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@openrelating is doing the Lord’s work. We often reject labels because we don’t want to limit ourselves. However, I find terminology to be freeing. Having words to describe the nuances and idiosyncrasies that make you YOU is so damn FREEING.

It's wild how many people think that being polyamorous means you do less -- that you can't commit or care about your relationships. When really, you're a relationship overachiever. You have multiple loves, you're busy, and you care so much. And it's wonderful, yet exhausting.

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"it provided a space for me to be physical, powerful and playful with others. Wrestling, pushing, grabbing, snarling, rolling around - I loved it. A place to let out my inner animal without inhibition."

"I was pleased to see how quickly a bunch of bystanders are able to authentically connect with each other on a wide range of levels within the safety of the play space."

I am thrilled to be taking Conscious Play Fighting on the road. In September and October we will be facilitating these fun, exciting and deeply connected experiences: London - 23 Sep Manchester - 6 Oct Nottingham - 7 Oct Bristol - 8 Oct openrelating.love/events

One of my partners needs time to get used to me again, and likes to tumble around, bite and sniff me before they are relaxed again in my presence. With another, I like to sit and eyegaze for a while, staying in connection with our breath.

Reconnection after a period apart is helped with some specific partnered rituals. It is a good practice for any relationship and especially in polyamory if your partner has spent time with another partner/lover. What is your preferred ritual with different partners?

The best work is to know how to become better at meeting more of my needs and not being codependent with my partner.

Which is why I urge newly opened partners to focus on becoming better autonomous individuals and better at seeing their partner as an autonomous individual, instead of focusing on making rules.

Being open in theory is totally different than in practice. You might make some agreements that allow you and your partner freedoms, and trust yourself to handle what unfolds.