Damola

“They will ask me when I first knew I was in love with you. I will sigh and say I don’t know. It happened in fragments, piece by piece, separate moments over the years. Moments - that’s how I remember it.” - A Broken People’s Playlist Chimeka is forever goated in my books!

I’m extremely selective with songs I sing and listen to! I mean extremely!! I’m at an event and I just heard a song “Ibi ti mo gba koja, awon kan gba’be s’oda”. Meaning “the road I passed and nothing happened, the same road has killed some people”. I HATE HATE HATE HATE SONGS LIKE THIS WITH EVERYTHING IN MY SOUL! I HATE songs that mention the unfortunate situations of others disguised as gratitude to God. It irritates my spirit in such a deep way! Nigerian songwriters need to use their brains more! It is STUPID!!!! It is TACTLESS! It is SELFISH!!! Above all, it doesn’t please not glorify God. STOP IT!!!

If you have a sibling, friend, or family member who is in any Nigerian University, kindly say a word of prayer for them once you see this and also send them money, because they need it. In OOU, students had to hit the streets after armed robbers invaded hostels at midnight, shooting, stealing phones and gadgets, injuring students, and even carjacking a vehicle. At EKSU, students have been facing repeated security issues incessant gunmen attacks, with one student murdered behind Lakers' hostel earlier this month. When students protested, they were met with tear gas. In OAU, students are currently dealing with unrest over transportation issues, with some having to trek long distances to go home after being evicted from school hostels for protesting.. In the space of one week, they mourned two students, one who lost his life during an exam due to cardiac arrest and another who committed suicide due to depression. A student was recently kidnapped on the way to IT and had to pay ransom before being released. At Unilorin, students queue every single day , yet many cannot even speak out. At Covenant University, a student’s life was lost due to delayed emergency response. The cost of studying has skyrocketed, making basic survival harder for students. Academic pressure as well as financial pressure, exploitation from lecturers, and unfair academic conditions. Life in school is becoming more difficult by the day, and many students are struggling to afford basic amenities. In our quest for a degree, may we not be sent back home unalived to our parents 🙏

I’m extremely selective with songs I sing and listen to! I mean extremely!! I’m at an event and I just heard a song “Ibi ti mo gba koja, awon kan gba’be s’oda”. Meaning “the road I passed and nothing happened, the same road has killed some people”. I HATE HATE HATE HATE SONGS LIKE THIS WITH EVERYTHING IN MY SOUL! I HATE songs that mention the unfortunate situations of others disguised as gratitude to God. It irritates my spirit in such a deep way! Nigerian songwriters need to use their brains more! It is STUPID!!!! It is TACTLESS! It is SELFISH!!! Above all, it doesn’t please not glorify God. STOP IT!!!

“Some are in the hospital Some are in the mortuary But we’re here in his sanctuary Brethren praise the lord!” Thank God we moved past that.

Preach a sermon in three words.

Dear men, I just wanted to share this before I fully move on from this topic because I want posterity to see that I made an effort. It’s Saturday, and today is a good day to take that first step toward bonding with your kids. We know it has been a very busy week, and you are tired. If you’re home, please try not to sleep all day. Get some rest, then ask your kids to find a book and read to you. If they fear you, calmly reassure them that they are not in trouble and that reading to you will make you feel better. Seeing that they can help you in a vulnerable moment will make them happy. Ask them to tell you their favorite stories. Do they like to play football? Watch them play and cheer them on. Do they enjoy playing “suwe”? Cheer them on while they play. Do you have any games at home? Play with them. Do they have a favorite movie? Watch it with them. Ask about their week. Find out what they like and don’t like about school. Talk to them about your work. Share what you do for a living and explain it in a way they can understand. Let them be close to you. Use a calm voice with them. Don’t let it be that the only time they hear your voice is when they do something wrong. As their father, be their confidant and comforter, not just their punisher. When their mother reports them to you, tell her to handle the situation. Don’t discipline them over everything. Sometimes, you just need to talk to them. Praise and boost their confidence when they do something right. When they make mistakes, encourage them to learn from them. Children will always be children; they will make mistakes. It is our responsibility to guide them. Make them comfortable in the house you built for them. Don’t let them walk on eggshells around you. Eat with them. Relax with them. If you are not home with them, today is a good day to call and check on them. Don’t tell their mom to say hi to them, ask her to give them the phone so you can speak to them directly. If they fear you enough not to want to talk, ask their mom to put the phone on speaker. Don’t you think they would love to hear your voice? Don’t you think it’s important for them to know that you are okay? Don’t you think they miss their dad? Hearing your voice could make their day. Call them and ask what they ate. If their mom calls you to report them, tell her you trust her to handle it. She can discipline them too. When you get home, talk to them about it and give them tips on how to avoid making the same mistakes. You can speak to them for just a minute, and it will always be worth it. Tell them you miss them and that you can’t wait to see them. Showing that you care will give them comfort.

Sometimes Twitter can be depressing. If the nasty comments about TTC were coming from men, I would have said “na their way.” But seeing stupid women who found it easy to get pregnant now thinking they can piss on other women’s struggles is nasty. Who is seeking your pity? When I had my first baby, I was a TTC mum. It took me one year. I joined forums, read people’s stories, researched what to do, used hormonal regulators, tracked my ovulation, visited doctors who refused to take me seriously because I was young , and I still cried at every negative test because I was anxious and tired. For my second, I was still a TTC mum, even though it took 5–6 months. My period stopped, and that alone caused me serious anxiety, still joined those forums online looking for who was exactly in my shoes So no, TTC is not some pity party acronym. It is a community, a language, and a way women find support while going through their journey

Women do a lot for their families in real life. Go to the market, and you’ll see women—some with just a table and an umbrella, some with just buckets to display their goods. Some have stores, big or small. Some have been feeding their families for years now. But Twitter men believe women are not doing anything. Even men from homes where their fathers were between jobs for years and their mothers carried the family still come here to shame women. Social media is really funny 😂😂😂