for me. There was a sister school that had a horticulture class that I was able to go check out and they invited me to their class picnic. I spent the day and knew that is where I wanted to transfer to. So the paperwork went in and when it was asked why I was transferring I was very open and honest about it. Also I was dealing with that year my Mom being diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I had struggled for 10 years in school but suddenly I had supportive teachers and classmates and I excelled. My C average went up to a high A and I enjoyed going to school. I worked in the afternoons at a local garden center and while it wasn't the greatest job in the world I had my own money starting at age 15. I would work and scrimp and save for things I wanted. My family was pretty much lower middle class so there wasn't a lot of luxuries growing up. Through my junior and senior years I was doing well. I was actually nominated and voted in as president of both our Junior Achievement Company and of our FFA Chapter. For the first time in my school career I was happy. Plus the building where my horticulture classes were shared with the machine shop classes and most of the wrestling team was in there and would hang around out in front shirtless in warmer weather and I was able to sneak peaks! When I graduated I went from barely making it by with a passing grade to one of the top 100 students in the nation. I actually got to go to New Orleans where I was inducted into the American Academy of Achievement. The day I left we had to stop by my dad's office on the way to the airport and dad was off doing something and his boss came over and was talking to me and told me how proud dad was of all my accomplishments.....this was the first and only time I ever heard he was proud of me. I dated a girl in high school. I knew it didn't feel right but I also knew what was expected of me from my Catholic family. We ended up getting married. I was doing what I was expected to do but I knew I had betrayed myself. Things progressed. Not long after I graduated from high school my mom was put into a nursing home and passed away not long after. Dad lasted about another year and a half til he passed away. Things disintegrated between me and my family over a variety of now resolved BS and soon after I was transferred to Houston with my company I was working for. Not long after the move, the wife announced she wanted a divorce because she had met someone else. I wished her well and saw this as a chance to finally get to be the person I knew I was. I took some time to find myself, joined some of the local groups and got more involved in the community. I went out on the occasional dates and had a couple that were more than one date but I ended up with the sad distinction of getting dumped on every major holiday. I finally met someone that we pretty much clicked and I was happy or so I thought. He was from Pennsylvania and after spending time together in person he decided to move. All went well at first and then things started to unravel. He kept losing his jobs and unbeknownst to me he was drinking. Funny thing how well an alcoholic can hide things. The sad part of this is that those that were close to us knew about it and didn't tell me. My company in Houston closed and we decided we would move to St Louis where I had a good job opportunity. The move was tough but we survived. Settled in and things seem to be going well and he started losing his jobs again. There was an occasion where he had dropped me off at work and forgot/was unable to pick me up so I had to struggle to get home. He started having violent anger outbreaks. My dog Dusty would actually position herself between he and I and challenge him. A couple times he was able to go on the attack and I ended up with scars on my biceps from him. I had it and called his mom and demanded she come get him. He kept saying he was just going to go home and get better but he never came back. I ended up with diagnosed PTSD from the incident and to this day when someone gets crazy drunk around me I near a panic attack. The next guy I dated had his own hard life with very unsupportive parents and when he decided he had to move out from his mom's he asked if he could come live with me stupidly I said yes. It ended up a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship and again I had to send him on his way. This next part - I know there are some that know those involved. I'm not slamming or anything, just sharing my side of things which many only took theirs and never verified what the truth was It took me a long while after that to really start dating again. I thought I was ready and met someone and we spent time together and things were going good. He had a decent job and things seemed to be on the right track. His company laid him off and while he did get a severance package it didn't last long. My income was all we hand with the little unemployment he would get. Bills fell behind because I was not only covering mine but a chunk of his too. Times were tough and he eventually found a better job and then a better one yet. It got to be he would come home from work and just veg out and watch tv. I ended up becoming housekeeper, doing the brunt of all the household tasks. It was frustrating. Saying he ended up a slob was an understatement. My depression kicked in from that and also being exhausted because i would get home, cook, do laundry and clean up most everything. We had a mutual friend move in that was going to go to college here and that was great for a while and things degraded with that too. It ended up being them against me. I was being accused of things I hadn't done and when I did make a mistake it was not soon forgotten. In addition things l liked or enjoyed were often made fun of. When the big breakup happened, I slipped into a deep depression. They had basically made me a villain to most every local friend we had. Those that didn't side with them just kind of faded out of the picture because they didn't want to be