HONITEL👑@HonitelHQ
1. Do not send that long epistle after they break up with you. I know you want to express yourself, but trust me, they don’t care. Vent to your friends or journal instead.
2. Until you summon the courage to delete their pictures, videos, and number, and mute or block them everywhere, you are not ready to heal and move on.
3. Some days, it will feel like you have healed; then you wake up another day and it feels like you are back to square one. Just be patient with yourself, healing is not linear.
4. Some people will not be bold enough to initiate a breakup; instead, they will frustrate you and treat you poorly. Walk away while the ovation is still high. It is okay to break up with them.
5. Do not sit around hoping they will come back. Move on once, and move on properly. You have not met half of the people who are going to love you genuinely yet.
6. It is okay to cry, talk to a friend, go to the gym, go to church, or do anything to improve your mental health. The only thing that is not okay is begging them to take you back. Begging is degrading.
7. Missing them is not a reason to reach out or rekindle anything. You once loved them or still do, so your heart may yearn for them sometimes. Don’t fall for it.
8. Write down all the terrible things they did to you or how badly they treated you. Anytime you feel like reaching out or if they do, read it and remind yourself why you deserve better.
9. Do not use anyone as a placeholder. That is unfair to them and to yourself. Embrace the heartbreak. Feel every emotion that comes with it. Take it one day at a time until you fully heal.
10. It will hurt, and hurt, and one day, it will no longer hurt. Again, be patient with yourself. Time is what will help you find yourself again. It does get better.