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ArinChickInn

@ArinChickInn

Chicken Vtuber with a love for horror games 🐔 | #ENVtuber | Animator, Illustrator, and Adventurer 🎨 | Welcome to the Inn, the ChickInn

Hiding in your garden 가입일 Temmuz 2017
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@Bumble_Bane It's very unfortunate that people take their experiences to be the ultimate truth
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
My best friend has BPD. My best friend lives with me, I am her caretaker. BPD does not 'ruin' lives, she has improved my life in many ways and is a joy to be around. BPD is a coping mechanism that is caused by trauma. People with BPD had traumatic experiences and they only know how to deal with things in certain ways. There are ways to tell when someone is going to "blow up," which is called splitting. There are active signs and triggers, it's not just random and it isn't fair to demonize people with BPD. Those with BPD DO have the responsibility to tell those around them what those triggers are and how to help them when they're at an elevated emotional state. I've had great success with just telling my best friend the gray when she starts to see black and white. When people who have BPD are taken out of those situations where they're around the people who caused and those who trigger the BPD, they start to heal. It's a slow process that takes a lot of work and in most cases medication. But spreading that BPD is some horrible thing that makes the people who have it to be horrible people is just misinforming others. This sister/wife just sound like not so great people, it has nothing to do with the BPD. Most people who have BPD are not going to blame it for their negative actions
Emerald Apple@AI_EmeraldApple

Deme, the VTuber, has BPD, borderline personality disorder. It's something I have relatively intimate knowledge of, as my sister has BPD, and I had a coworker whose wife has BPD. They have intense, rapidly shifting emotions with fear of abandonment, along with huge defensive responses. They have the uncanny ability to always see themselves as the victim, no matter what the context is or the circumstances, and due to the impulsivity in their "defense," they can become quite unhinged. People with BPD also have solidly black and white thinking, seeing the world in a us vs them mentality, which is how she can justify her vile attack against Chibi. These people practically never take accountability, fault, or anything, often blaming everyone else except themselves. They will frequently engage in DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). They will deny the wrongdoing and then attack the person raising the concern, often in a screaming, emotionally volatile tone, and then reverse the original instigator as the victim. They can often "mask" their symptoms in a public setting for a while, often for many years, but after enough stressors mount, they crack and that mask slips off. She can blame it all on PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) all she wants, but her behavior is textbook BPD... the same kind of toxic behavior my sister displayed, and the same stories from my coworker with the BPD wife. Some of the stories include ones like the BPD wife intentionally harming herself, often seriously enough to be hospitalized, only to blame it on the husband, or even reframing it because the "husband" was emotionally abusive. Similarly, my sister has self-harmed on multiple occasions only to escape discipline from my parents, for fear she might escalate. My sister's husband was also blamed for all the "ruination" that "he" caused against her. The coworker and my sister's husband both shared the same phenotype. Quiet, reserved, nice, and harmless... but you can tell behind all of it, they were deeply in love but also deeply scared of their spouse... not knowing when the next blowup is going to be. The Simps for women with BPD can be just as toxic, as their pull during the good moments can be legitimately magnetic, and they form strong parasocial bonds with creators such as her. People with BPD, when they are happy, are very charismatic, charming, and very warm... almost a complete mirror reverse of the depth of their toxic downward spiral. The simps become blinded by her toxic nature, reinforce her DARVO attacks, and so many idealize women with mental illnesses. "That crazy chic" is the trope that so much of the simp economy is catered to. TLDR... Stay away from people with BPD. They are dangerous and will often ruin your life, even through a parasocial lens, and treatment often has limited success.

