Dean Cook

100% agree. He doesn't realise he's actually on the wrong side, though. Most of the pushback against modern feminism isn’t about hating women or trying to control them. It’s about outcomes, especially for kids. Strip all the noise away, and the data is pretty clear: where it’s possible, a stable home with a present parent in those early years gives children the best start. That’s not “oppression”, that’s reality. The problem is the conversation keeps getting dragged into this men vs women nonsense. Everything becomes about validating the mother, empowering the woman, framing her as either oppressed or “winning”. Meanwhile the actual priority, the child, gets pushed to the side. And a lot of the loudest voices pushing this aren’t even living it. They’re sat online telling other people how they should feel about their own relationships and families, like they’ve cracked the code. In a healthy relationship, it’s not a competition. It’s not “who does more” or “who’s the victim”. It’s two people playing different roles, working together so the whole thing functions properly. That’s what a family is meant to be. Call it old-fashioned if you want, but turning it into a gender war helps nobody. Least of all the kids.

@DeanCook008 @_SirSwearsAlot_ @NoFilterSkin The narrative says women want to be strong and independent,so he views himself as virtuous if he supports women as a “male feminist” when he’s confronted by the view feminism is evil,his mind can’t compute it “ but,but I’m the good guy” and he resorts to abuse to protect his ego.

"You're lucky your husband lets you stay home." ​No. ​He's lucky I do the work of five people for free. He's lucky I remember every appointment, every meal, every meltdown. He's lucky I run this home like a CEO with no clock-out time. ​Motherhood is labor without a paycheck, and it's time the world stopped calling it luck and started calling it what it is: work.

That “experiment” you’re quoting isn’t some groundbreaking science, it’s literally a Channel 4 TV show... Boys Alone and Girls Alone. Small group of kids, cameras everywhere, edited for entertainment. That’s not evidence, that’s reality TV dressed up as psychology. Real-world data also doesn’t back your claim at all. The infrastructure you rely on daily is overwhelmingly built and maintained by men: Construction workforce ≈ 97% male Electrical trades ≈ 96% male ~90%+ of workplace deaths are men (ONS labour stats) That’s who’s keeping the lights on, roads built, and supply chains moving. So no, it’s not that “women don’t need men for survival.” It’s that modern life makes it easy to ignore the systems other people are maintaining. Society isn’t one gender replacing the other, it’s both contributing in different ways. The TikTok version of that TV show isn’t proof otherwise.

@viealx @DeanCook008 @_nomadic_soul Women will never need men for survival that’s what is upsetting you. Several years ago they did an experiment with young boys & young girls to see what would happen if each gender was left without parental supervision. The boys caused destruction and the girls created society.

A minority of women deciding they would rather be alone and childfree than partner with the current pool of men available seems rational, tbh.

@Boonatty1 @_SirSwearsAlot_ @NoFilterSkin He asks to talk to women and get their perspective. They give their perspective, and he calls you all liars because you are not agreeing with him 😅

@_SirSwearsAlot_ @DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin I’ve had 4,all beautiful human beings all home educated for part of their childhoods,being a mum is amazing,all of it,I did attatchment parenting before it was a thing so didn’t ever have any problems,you thinking parenting isn’t that says a lot about you

@UTDssam @markgoldbridge I know...

@DeanCook008 @markgoldbridge They were when Sir Alex won with Aberdeen

So the 3 he won in Scotland don't count even though they're probably more impressive than any of the below....

Neither of these women look good coming out of this exchange to be fair. Would be interesting to know the back story of their relationship. I do think that the daughter gives away what is going on though. The little wave behind the Mums back at the door and dragging her away. Makes me think Mum is in the wrong.

This woman is dropping off her stepdaughter to her real mom, every time she does that the real mom always has something smart to say about her and tries to belittle her. The stepdaughter actually enjoys having out more with her real dad and stepmother than she does with her real mom and we all can see why. Nobody else has this issue, so why is the real mom the one always creating problems for everyone, is she not over him maybe? Have you ever had this happen to you too, how do you handle this in a civil manner she the other party isn’t civil?

I get what you’re saying, to be fair. That shift you’re talking about is real. Going from work, structure, adult conversations, a bit of recognition… to being at home all day doing the same loop with no real “off switch” ...yeah, that can mess with your head. It’s not the child, it’s the isolation and losing a bit of who you were for a while. That’s a big adjustment. Where I push back isn’t your experience, it’s how it’s framed a lot of the time. I do think women have been fed this idea that motherhood is somehow lesser or “thankless”, because everything now pushes careers, independence, not needing a man! So when reality hits and it’s harder and quieter than expected, it feels like something’s been taken from you, rather than something you’re gaining. But there’s another side to it as well. I’ve been the one carrying the financial load. Going from two incomes to one, knowing everything rests on you, knowing there’s no room to mess it up. That pressure doesn’t switch off either. Yeah you’re around adults, but it’s not exactly a break, it’s just a different kind of stress. That’s why I don’t buy into the “five jobs” thing. Not because it’s easy at home, it’s not. But because it turns it into this one-sided story where one person’s suffering and the other’s cruising, and that’s just not reality for most families. At the end of the day, it’s about the kid. If you can have one parent at home in those early years, that’s a massive positive for them. Doesn’t mean it’s enjoyable every day, doesn’t mean it doesn’t cost you something personally, but it does matter. So yeah, I’m not dismissing what you’re saying at all. The isolation, the repetition, missing your old life a bit... I just think it’s less “thankless job vs lucky husband” and more: both people are sacrificing in different ways, and no one really prepares you properly for what that actually feels like.

