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@barryburgle @CoffeeDaygame lol her response was the shit test back. “You’d like that” challenging him to remain congruent in his assessment

@TheRizzReport @CoffeeDaygame True. And I see your point on "the right way to sexualize", accusing her to do so. That said, I think she was just polite in not shit-testing him back, because imo he tried to hard to impose the you-are-pulling-me frame. But better overgaming than letting that fall away 💯

How to sexualize under the radar: Lots of guys find sexualizing a bit tricky to do throughout an entire date. This guy does it within a minute of meeting a girl. Totally calibrated - girl acknowledged the sexual frame and didn’t deny it. And perhaps this was unintentional but the reason it works is because the dynamic was reversed. Most of the time girls are accusing guys of getting sexual and they’re playing defense. Which makes a guys sexualization come across more needy and thirsty. …and if the girl accepts his advances she’ll feel too easy. But this time it was the opposite. The guy accuses her of sexualizing instead. She’s the one that’s trying to do something spicy, not him. So even though the topic is now on sex, it doesn’t feel like the guy is aggressively pursuing her. This bypasses the anti slut radar and allows her to engage with the premise positively instead of feeling creeped out. Resulting effect is that sex and kinks is now an appropriate topic to talk about and the conversation just got spicy. Now, there’s going to be a sexual undertone to the interaction. The purpose of them getting to know each other no longer solely to be friends.

Youre blindsided by the prospect of pussy, not realizing that his “interruption” was a genuine concern, not him trying to get her to invite him sooner. He thought she was actually suspect and his response was him expressing his concern in a lighter way. You see everything as a means to an end for sex, which is why your blindspots are many.

@CoffeeDaygame @TheRizzReport Oh boy, you spoke for my thoughts. As she mentioned something going on nearby her place I would shut up, pretend to be curious and go with her, instead of overgaming and weirdly trying to "flip the script".

@CoffeeDaygame Positive friendly reaction means an obvious script to you? Oh boy

@TheRizzReport He is approaching with an entourage (she said "you guys" multiple times). The interaction is obviously scripted (food + invite). Regardless, when she invited him out, he should shut up and let her do her thing. Trying to interrupt when she puts effort is a mistake.

Her rejection had everything to do with how he handled the interaction, I mean jesus if you can't tell that then idk what to say lol. Look at her eyes in the beginning, versus when her eyes were darting sideways right before she left. She went from asking him background questions, wanting to get to know him more, to ejecting after he reprimanded her.

@TheRizzReport My read is quite different, I think his opening and closing sucked so bad. His middle section was actually great. He shouldn't keep it down. He could later on, but well within vibe stage. Her rejection had nothing to do with his Game (as of that point) - luck of the draw.

What happens with too much teasing: This is an instance of power gaming. It is a double edged sword and cuts you if uncontrolled. The presence can be helpful to establish frame but too much comes across super tense, try-hard and you burn the set. The interaction was going fine already with normal get to know you conversation. She wasn’t testing him, wasn’t bratty, sarcastic or bored. Shoulders were square, strong eye contact, smiling, playing with hair and even asking him questions back. Sincerity, earnestness, contribution are metrics to gauge her level of buy-in to you. In terms of his value, he was good enough for the interaction. Not to mention she is more of the comfort type. A little tease here and there is still good but it doesn’t move the needle as much when value is already set. Diminishing returns. In scenarios where the girl is already accepting your frame, it’s a higher ROI to strengthen comfort and connection and even escalating on the romantic front. The girl was actually trying to connect more if you’ll notice, but he kept transforming it into a spike, shooting himself in the foot. The interaction started going downhill at the NYU thread, surprisingly she was ok with the skin tone comment lol.

The question posed was neutral - she was trying to get to know him more.

But he took it as disqualification. (Sign of insecurity)

Which, even if it was, he still mishandled it and came across upset.

Obsessed over that thread, judging, self-qualifying “You got to respect the mustache”

He probably thought he was “teasing” but when the thread is harped on multiple times, especially under circumstances where it’s not warranted - the meaning transforms from fun to reactive.

She starts looking around, disengaging.