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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@SSpeedmeal Nope! I'm very blunt and upfront with her. Sometimes she needs some extra explanation to understand an outside perspective, but is one of the sweetest and most caring people I've ever met. She's been hurt many tkmes "taking the bullet" and being far too understanding
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SSpeedmeal@SSpeedmeal·
@ArinChickInn Ill pray for your safety. That friend of your's probably has you walking on eggshells and thin ice. Hopefully it'll get better
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Zhira Everett
Zhira Everett@BoopyLord·
@ArinChickInn My mom had BPD. I may even have it, IDK. But I know second hand how bad someone with untreated BPD can be. You can manage it, and be "normal", you genuinely just need to be responsible and accountable for your actions. And also be willing to work on them, but.. that's a given XD
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@BoopyLord Yep! BPD makes thinking black and white, it doesn't make you an asshole
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Zhira Everett@BoopyLord·
@ArinChickInn Almost like if ppl can manage themselves and take accountability, BPD isnt a problem. The problem is that. She lacks accountability, and uses it a shield XD
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@stopitgets28641 You can have harsh judgement! I think the more important part is having an educated/fair judgement. You can still judge harshly, but understanding BPD (and other situations) is important, as well
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stop it get some help@stopitgets28641·
@ArinChickInn my harsh judgement stays regardless of what I say.....I can't forgive and forget what people say on twitter and no matter what happens no excuse will deter my harsh judgment and ignoring is best option.....
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@Lammybr4d My best friend? I can wait, but that won't happen, friend
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Lammy@Lammybr4d·
@ArinChickInn wait untill she accusing you falsely well untill that time comes dont you ever delete this post
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@Restricted15 Yes!! She's been doing so much better since she's been in a positive and healthy environment
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13012ED@Restricted15·
@ArinChickInn Ah I see, thanks for the clarification, and it's all good. Hopefully whatever condition your friend has can be alleviated with future treatment models and procedures. Freedom of ambulation is a freedom all deserves
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@pampurins Making connections can be really scary if you have BPD, the least I can do for you all is to share my experiences as someone that's best friends with someone who has BPD 🥹
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🩷 MeloPami 🩷 @ 25% healing
@ArinChickInn I feel like crying reading this, thank you for stading up for us and I hope more people can read this and understand BPD doesn't make us horrible people nor we are a red flag, it's a condition we fight everyday that requires a lot of effort but we are able to have healthy bonds
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@p4w_licker @HakureiRyan They're referring to the original post of "DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender)." Which is still not a BPD thing, anyone can do that "method"
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@Restricted15 In my best friend's case, she's physically disabled! I take care of her in the context of her being in a wheelchair. Sorry if adding that on was confusing! I'm her caretaker because she can't walk :)
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13012ED@Restricted15·
@ArinChickInn Question for the genuinely confused here. Why does BPD affected individuals need a caretaker? Last I checked the condition is manageable with psychotropics medication and therapy depending on severity level
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@Nerdy_Hawaiian Yes, ofc! I'm so sorry this happened to you. People can be bad and have BPD for sure. Calling every person with BPD is harmful, though 🥺
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Nerdy Hawaiian@Nerdy_Hawaiian·
@ArinChickInn While yes it doesn’t always ruin lives. It can, this is coming from experience from a partner who used BPD as a weapon to manipulate that nearly pushed me to a dark place. Not all people with BPD are bad but there are definitely are people who are bad that have BPD.
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@MacFracerEXUS 🥺 My best friend is doing great now!! I told her to leave her state to come live with me, and she did, she drove halfway across the country It was the best decision she could have ever made
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MacFracerEX マ–ティン@MacFracerEXUS·
@ArinChickInn leaving family or friends before even tried to work on it feels like a easy way out... I would never leave a friend until I tried to help them to get better... because leaving person behind that way will it probably make it even worst.
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@Azharemys This isn't a BPD thing, it's just a general person thing Those with trauma may be more likely to manipulate others, but this isn't exclusive to BPD nor does it mean everyone with BPD is like this
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Zack Azharemys, a Vtuber Merc in training
@ArinChickInn The correct message she is providing is that BPD people can very much gaslight, and manipulate others easily to ruin their lives. It's still their choice to do so, or to seek help, and try to be better. However, often, when this BPD behaviour is enabled, it derails entirely.
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HakureiRyan@HakureiRyan·
@ArinChickInn Now talk about the silent manipulation they do. Oh, you don't have apologia setup for that one huh?
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
@FrostedPlague7 Yes but this is what I expect from you, as you've ramped up the weird memes over time 🤣
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ArinChickInn@ArinChickInn·
A tiktok told me to start a problem You're a bottom
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