involved. It was funny how things were done. They used what I call "selective truths" against me. They would share everything wrong I had done or what they felt I did wrong but would not add any part of the story that might put a bad light on them. The one that had moved in for college moved out with his new boyfriend and out of necessity the ex and I lived together splitting the house until we could afford to move onto our own ways. I was made to feel like an outsider in my own home. Lies were told about me to those we knew (including that he feared for the safety of the dog we bought together that I loved dearly that I would never hurt) and they were giving advice to him where we still had some mutual bills we were paying off and he in turned basically reneged on our agreement to repay things on the one credit card over a 12 month period and forced me to sell off things to repay in less than 2 months. This after I helped him when he was not working and sacrificed my credit and what little luxuries I had extra money for. I ended up going to a therapist because the stress was getting so bad I was having panic and anxiety attacks which would aggravate my asthma. After quite a few months, a long time friend and i started dating. The ex was still living at the house but by this time we were basically ignoring each other. I still to this day care about the guy but I ended up more a parent than a partner and had to make the decision that we were good as friends but not more. After a while, the ex bought a house and moved out and took the dog with him. He would have to go on long term assignments and I offered to keep the dog because he got along with my others guys. I was single for a while and was talking to a couple different people. I was friends with each and there was some things that were worrying me about the one. But I did care about him a lot if nothing else as a friend. Tron and I had been talking for about a year at this point and we met at the furry convention I run and hit it off. We kept in close contact with daily text and yahoo messages. After the ex moved out, the guy I had dated took the upstairs of the house to share costs with his brother and it worked pretty good. They had their space and I had mine. Tron came for a long visit and we saw there was a real connection there. After he went back home to Virginia I was worried that the feelings weren't mutual ( I had that in the past where things seem great and after they leave I get told "it's not you") but things were there on both sides. We decided we wanted things to progress and made a 6 month plan for him to move. While we were apart we were miserable and decided to move up the time frame. Several now former friends were not happy with this decision and without knowing Tron were predicting gloom and doom and Tron using me after he moved in. The funny thing was the one that is now a former friend is with a guy that is well, not the ideal person with not being able to keep a job and everything. Tron moved in and after taking a few days he would walk miles in a different direction each day looking for a job. He found one and has kept if ever since he moved. The weekend Tron came to visit was interesting. I was moving downstairs since the ex was moving out and Tron helped me with cleaning the space and moving including spending 3 hours cleaning the bathroom the ex used. (it's love when someone spends 3 hours gagging together) We have been happy ever since. The ex got transferred to Texas and couldn't take his dog and I had always stated if he couldn't keep him I would take him back. The big dog was happy to be back at what he knew was home. The brothers decided they were moving in with the guy that the one was dating and Tron and I decided we would make a move to into our current house. We love the house even though it has a million and one quirks and some major projects that need done. The dogs loved it and had a nice yard too. Sadly last few years were hard year for us. Our 3 oldest dogs had come to their end time and it was devastating to both Tron and I. We had some huge vet bills that we are still working on getting paid down in addition to me having to buy another truck last year with my purple beast being in it's last legs. the holidays were not the best with us still recovering from the loss of our guys (2 the weekend before Thanksgiving 2 years ago) We still keep going through. We have actually adopted 4 new kids each with their own hard story and they get along great. Tron and I are still doing great and take care of and look out for each other. We are partners sharing bills and workload evenly. We would love to have more free time and that will come eventually. We were officially married when it became legal in Illinois and it's finally been acknowledge in Missouri! Goal now is getting bills paid down, getting things done with the house, taking some much needed R&R time including maybe a little bit of a honeymoon. Spending time together and with friends and family. Life isn't easy a lot of the time. It's messy and downright unpleasant at times. We have to keep going through. We in our darkest times have to focus on the little bit of good we have. Things will get better but you have to work towards it. Sometimes the steps are minuscule but a step forward is a step forward! Also true friends are true friends. Cherish them. Be there near or miles away. I have had to close more than a few doors because of negativity or just some that walked away and not looked back. A friendship is a relationship. Both sides have to want it and work for it! You can't be friends to someone who doesn't want it or doesn't have time for it. Also it's frustrating but you can't let it overwhelm you. Sometimes people will do so much for someone that you see is unfair while you are struggling and left to struggle. It does no good to let that keep you off a forward path. Some times in some situations, the nice guys do finish last because we are the ones that make the least waves and not at the forefront to those around.

