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Teach your daughters that sex is for them to enjoy, that sex is not something done to them, that they deserve to get pleasure and that virginity is a myth and a social construct.

Women aren't taught to recognize the patterns of male violence, but instead romanticize them. That boy who yanked your pigtails? He liked you. That brother who scared off any boy you liked? He protected you. That boyfriend who told you to lengthen your skirt? He loved you. That older guy who preyed on you? He admired you. That husband who punched a hole in the wall in the middle of an argument? He needed you to fix him. That male boss who's always inappropriate? He couldn’t resist you. And then, when those romanticized patterns of male violence escalate to end up as our broken skin, broken bones, broken hearts- we're blamed "how could you not see the signs?" How?! How could we see the signs when the world had taken them down?! -Farida D.

Use caution when describing barriers. Being Black is not a barrier for me. White supremacy is the barrier. Being female is not a barrier for me. Patriarchy is the barrier. Name the systems of power. These are the barriers.

#MasculinitySoFragile that it's more important to teach women to reject men politely than it is to teach men to accept rejection peacefully

Men: Women are so hard to read Women: Well actually we just wan- Men: Such complex creatures Women: If you just liste Men: So mysterious

"So AlL oF a SuDdEn EvErY girL hAs BeEn AsSaUlTeD??" ......yes that's exactly the problem........

Sorry but if we let people choose their own gender then what's next? Something else that's none of my business and won't harm me in the slightest? I mean where does it end?

sexual assault trauma lasts long after the initial shock. i was sexually assaulted when i was 15 years old and a couple of months ago i could smell a boy at a party used the same laundry detergent as my attacker and hibernated in my bed for a week. pls understand this.

Random man: hey you have a bf Me: no, but I am not interested Random man: wow way to assume that's what i was going to ask, conceited much? You're not that cute and im not even interested. i hope your pets die and your car gets hit by a meteor. Also youre ugly. Go cry about it

"I have a boyfriend" sometimes works better than "I don't want to". Because these men respect another man's right on you more than you.

The worst crime a family can do is marrying their son, who they know is a scum bag, to an innocent girl in the hope he will miraculously change.

You don’t need to be raped to “deserve” an abortion You don’t need a man’s permission You don’t need to justify anything Your body. Your choice. That’s it.

My teenage nephew told me he asked a girl out and she turned him down. I said, "You know what to do now, right?" He said, "I know I know keep trying" and I said "NO. LEAVE HER ALONE. She gave you an answer." He was shocked. NO ONE had told him that before. TEACH. YOUR. BOYS.

English is my 3rd language so help a girl out. Is it pronounced "boys will be boys" or "society's inability to acknowledge that toxic masculinity is rampant and such a notion just encourages an environment where the patriarchy is held unaccountable"?

how do you explain it to your mother that her self-worth isn't related to the amount of the household work she does? the conditioning is so deep that even if there is no one to watch her, she'll still want to prove it to her herself that she's capable of doing unrealistic amount of work.

We need to stop teaching young women that divorce is the last option. Run at the absolute first sign of violent/manipulative/ controlling behaviour. Fuck the divorce rate

women who hate men want to distance ourselves from men, have our own communities, when women hate men, we want to get away from men. When men hate women they do the exact opposite, they invade our spaces, harass us, intimidate us, stalk us, are violent against us. It doesn't matter how much women hate men, we don't hate men the way men hate women

Men are so male centered. Just date each other and leave us alone. Thanks

Menstrual blood is the only blood not spilled in violence, yet it is the blood that society is most disgusted by.