iBeAround
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Let’s have “the talk”
I grew up in New York City, Bensonhurst, then Dongan Hills on Staten Island.
My teenage years lined up with Rudy Giuliani coming into office and the NYPD leaning into Broken Windows policing.
I wasn’t a fan of the police. Neither were any of the male influences in my life, my friends, my family and even my father included.
At 11 years old, I got arrested. That started a stretch of me hanging out in the streets, having more and more run ins with the NYPD.
When my father picked me up from the station, he didn’t give me a speech he gave me a beating, and then he told me something more important:
“Don’t ever be a wise guy with the cops.”
As I got older, and bigger he kept repeating it, not because he loved the police, but because he understood the reality of those encounters.
One summer night, I was 15, sitting on my stoop waiting for an older girl I was dating to pick me up.
Two cops and a sergeant in plainclothes pulled up in an unmarked car and started asking me questions.
I immediately started acting irate and began mouthing off. They threw me against the car, searched me, and eventually let me go.
After the sergeant actually tried to give me advice how to handle a police encounter and how to keep it calm.
I ignored him and kept running my mouth.
What I didn’t know was my father saw and heard the whole thing.
He came flying out of the house:
“Are you fing stupid? You’re gonna get yourself locked up or killed for no reason”
He told me It doesn’t matter if you broke the law or not, stay calm, If they tell you to put your hands behind your back, do it.
“keep your mouth shut and we’ll deal with it later in court.
Then he said something I’ll never forget
“You’re a man now. Start acting like one.”
That night didn’t change me instantly but it stayed with me.
From that point on, I never mouthed off to the police again. I never refused an order in the streets, from the NYPD again.
The encounters, kept happening growing up in NYC, it was a part of life, but those encounters never turned into major problems because I was able through my demeanor to deescalate the situation.
A few years later, leaving a bar on Staten Island, unmarked cars boxed me and my friends in. Plainclothes officers jumped out guns drawn shouting commands.
We followed their directions, they questioned us and frantically left us, it appeared to me that they were looking for armed suspects.
What If I was still that same kid on the stoop? That situation would’ve gone very differently for all of us.
Are cops perfect? No
Do they make mistakes? Yes
Are some of them Dicks? Yes
It’s a tough, dangerous job, every encounter has the potential to go sideways fast, why make it worse?
My father didn’t give me “the talk” most people would expect but he gave me the one that keeps you alive:
I was arrested 2x’s in my youth, I was stopped by the NYPD countless times, the incident that occurred in the liquor store in Brooklyn would have been a non issue if it was me who was mistakenly stopped because I would have followed my fathers advice.
Take my father’s advice, it works, I know, it kept me alive and out of jail.
Rest In Peace John D. Macari Sr

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@Dani43656125 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast I personally believe you have eyes but a brain is debatable.
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@iBeAround1 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast we all have eyes and a brain so I beg to differ this should not even be a debate
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@iBeAround1 @AaBbredux @JoeyESQ @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast What I said goes for the entire United States of America, not just NYC. The police are authorized to use force, not saying it’s morally right or wrong (don’t make me the bad guy) just explaining the laws in place currently
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@DanielG67128715 @iBeAround1 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast My advice is realistic and practical. You're free to ignore it.
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@brescia_frank @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast BLM started to remind you white devils that BLM TOO but as always you white devils spin the narrative to fit your agenda. I don’t know anything about that national action network is but I’m sure it’s beenwhite washed. From my experience whites love hard drugs lol. 🖕🏾
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@iBeAround1 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast On the contrary, 95% of the crime in this city is committed by nonwhites. It’s black grifters (like BLM and the National Action Network) looking to escalate violence, attack White New Yorkers, and hopefully hit the “ghetto lottery” against NYPD…
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@brescia_frank @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast In Staten Island a white boy(around your age) had been indicted in kingpin charges for supplying Staten Island and other boroughs NJ too with fentanyl and other drugs. Shit like that isn’t reported the same way black crime is. Never have I seen a black man attack a white boy. 🖕🏾
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@JohnDMacari @iBeAround1 @TheFinestCast You asked. Daniel Shaver remained as calm as you can remain w/ a bunch of rifles pointed at you & still got shot.
Both cops who hit him retired w/ full pensions; one's living in the Philippines & the other was rehired for a day just to get his pension.
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@tiffanyuws12 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast Them cameras don’t mean shit when they can write their own reports and have their own “investigate”
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@iBeAround1 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast Having having that mentality isn’t changing anything and only making things worse. Stay calm and besides NYPD have body Cameras.
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@NetsProphet @AaBbredux @JoeyESQ @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast Which part of NYC are you from? Do police patrol your neighborhood constantly? You’re just not paying attention and are leading with the thought that they’re just doing their job. It’s not that cut and dry
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@AaBbredux @JoeyESQ @iBeAround1 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast I haven’t seen this specific incident yet..but from a legal standpoint, it’s on the civilian because the police are armed and legally authorized to use force if they feel threatened. Civilians aren’t armed and legally authorized to use force in any capacity
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@JoeyESQ @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast My point is even when you’re compliant they look for a reason. The problem is ppl have too much in faith in the police. The only thing they have to say is they feared for their life or you fit the description. It’s a reason they’re called the biggest gang in NYC. Weed out the bad
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@iBeAround1 @JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast Here's the problem... resisting arrest, being belligerent; never in the history of policing have those things resulted in the cop going "ok, know what? you're free to go". Adopt a respectful, even obsequious, tone. Comply. Live to fight later. It sucks, but that IS the reality.
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@JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast Show me historical proof it is the reality.
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@JohnDMacari @TheFinestCast You’re asking for evidence rather than word of mouth. Dickhead cops far outweigh the so called “good” cops. I’m sure you remember you remember the stop and frisk days in NYC. A time you can be searched just off “suspicion” alone while being berated at the same time calm or not.
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