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin Being improperly prepared by the world for this reality then being berated by assholes on the internet who are not ending their careers and hobbies while the partner goes on in the same work passion and colleague interaction. It's a huge change you have to understand that too.

I’m not even disagreeing with you. But that’s not the point I was addressing. The point was this idea that a woman can completely drop the physical and intimate side of a marriage for years with zero pushback. That’s not the same thing as normal dry spells because of kids and exhaustion.

@DeanCook008 @JailbirdJunkrat @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Also, having sex 2-3 times a month when there is small children in the home, is NOT forced celibacy. During those times, take quality over quantity or she'll start feeling resentful when he's not noticing the level of stress and exhaustion she's already experiencing.

The ultimate double standard in modern marriage is the unilateral cancellation of vows. A man is socially and legally expected to fulfill 100% of his traditional duties, to provide, protect, finance, and remain strictly faithful. But a woman can completely abandon the physical and intimate aspects of the marriage for years with zero societal pushback. If he complains, he is shamed as needy or predatory. If he files for divorce to escape a lifetime of forced celibacy, the courts will take his house, his kids, and his income. He is essentially trapped in a legally binding roommate contract where his utility is violently demanded, but his humanity is completely ignored.

@GreenLines223 @_SirSwearsAlot_ @justarando70354 The entailment of SirSwearsAlot's argument, is that he is in fact the only decent father out there. His anecdotes are the only ones that count, his situation is the standard, and everyone else just gets written off as a bad parent.

@_SirSwearsAlot_ @DeanCook008 @justarando70354 Oh I know I'm doing a great job I get told every single time I drop my kids off at school and attend pta meetings. My wife is also an awesome mother because we both are running our businesses and also raising our kids TOGETHER

@KittensSuddenly @NoFilterSkin Calling motherhood and homemaking a “thankless, oppressive job” is wild to me. That mindset’s been drilled in. Do you honestly think someone doing 40 hours a week on a checkout gets more fulfilment than you raising your child and running your home?

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin I use to work then had a baby, I love my child and husband. That being said, I much preferred working over the thankless job of being a mother and homemaker. When kiddo goes to school, I’m going right back to work. I don’t discount the importance of what Im doing now though.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe It isn't clear at all. We have no idea what had happened or why he was running after her. No idea at all. There is no evidence at all she was in danger or he meant her harm. You are making assumptions.

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe Its quite clear she was in danger. Its possible she did something, yes, but in that moment that man meant her harm. Too bad for the women in your life you dont get that. I know what youre doing and its from hating women. Im going to mute you. Enjoy your frustrations.

And this is why we need more women in positions of power, more representation in all spheres. Because women are the only true protectors of women. Men can claim to be protectors but all they do is protect their image & protect their brothers who harm women.

@SamCKx @ianmiles Her colour**

@ianmiles Why mention his colour, Ian? I have never once seen you describe a white person by their colour.

A popular black British influencer had an argument with somebody at London’s busy Argyll Street and decided to resolve the conflict by running her over in her car, crushing the hell out of her.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe Not at all I replied with a fabricated story, to a fabricated story. You demanded I prove my version of events, I am now asking for you to prove the orginal take You said she was "rescued" the original person said "protected from harm" Where is the proof she is in danger?

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you're dumb.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe Now can you prove the original claim that she was protected and rescued from harm?

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe Glad youre now honest. I didn't make anything up. I asked you to provide proof of your claim. If you just hate women, say it.

Ah yeah, the classic “go read a feminist” line… that’s not an argument, that’s just dodging the point. You’ve basically backed up what I said without realising it. We’re not living in the 1800s. We’re talking about now, where most single-income households exist because a couple has decided it works best for them. Calling that “oppression” today is a stretch. Most people can’t even afford to live on one wage anymore, so acting like it’s some widespread system holding women down just doesn’t match reality. And the history point always gets one-sided. Yes, some women were in bad situations. So were men. Men were getting sent to war, working brutal jobs, dying young. That doesn’t get framed as “oppression,” it just gets ignored. What’s happened is feminism has taken something that can be a fair trade-off and spun it into exploitation. If one person earns and one runs the home, that’s just a division of labour. One carries the financial pressure, the other runs the household. Both roles matter. Telling someone to “go read feminists” doesn’t suddenly turn a modern-day choice into oppression. It just shows you’re leaning on a script.