Feeling judged, she qualifies herself “I just moved here” and then exits. Problem with power gamers is the over-prioritization and tunnel vision on the high ground. 
It is good to be aware of the power dynamics, but when interpretation is skewed it comes across emotionally fragile.

This clip is a representation of flirting + escalation. Now if I’m to be technically ideal, it could have been tightened up a bit. Get more buy in before expressing interest flirting, + leaning and asking her your color of eyes is an overextension. Better to bait her first. But the premise of the flirt remains and it still worked. Guy goes in under an innocent premise, asking about eye color.

And in doing so he gets an excuse to move closer to her, create a moment, and move things forward.

This is plausible deniability.

The act itself should be more or less ambiguous leaning platonic.

But the effect of that action will still generate sexual undertones.

Him moving closer still prompts tension, resembles him moving in to kiss her.

Escalation, no matter if it’s pulling, expressing interest, sexualizing whatever - all follow the same pattern.

Pulling - you create a false premise to pull “It’s kind of loud here right? Let’s go somewhere so we can hear better”

Expressing interest - Does not have to be explicit like “I really like you” it can be “How old are you? Where are you from?”

Asked in the right way, you’re subtly signaling potential interest. You trying to figure out the logistics is interest.

Sexualizing - Making innuendos, Eye contact, references - “Your favorite color is pink? Let’s keep this pg 13 plz” This creates a double pronged effect.
 One is that escalation comes across more calibrated and easier to land. You’re not “bringing up segs” completely out of left field and coming across thirsty. But keeping things more or less “regular”, which buffers the pressure. Two - the plausible deniability IS a large part of tension. The butterflies in her stomach has a lot to do with the uncertainty created. “Does he really like me?” “Is he going for it” While simultaneously preserving your own social level of buy in, not confessing your love. There is still mystery. Directly expressing takes away that emotional element and often leaves the dynamic flat and predictable. This is to say Your goal is not to be detected. But to sneak into the palace without alerting the guards.

@VALELORDX Yeah it's either that or he was genuinely sussed out

@TheRizzReport Bro asked for the Instagram? Lmfao wow. These dudes be scared as hell to ask for the number , even when they know the girl is interested😂🥴

How to stop getting friend zoned: The reason conversations go stale is because there is no opposition. Every storyline contains a villain, a problem, or a challenge - all synonyms for some sort of opposition. Stories would be boring otherwise. Dating conversations follow the same premise. If too much of it is rapport and comfort the conversation loses its spark. Staged or not, this video demonstrate examples of tension mechanisms. Throughout the vid they are competing against each other. “Or are you going to do something about it” - challenging “You have sunglasses on and it’s not sunny outside” - judging “At least I don’t look like a nerd” - teasing This type of energy is what rocks the boat and creates the chemistry girls talk about. Challenging, teasing, judging - when done in calibration is what makes her feel tension, This is the thing that differentiates you from being another nice guy.

@tyr0nelite She didn't know if it was a drive by compliment until he asked for her name

@TheRizzReport she immediately wanted to leave after saying thank you

@KingWarthog go talk to congress

@TheRizzReport Secretly recording people and putting it on the internet wituour blocking their faces and voices should end with life in prison.

@yodachadsupmax9 I would think so too if I was low IQ

@TheRizzReport yes, it's also alpha to say that your account is retarded

@yodachadsupmax9 So alpha

@TheRizzReport "dating intel" is just a glorified way to say you're a simp. a woman interested in you will just be open and stay open and forgive you any amounts of mistakes

@yodachadsupmax9 Omg so alpha

@TheRizzReport no one care what women think

@CoffeeDaygame What’s wrong is thinking that the only teaching value of this clip is addressing the friends disapproval

@TheRizzReport Because analyzing this set not from the viewpoint of the friend (red) is totally wrong. Everything he did is irrelevant in respect to the short girl. It might as well be air. You skipped that part

