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@ageofabstaining @dissproportion It was her attempt at a kind way of saying he’s the loser in that match up
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I gotta say, talking about your partners like this might be one of the worst things a lot of women do and treat as normal.
Blaise ⛧@wydblaise
When Gwyneth Paltrow revealed who was better in bed between Brad Pitt and Ben Affleck “He was technically excellent”
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@dissproportion yeah, but no one can be everyone's love of their life, so it's chill :D
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@ageofabstaining Nobody is leaving the passionate hot love of their life for "technically excellent", that's for sure.
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@dissproportion is that, like, understanding it as "he was excellent, i guess..." vs "his technical skills were excellent"?
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@dissproportion oh, i guess i just do not see how that'd read as unflattering. i'd enjoy a woman i've had sex with saying that about me
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@dissproportion (tho i do agree it'd be distasteful to go into more detail than she did here)
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hm, i'm not sure this is strictly possible. i think what people usually see as 'learning to embrace not being liked' has very little to do with the absolute value you place in others' approval; it's more like, rlly integrating your core values lets you make peace w/ the tradeoffs
christine@christineist
how do you embrace not being liked?
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@Recursion_Agent i think most people aren't really capable of actively liking or respecting you if you treat them as an authority. which includes *both* taking their word as law, and rebelling bc you think they're insufficiently qualified to be in charge. they're just a person!
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@Recursion_Agent + in my experience, their opinion actively improved the more i argued back when i didn't think they were right. i don't think teachers are that different from anyone else in this regard. people love when you push back, as long as you do it w/ sincerity + curiosity
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This is horseshit.
Smart kids don't get "pampered by teachers." Suckups do. Kids who turn in homework and don't argue when the teacher is factually wrong.
My teachers hated me so much they tried to shove me in the remedial track.
The AP teachers were actually pretty chill.
Cassie Pritchard@hecubian_devil
I think you were actually just dumb and ill-behaved, tbh. I don’t think actually-smart kids experienced this. They were generally liked and pampered by teachers.
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason I know this doesn't apply to a sigma male like yourself, but this is simply just more people being socially awkward due to avoiding social interactions. If enough people can't speak to eachother, sure norms will change,but there may be other knock on effects that are even worse
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This is wrong. It’s simply that there is a script to customer service interactions. “Can I help who’s next?” Or “what can I get you today” indicate to the customer that you are ready to take their order. If someone walks to the counter and you say nothing, you add friction.
fluffy@fluffy542
the Gen Z stare is one of the most misunderstood phenomenons. it's because, in order to notice it, you have to be making a mistake and unaware that you are. gen Z stare happens in response to fakeness. that's it. nothing more to it. fakeness is what you call normal. "hi how are you" without sincerity is just strange -- have you ever sat back one day and thought about that? or when you walk in a shop and expect the person to put up a fake smile, signal emotions which they aren't actually feeling, and greet you according to a script instead of how they actually feel. do you think that is ok. do you, the person insisting for it, not consider that it's inhuman? gen Z recoils at this fakeness and is the first real generation this country has had in a century. you're witnessing their resistance to your fakeness, and your insistence to it. ... and you aren't even aware you're doing it. you are so helplessly unaware that you believe something is wrong with them instead. it's ironic that you call gen Z disturbing; it's you who disturbs.
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@mamiminluvwichu @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason yeah, i think it's very possible this is a consequence of gen z antisociality. it just doesn't seem to me like maintaining the past norms would help much (the causality only exists in one direction, imo), nor do they seem like sth that'd *inherently* emerge in a healthy society
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason Not sure it's as good as before. The numbers say a increasingly high amount of young people are virgins/never dated etc. Mental illness is on the rise too. Maybe it will be fine but maybe people should learn to excel at basic human interaction and not be so dismissive about it
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@mamiminluvwichu @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason as far as the "i'm so excited to be here!" brand of fakeness goes, i find leaning into it helps me actually enjoy whatever i'm doing more, like i'm signaling to my brain that this is an Enjoyable Activity. but i do know a lot of people for whom this does the opposite
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@mamiminluvwichu @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason eh, generational culture shifts generally imply that people within the same age group can still interact w/ each other as well as before. if all of gen z is like this (and this seems to be true on some level), it's fine. if it's one guy, that's the issue.
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason I imagine they will likely grow out of it for the most part. The greetings aren't entirely unnecessary. People who can't make small talk and smile and make eye contact end up not being able to make friends or persuade or inspire people, generally speaking
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@mamiminluvwichu @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason i follow them with everyone. i think it's fine when gen z don't
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason Obviously you follow these silly scripts with people you respect and want to impress. So when you dont, you are showing contempt and they realize this
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@mamiminluvwichu @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason my beliefs on whether sth is necessary aren't just dependent on my personal preferences. i like these interactions! if that was what op said, i would've agreed. but there is nothing inherently wrong with gen z moving away from those norms, which is what we're talking about here.
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason It generally is, if you look at people who typically make these complaints. If you were good at it you wouldn't have a problem with it and need to make the other person feel awkward for being the normal one in the situation. It's immature
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@mamiminluvwichu @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason ah, this isn't applicable to me. but thank you for the input
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason I realized that I resented the interactions primarily because I lacked social skills and confidence
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@mamiminluvwichu @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason so what were the reasons you changed your mind? i am just not very interested in your theories on who i am, to be honest.
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason I know I thought and said dumb shit like this at 16. I remember my dad telling me "yeah, you're a whore" for complaining about having to make "fake" small talk in a customer service job
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@ageofabstaining @Mirrormn @ClickingSeason This reminds me of when autistic people claim that they're actually the socially gifted ones when they can't even function socially. We were all angsty teenagers once, it's okay
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