@TaniDaReal But it was perfectly safe with me as well!

Your food is safe with me… 😏

@FluffyBlitzy Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Fluffy!

I was born...today...19 years ago.....

@ClaytonConway65 Looks very nice. They fit you...and you look fantastic in them!

I forgot to tell you guys I got my new glasses yesterday. These things fit perfectly inside Clayton’s head. What do you think?

@kodi_lion Sorry you feel that way. Just understand that you ARE allowed to have friends and you DO deserve friends. *hugs*

I have felt for so long that im not allowed to have friends, or don't deserve them, and just keep to myself. If you feel I'm ignoring you, it's just me staying to myself because I don't feel like I'm worth the effort

@Kippefir Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Kippefir!

It my BIRTHDAY!!! #furry #fursuitfriday

@GraphiteDergal Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Graphite!

Get off my lawn! XD

@_Niqnaq Aww...I liked the purple. But hey, it is YOUR fusona. You be you, brother. Purple, brown, yellow, orange with blue stripes. Whatever you wish, that is who you'll be. And we are your friends no matter what color you are!

Hi everyone, I've decided moving forward I'm going to have more traditional brown colors. No more purple for me. Just felt like it was time to go in a new direction.

@_KingKomo_ Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, King Komo!

Birthday Derg, Birthday Derg, Birthday Derg, Birthday Derg, Birthday Derg , Birthday Derg 🎉🎊

@MozzyTheDragon Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Mozzy!

It ma birthdayyyyyy 🎉🎉🎉

@Zaskyl Hey there!

Hello. :3

@ClaytonConway65 Good morning, Clayton. Hope you had a good night's sleep. You wouldn't happen to have a nice cup of Earl Grey tea, would you? If not, coffee will do. Care for a donut?

Good morning all my furry family and friends. Who’s up to a good cup of coffee this morning. There nothing like starting your day off with a cup of coffee while sitting on the porch watching a new day start. Big hugs and much love to you all.

@kurasaiyaArt @CatCandahan @FurryForgeF Hey! You! Would love to!

Hey! You! Wanna hang out? 📸@CatCandahan 🧵@FurryForgeF

@LonelyWolf37007 @whitewingsuits Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Floofy!

Today is Floofy’s first Birthday 🥳 Can’t believe it’s already 1 year ago and he already brought me so many good times and memories and so much fun 🥰 Many thanks to @whitewingsuits for bringing him to life 💙 📸 steamfox16 (instagram) #furry #furryfandom #fursuit

@ZestySnepLep Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Zesty!

Weeee I'm 27 🫠

@FrostDracopyre Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Frost!

AAAAAAA Baloon attack

@Stealth_Grey Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Stealth!

I am now 3

@baconroller_co Hippo Birdy Two Ewe!

Balloons ^w^

@ToKooFox Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Toko!

Lvl Up ❤️

@Karnyth Hippo Birdy Two Ewe, Karnyth!

Oh look, balloons! ^^