This interaction is much more balanced in position compared to the previous breakdown: The opener starts with a tease “You making sure you guys got good angles?” - he’s exaggerating her out to be obsessive + silly. Very good opener - relevant + puts you higher position conversationally - you are lightly judging from above, and not validating. She laughs. Good place to start at. Neutral question afterwards, “Was it pictures or video?” Continuing the convo but it is close ended + doesn’t really add fire power. Which closes that thread. The next thread is about their plans - cool spots, what they’re about to do. There are some disadvantages to this thread, but in terms of value positioning, he has things in his favor: 1 - Leading the interaction with line of questioning. He’s actually the one that’s evaluating and learning about the girls. “What do you guys like to do? Sip drinks or dance?” “What’s your go to spot?” Frames him as the person who has higher authority/expertise - they are the ones explaining themselves 2 - Playfully disapproving Furthers the positioning with a light call out: “Ah that’s not super new you guys are just homebodies” This is a push. Judgement and authority. But at the same time notice that she actually laughs too. Sometimes you’ll push and it ends up being a magnet back to you. So overall, position is good. But there was still money left on the table: 1 - There wasn’t a strong man to woman flirting dynamic. He had a one liner about catching his attention. But other than that it was mostly platonic. 2 - didn’t break past being strangers. The interaction makes it like he’s a stranger giving them recommendations. There’s not actually a vibe where they’re on a personal basis. Things that could have helped: Tie things back to the actual girl: Make the topics about her - where she’s from, her tendencies, her personality Too much of the threads was about non-personal tour guide stuff. Traditional advice frowns on regular questions, But they actually help when done right. when balanced with teasing + qualifications + fun “Where are you from?” “Oh so that’s where that low-key sass comes from” “You more of a going out type of a girlie, or a chill indoor vibe?” “Omg are you the type to play monopoly until midnight” “Ahh we’re like opposites then” “What’s fun about that for you?” By talking about her specifically, Her personality, her background, etc The conversation vibe evolves into something more personal.

@CoffeeDaygame Value fluctuation can occur in other ways aside from needing to tease

@TheRizzReport I explained it: "or if you want to be lenient, he didn't add anything in emotional spikes" Practically what he did is the same as running up and asking for a number from the get-go. No value fluctuation while in set.

This is how to compliment without simping. And why all the traditional never-validate advice is incomplete. Notice how there’s really zero repression, he’s very liberal with complimenting. “You are so cute” “I’m so serious” “You have such a cool look to you” If he feels like saying it, he says it. And he doesn’t come across like a fan at all.

Reason why is because of the back and forth energy balance. Yes he compliments and validates, but he also takes away validation too. By: Giving her shit - “Yes you, not the person behind you” “I love how you’re so taken aback, as if this is not happening to you all day” By evaluating her - “… all black, I had to come see what’s happening” His entire demeanor throughout the interaction is a give and take. And so no matter how much he compliments, The balance remains even as he equally breaks rapport just as much if not more. “You speak good English right?” “Omg you’re unbelievable” “You’re kidding” Interrupting her and changing threads, Leading the conversation. What’s being communicated is: “Yes I am interested but I’m not a pushover” The interest comes not from pedeatalization but from expressing purely what’s on his mind. Both the positive and the negative. And that’s what works.

@CoffeeDaygame It’d be nice if you actually read the post first so there isn’t redundancy and realize that there is such a thing as bite sized lessons

@TheRizzReport This is wrong in so many technical points. The short one hooked by herself, but the conversation, again, remains impersonal and flat. Worst of all... is the friend. This is such a bad mishandling of the obstacle (who gives him bad non-verbals), that she will burn the set.

@CoffeeDaygame Is teasing your main metric of a good set? What’s the emotional purpose of a tease?

@TheRizzReport Mate, this is shit Game. He rushed too much, changed topics too much and missed multiple opportunities for teasing (or if you want to be lenient, he did add anything in emotional spikes). It is passable to get a girl that likes him, but up to there.

@AlexiusKomnenus Frame isn’t created through tone alone btw

@TheRizzReport I first read the post and was expecting to see a really good alpha , assertive, calm vibe. I open the video I listen a very soft, timid and seeking rapport tonality. This girl is just happy someone approached her, 100% flake

@SoloDaygame Better to come across more bold and calibrate after the fact than too meek and fight an uphill battle

@TheRizzReport He rushed at the beginning though, like he was about to rob her. That would’ve scared the hell out of most chicks.