Ogbeni AZ
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Ogbeni AZ
@AzOgbeni
A Program Analyst Nature Expert and Sports Forecaster
West Africa Katılım Aralık 2018
31 Takip Edilen4 Takipçiler

When I left my marriage, the first question people asked was: “Did he cheat?”
I said no.
They looked confused. “So why leave a good man?”
Yes, he was a good man. He didn’t cheat. He didn’t hit me. He provided. He came home every night.
But I was slowly disappearing. I would talk, and he wouldn’t hear me. I would cry, and he’d say, “You’re too emotional.” I needed comfort and got silence.
There were nights I was unwell, restless, struggling beside him, and he never noticed. Not even a simple “Are you okay?”
I started asking myself: “If something happens to me here, will he even know?”
One day I told him, half-joking but serious: “My fear is that I could be dying, and you wouldn’t notice.”
He laughed. But I meant every word.
That’s when it hit me: A man can be good and still be emotionally absent.
I didn’t leave because he was bad. I left because I felt alone in a place that was supposed to feel like home.
So tell me: Is presence more important than provision in marriage? And if you were in her shoes, how long would you stay? 💭
Cc: chinyere charity

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@Nova__2210 Police is too big for that circle
Let him jump into the sea
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@Becksjane26 It's the best.
What is omitted is the cover. I've not seen one with cover.
Bending to pooo is the best position
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@EmilySm43 15-30mins is better for responsible adults with kids.
30-1h is fine for young couples.
2hr + for the jobless, senseless and people using it as tool for business
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Aside first round or only round in some cases;
15-30mins is better for responsible adults with kids.
30-1h is fine for young couples.
2hr + for the jobless, senseless and people using it as tool for business
Emily 🦋@EmilySm43
How long?
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@CorrectBabie She took advantage of the man because he's old and his brain has retarded.
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Because he can't talk, she wanted to take advantage of him
Afia Dimple🦋@AfiaDimple_
Why are men of this generation like that 😂
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@itz_taser She has the final say and the man is minding his business till his hand is strong enough
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@Momoreoluwaa You know wetin Yoruba dey call Alupaida and Madarikan.
Use am play for the right person first, just play, no take am serious
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@Opehyehmmi Nothing is a waste from their parts... 😗
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“I’m tired of being a wife and mother—I’m really tired.
I take care of the house, the kids, and my husband. I wash the plates, and nobody even asks if I’m okay. I’m really tired.
Ever since I got married, nobody gives me money anymore. They always say, ‘You’re married.’”
— last born cries out, expressing how exhausted she feels about marriage.

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@Opehyehmmi I hope you are not referring to daddies.
Like, should daddies wash plates
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@Drweloveu At first, your husband is your authority.
You should have allowed him make the move first then if he didn't succeed, you can come in-between. Which one is "Don try to bring food to my house AGAIN, if you do, I will DISRESPECT you"
This means you are ready for the fight.
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I got married to the last-born in a family of seven children, with six elder sisters. They still feel it is their right to take care of him. After our marriage, they would cook food and bring it to our house. Whenever I cooked, they would say things like, “He doesn’t like pepper,” or “This food has too much oil.” At first, my husband enjoyed the attention and would say, “I have good sisters because I’m the only boy.”
One day, his mother called and said, “You must put a stop to this nonsense. Don’t allow my daughters to control your home. They all have their own husbands.” She said that while she used to take care of him, he is now married and his wife should take over that role.
Last week, the sisters came again, and I told them, “From today, do not bring food to my house again. If you do, I will disrespect you.” I told my husband, “You might as well marry your sisters instead.” He then told them, “Please, sisters, I’m fine. Don’t bring food to my house anymore. If you’re coming, call my wife first.”
They became angry. One of them even said she would beat me, and I told her to try it. They all left angrily. Later, my husband’s mother said, “You did the right thing. Congratulations. But they won’t stop easily.”

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