Only an immature man comes online saying he will place his mother above his wife.
Not because his mother is not important, she is.
But because the role your wife plays in your life is not the same as the role your mother played.
The love is different. The responsibility is different. The covenant is different.
When a man gets married, something should shift.
Your mother gave you life, nurtured you, protected you…
But your wife is the person you now build a life with.
She is the one sharing your home, body, dreams, his fears, burdens, and future.
She is the one raising your children and standing beside you through storms your mother may never even hear about.
This doesn’t reduce a mother’s value, it just means that you as a man has stepped into a new phase of adulthood.
A man who still sees his wife as “second place” is not ready for marriage.
He’s emotionally married to his mother and legally married to his wife… and that never ends well.
Maturity is knowing how to love both women without making them competitors.
A good son honours his mother, but he understands she is no longer the centre of his household.
A good husband protects his wife, emotionally and mentally, because her safety in that marriage depends on it.
And a good woman will naturally respect your mother, as long as she doesn’t feel like she’s fighting for a position she already rightfully holds.
No woman wants to rival her mother-in-law. Most just want to be treated as the partner they truly are.
Àgbà John Doe@jon_d_doe
Maturity is when a grown man is able to separate the love that he has for his mother, from the love that he has for his wife. Your mother is your father's wife. You don't sleep with your mother. And your mother cannot give birth to your children. If your father placed his mother above your mother, your mother would not have remained your father's wife. And by the way.. Your father's wife is not the same as your mother. Your real mother is your father's wife. End.
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