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin Single income homes were definitely oppressive. This comment reveals your lack of historical grounding. They are one of the reasons for feminism. Maybe go read what women have been saying. Go read a feminist. Then we can talk

@JailbirdJunkrat @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine This is what you have been told. It is not reality is the overwhelming majority for relationships.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Men don’t show up the way you think they do. They really don’t.

No, focusing on sex isn’t missing the point… it is the point. Sex is the one thing that separates a marriage from every other relationship in your life. You can get conversation, support, even affection from friends and family. You can’t get sexual intimacy anywhere else without it being called cheating. That’s why it matters. So yeah, when men focus on sex, it’s because that’s the part that’s exclusive to the relationship. If that disappears long term, what you’ve got isn’t a marriage anymore… it’s a roommate situation with legal ties. No one’s being “dishonest” here. You’re just trying to downplay something that clearly matters, otherwise exclusivity wouldn’t even be a thing. So yeah… focusing on sex is completely valid, because it’s the one part of the relationship you both agreed is reserved for each other. If that’s gone and no one’s even trying to fix it, the issue isn’t “men whining”… it’s a broken relationship.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Men are on here whining about sex, so yes that is the point. They’re not whining that their wives don’t hold their hands or touch their cheeks, so don’t be intellectually dishonest about what the actual contention is here.

There it is… you’ve just walked your own argument back. From “five jobs” to “maybe three.” That’s not a refinement, that’s you admitting the original claim was inflated. And “go read the double burden” isn’t a rebuttal… it’s you pointing me to feminist theory to prove a point about feminist spin. That’s circular. Of course it agrees with you, it’s the same framework that created the claim in the first place. That’s not evidence, that’s confirmation bias. If your position only holds up when you quote people who already agree with it, it’s not a strong argument. You’ve basically conceded the core point: it’s a demanding role with multiple responsibilities… not multiple full-time jobs stacked on top of each other. That’s been the point from the start.

@DeanCook008 @justarando70354 Maybe not five jobs but three for sure, and I don’t say all men i said most and you can clearly see that is true just by reading through the sexual slip that gets posted here. The whole feminist propaganda thing is weak as fuck, go read “the double burden.” Read what women say

You’re arguing with a strawman and pretending it’s the point. No one’s claiming men are “owed sex on demand.” You keep going back to that because it’s easier than addressing the actual point. The point is simple… you can’t have a marriage where exclusivity is expected, but intimacy can just disappear for years with no accountability. That’s not “autonomy,” that’s changing the deal halfway through. If sex and intimacy genuinely don’t matter, fine… then drop the expectation of exclusivity as well. But no one does that, because everyone knows intimacy is part of what makes a marriage a marriage, not just a roommate situation. This constant “emotional labour” excuse gets wheeled out every time like it explains everything. It doesn’t. Relationships break down for loads of reasons on both sides. Men deal with pressure, stress, rejection and still show up. You can’t treat one side as non negotiable and the other as optional depending on mood. And the idea that intimacy is “just sex to men” is rubbish. It’s connection, affection, feeling wanted. That matters to both sides. No one’s talking about controlling anyone’s body. They’re saying if a core part of the relationship disappears long term and no one’s even trying to fix it… the relationship’s already broken. That’s not entitlement. That’s just being honest about it.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Ah ah. No one is owed another persons body full stop. That includes all aspects of intimacy (which to men just means sex). Now, instead of figuring out WHY your wife won’t sleep with you, which I guarantee is simply of “she’s doing all the goddamn emotional labor”, yall whimper

“Most men are clueless” is just lazy and bitter. Loads of dads are hands-on… school runs, appointments, coaching, discipline, finances, long hours to keep everything running. You don’t see it, so you write it off. That’s a you problem. And this “emotional labour” line gets thrown around like it’s some exclusive burden. It isn’t. Men carry pressure too… financial strain, responsibility for the family staying afloat, making the calls when things go sideways. Just because it’s not dressed up with a label doesn’t mean it’s not real. Your whole argument relies on exaggeration. “Five full-time jobs”? Be serious. If it were literally that, no one could sustain it. It’s one demanding role with multiple responsibilities… same as being the sole earner. Different pressures, same reality: trade-offs. And here’s where it really falls apart. You say it’s “five full-time jobs”… but you also say you did it alongside a full-time job. So which is it? Because you’re basically asking people to believe you were doing the equivalent of 6–7 full-time jobs in a day. That’s nonsense. All you’ve actually shown is that it can be done alongside full-time work. Was it hard? Yeah. No one’s arguing that. But if it’s manageable next to a full-time job, then doing just the childcare side on its own isn’t the superhuman workload you’re trying to sell it as. And the “men should stfu” bit? That’s not an argument, it’s a cop-out. You’re trying to shut down disagreement because your point doesn’t hold up. Families run on trade-offs. One earns, one runs the home, sometimes both do both. Both sides carry weight. Pretending one side is clueless and the other is doing “five jobs for free” is just feminist propaganda that you have bought.

@DeanCook008 @justarando70354 Im not the lazy gatekeeper here. You are and you are clueless about parenting and should stfu and listen instead of spewing your useless fucking wall of text at me