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Overcoming Temptation Many argue that self-gratification is a necessary way for single people to relieve tension. However, we should look to the experience of the monastic tradition, where such “tension” eventually fades away through spiritual discipline. The Church’s approach to fighting this sin is based on the principle of “opposite action.” The primary danger is that the more one indulges, the more the desire grows. To combat this, the Church recommends fasting—specifically reducing rich foods—and physical labour or worship as a healthy outlet for physical energy. Most importantly, one must “cut off” thoughts rather than arguing with them. When seductive images appear, it is necessary to immediately switch your focus to other productive desires. Furthermore, let us remember that the word “sin” (hamartia-ἁμαρτία) literally means “to miss the mark.” Why is choosing self-gratification considered a mistake? Because it is a choice to accept an incomplete life. Such a person is not a monk, as they have not taken monastic vows, yet they are not building a full marital relationship either. This middle ground is tragic because marital intimacy is meant to be more than just physical; it is a deep, internal union of two souls. When a person limits themselves to the mere stimulation of their own body, their soul is deprived of the profound connection it was created to receive through a full and healthy sexual union. This is why the Church has always maintained that perverting the natural order of intimacy is a damaging and limiting practice. It is not out of a desire to deprive people of pleasure, but out of a desire to turn their gaze toward a “fullness of life.” The Holy Fathers spoke of this error as a “mistake” because it keeps a person from reaching their true potential. Therefore, those struggling with these habits should consider what they are trying to replace with this “surrogate” pleasure. Instead of wasting energy on a worthless practice, they should direct that energy toward building a truly fulfilling life, including within the realm of healthy human relationships.












