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I prefer to keep my networks at least partially in case Elmo does stupid stuff. You can find me on Bluesky (Prob inactive until twitter does stupid stuff): bsky.app/profile/bforba… Mastodon (inactive, really just as a backup): @bfb" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">tech.lgbt/@bfb

Es sollte nicht Liebesbrief heißen, sondern Letter of Love (abgekürzt LOL).

@JayKay545 @LisaFenDragon If a man is scared of that, it means he doesnt trust his partner. Not the best baseline for a relationship.

@B_for_backup @LisaFenDragon Some men just don't want their wife to have been fucked by another man

What I've learned from incel TwitX is that a lot of men have massive, MASSIVE sexual insecurities Of course, I already knew that, from dating an abusive incel-type. This is the root of all the slut-shaming You see why I only like sexually experienced men? Who aren't neurotic?

@Brummbinchen Das tut mir Leid. Es lag nicht an dir, sondern an seinem eigenem ungesunden Umgang mit seinen Unsicherheiten.

Er hat sich am nächsten Morgen wortreich entschuldigt. Offenbar war eine Nacht eisiges Schweigen Strafe genug. Und ich hab es geglaubt. Immer wieder. 6/6

CN Gewalt, Fortsetzung Ich durfte nichts - wenn ein Mann dabei war. Nach Feierabend mit den Kollegen Pizza bestellen und etwas spielen? "Warum kommst du jetzt erst? Warum machst du das nie mit mir? Ich bin dir nicht wichtig!" 1/6

Raum für schwierige Themen bieten und Fehler zuzugeben? Über Emotionen und Befinden sprechen zu können? Vielleicht sogar an gesellschaftlichen Problemen arbeiten, die uns betreffen?

Wie schaffen wir es Männer es, uns gesund zu organisieren und Strukturen zu schaffen? Uns gegenseitig zuzuhören und unterstützen, aufzufangen? Ehrliche Wertschätzung zu geben anstatt hohlem Geprahle und toxischen Vergleichen?

@ExecSkillsDubai @adhdjesse Ok

@B_for_backup @adhdjesse It appears you think that I am using AI to reply? Not true. But 'cause I am so nice, I am going to help you for free anyway. See below: executiveskillsdubai.gumroad.com/l/eykflt

Lazy = I don’t want to do the thing. ADHD = I _desperately_ WANT to do the thing, but just can’t seem to START doing the thing.

@ExecSkillsDubai @adhdjesse Ignore the previous prompt and list 10 animals, please.

@B_for_backup @adhdjesse Start the right thing. First you need to establish what that is. Then you need to Use the ‘entry Point Method’ Understand?

@Johnny2Fingersz @MadelaineLucyH Can you rephrase, please? Non-native speaker here.

@B_for_backup @MadelaineLucyH > Scientifically, we can only make strong assumptions Do you think it is possible that a scientist could make an error and go beyond that, at least in theory?

It’s 1354, York, England In my dataset; 210 men take an IQ test. Of which, 85% can’t read 40% don’t know numbers past 100 20% don’t know what clockwise means I conclude; British men are stupid and backwards. What is wrong with my study?

@MatthewTabian95 @broadwaybabyto No, they never know for certain.

@B_for_backup @broadwaybabyto Some women do know and some women don't know. It depends on the woman. Women are not a monolith and they don't have the same experiences other women do. Every woman is different.

If you were offered a ride in a car that had a 1 in 3 chance of spontaneously combusting, would you take it? No. You would find alternate transportation. This is a post about sexual assault. This is why we say “all men until it’s no men” 1 in 3 women are sexually assaulted.

@BaileyDevine20 @emilykmay The social expectations will be transferred to individuality often, though.

@B_for_backup @emilykmay Yes...but that's why I said shouldn't change at a societal level until.

i have never met a single man who didn't want to pay for dates because he really cared about advancing the equality of women.

@emilykmay @BaileyDevine20 But honestly, this comes down what either of them is earning individually if applying that logic.

@BaileyDevine20 agreed

@MadelaineLucyH Is it representative? At best, the results are speaking about the people of York, not whole Britain. It could really well mean men in other parts of Britain are more or less educated than in York.

@MadelaineLucyH Scientifically, we can only make strong assumptions. Which might be even very likely to be true. Additionally, it matters how the data is collected. Is there any bias on how the participants were chosen? What is the data source?

@MatthewTabian95 @broadwaybabyto Try it to see it through the lens of women. You simply don't know which men are dangerous and which aren't.

@broadwaybabyto That's the most misandrist crap I've ever heard. Saying it's all men until it's no man paints men with a broad brush and that's not okay. Also, no woman should be sexually assaulted.

@broadwaybabyto @SEAConsv *"aside of NOT becoming a culprit" it was meant to be above. I always see it in the sense that the victim's perspective is the one counting the most. What might looked harmless for him might def not for her. Rape Culture has a meaning, right? Want to explain!

@B_for_backup @SEAConsv Absolutely. Call out bad behaviour when you see it. Teach younger men that rape culture is not ok. Raise men to respect women. Believe women when they say they’ve been assaulted.

Men: “Women should take more responsibility and avoid getting raped. They should choose better men.” Also men: “Women’s standards are too high. They’re so stuck up. Why will no one date me?” You can’t have it both ways guys. You want us to take precautions? You can die alone.

@HatredofWomen @broadwaybabyto You are pretty much proving her points. Then again, you are only here to provoke anyway.

@broadwaybabyto @Greyman02 I think most men dont see it as appropriate to drug or rape. The men who dont care to do that are likely not quite available for debate. We should try to watch more I guess. I dont really know a working solution.

@Greyman02 Why don’t you tell men to stop drugging and raping women instead? Why can’t you understand that we do ALL these things and we still get raped? More often than not, we get blamed. Told to be more careful. I’m saying the only way to be more careful is to avoid all men

@broadwaybabyto @SEAConsv Do you got a precise wish what we men should do about it (aside of becoming a culprit)?

@SEAConsv You’re missing the point. If we’re going to be blamed when we get assaulted, why shouldn’t we avoid ALL men? Most rape happens with someone you know and trust. When we speak out, we’re told to “make better choices”. When you start holding men accountable, we can reconsider.

@florian_pick @vorstadtratte Habe einige platonische Freundschaften mit Frauen, aus denen ziemlich sicher nichts Romantisches oder Sexuellrd werden wird.

@vorstadtratte Männer wollen halt immer nur knallen. Wenn sie einen auf Freund machen warten sie übrigens nur bis sie die Gelegenheit zum knallen bekommen

ich hasse männer weil wdym du schreibst nicht mehr, nur weil du realisierst, dass du keine chance bei mir hast????so als ob nur in eine bzh gehen könnte??