BeAWorkInProgress 🥄

Gatekeeping and guilt: why I don't always do what's best for me, because I 'don't look #autistic enough'. Sometimes it feels easier to ditch what you know would be best for you out of fear of being judged by gatekeepers 👉bit.ly/2Rkju1X

I’m just a girl, standing in front of a twitter account, asking it how #ActuallyAutistic people go to hair salons without having a panic attack? #AskingAutistics

@IndieAutistic I...have avoided the hair salon for almost two years as I have her to figure out how to avoid the small talk/noise/talking with strangers/ weird eye contact

@IndieAutistic Very few people so far (though it feels like I haven’t known that long despite it being nearly 2 years since I was diagnosed!) I’ve only told a handful of people and my employers so far.

Do you tell people you are #Actuallyautistic? #AskingAutistics

@DoeDecahedron_ @NeuroRebel Fidget cube is my go-to, along with a few app games :3

#ActuallyAutistic #AskingAutistics do you have any go-to toys, visual stims, jewellery, apps etc that help calm you either before, during or after a #meltdown? I'm going through a real tough time at the moment & I'd appreciate some ideas from the community to try out. Thanks 😊✨

I thought I was the only one who did this 😭💖✨

When it comes time once again to bash PETA, I like reminding people they put this out in full sincerity and never issued any apologies whatsoever.

Today is a try not to cry meltdown day. I hate last minute changes to routines; though hearing my regular schedule for the rest of the year is out the window has me feeling completely lost. #ActuallyAutistic

@pigletish (I love the sentiment and agree wholeheartedly, but my exhausted brain read that as a commandment rather than a statement 😂😓)

(2/2) why you as an #autistic person have the language preference you do (whatever that is!) would be greatly appreciated! Or any links to other blogs/resources you’ve found that really helped articulate this would be amazing 💖 Thank you.

#ActuallyAutisic community: if you have a few moments, would you mind doing a fellow #autie a favour? I’m trying to best articulate why I prefer ‘autistic person’ or ‘on the spectrum’ over the term *shudders* ‘person with autism’ for a blog post I’m writing. Any opinions on (1/2)

@GeeknGroom The community on the spectrum on twitter? 😜

Can I just say, I absolutely adore the autistic community on Twitter? Or... is it the community with autism? (elbow nudge cheeky wink) #ActuallyAutistic

@NeuroRebel 1 and 3 I use intermittently; I absolutely HATE the phrase ‘person with autism’. I don’t HAVE it - it’s part of me; It’s not something separate or to be ‘cured’ or ‘fixed’. (Though if individuals prefer it for themselves of course 👌 just don’t go using that for me 😅)

Anyone else find ‘persons with disabilities’ to be kinda annoying? Seems to be US / Medical Lens? It get really grating. I am autistic (eg part of my identity). I have impairments. I only become disabled due to barriers. Feels like PWD day gets it backwards :(

Parent asked for suggestions as his autistic child is “being rude” #ActuallyAutistic my reply: she’s not being rude a) She likely answers honestly • if you don’t want honest answer, don’t ask question • if you need her to lie (eg Christmas presents), give her a script 1/2

@SnarkyMommy78 @betty_emandme Your husband is a hero and a role model 😭✨

My father in law came over and asked 2 for a kiss and when she said “no” he said “gonna take one anyway” and my husband stopped him and explained that we’re working hard to teach her that her “no” has power and deserves respect and I’m not crying YOU’RE crying

🇬🇧#BAME #Autism ..Can anyone help Paula a BBC writer ? " I’m working on a character that’s a Black autistic woman,I would really like to speak to Black autistic women. Could you help put me in touch with someone that might speak to me for my research?" paula.ogun@btinternet.com