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@Bin__Adam @SDogohn And I’m still standing by my words, that nothing confines anyone to revealed guidance, Allah sends his messenger with guidance, no one is confined or restricted to receiving it, you choose to or not to and your reward for lies with Allah

@BeebahEnny @SDogohn Nothing confines either men or women to revealed guidance – these are your words, not mine. Learn the usage of Quranic verses in their proper context, not random quotations. BarakAllah feekum

The advocacy that women should be financially stable before getting married is not a genuine call coming from the point of whether women experience financial abuse or not; largely, it is influenced by the ideas of women's liberation.

@Bin__Adam @SDogohn Okay, are you still saying women liberation liberates women from revealed guidance, because these are your own words, and I’m saying guidance is not a woman or man thing, it’s for both, so men liberation does not liberate men from revealed guidance?

@Bin__Adam @SDogohn Apart from this verse being a commandment from Allah to all believers ( not only women) it is still Allah who guides, and nothing in this verse says woman having liberty will stop them from being guided

@BeebahEnny @SDogohn Okay, now explain this verse. (3:102) يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِۦ وَلَا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا وَأَنتُم مُّسْلِمُونَ O believers! Be mindful of Allah in the way He deserves, and do not die except in ˹a state of full˺ submission ˹to Him

@Bin__Adam @SDogohn Bring the verse where women liberation equals liberation from revealed guidance, when Allah even told the prophet that he’s just a messenger, he’s not responsible for the guidance of any, that alone makes it clear no one is confined to guidance, only Allah guides

@BeebahEnny @SDogohn Okay. Try and understand verses in their proper context before you use them.

@Ahmed__Aliyu No woman since the beginning of this discussion has said this, it’s all in your head

If the only reason you want to attain financial freedom in life is because you want to prepare for divorce, fight your spouse, oppress, etc. Then, you have no purpose in life. You have to be more purposeful in life. People do a lot better with wealth than all that negativity.

@alapo_ You’re missing the point, people mention Our mother Khadijah because she’s relevant to the topic of discussion, especially when men disapprove of women acquiring wealth using Islam as a cover, we also mention Aisha RA when she’s relevant to the discussion

When such issues arise, it’s easy to quickly mention our mother Khadeejah (May Allah be pleased with her). However, it’s a disservice that most people only ascribe or relate to her wealth. They almost completely overlook her other beneficial traits, sacrifices, efforts and devotion to her husband, children and the deen. None of us men are like the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and I’m certain none are like our mother either. Therefore, mentioning her name so readily in these discussions is a great disservice to her. I have no idea how they came up with the claim that her wealth was the reason he didn’t marry another wife. They tend to forget our mother Ā’isha. Perhaps because she wasn’t wealthy, they don’t see a reason to mention her. However, without her, we might miss out on a whole part of the knowledge we have today. Only two male companions bested her in reporting Hadith from the Messenger of Allah. Her family is credited with numerous benefits, and the ummah benefited greatly through her and her family. No woman alive today is as knowledgeable as our mother Ā’isha (May Allah be pleased with her). Then there’s our mother Hafsah (May Allah be pleased with her). Allah revealed her devotion through Jibril (May Allah be pleased with him), calling her Sawwāmah wa Qawwāmah. We don’t hear references to her. We also don’t hear about our mother Zainab bint Ja’sh. She was renowned for her generosity, giving all her money in charity. She was known as Ummul-Masākīn. We have the rest of them with their unique qualities: Ummu Salamah, Sawdah bint Zam’a, Zainab bint Khuaymah, Juwairiyyah, Maymūnah, Ramla, Mariya and Sofiyyah.

@ronkecarew This kind of knowledge is why some Muslim men want women to be prevented from access to social media and or even phone, they’ve been conditioned to think women are not knowledgeable enough to decipher right from wrong.

Alhamdulillah, I cannot be gaslighted nor insulted about encouraging self sufficiency in my fellow ladies/women especially Muslim women. Theres enough evidence to support rich , industrious , entrepreneurial and financially literate and savvy Muslim women in the Seerah of the Prophet SAW. I am named after one and so proud to use Her as a valid reason why I have insane financial/ and Rizk goals. The Riches of Khadeejah was very useful to our Prophet and the Deen , so useful was She that the Prophet stayed the entire 27 years of their marriage without marrying another woman and He mourned Her loss in such a way that even in death His other wife was reported to be jealous of Her. So before you come for me , Be aware that I am not a novice and I know my religion well enough to match whatever craziness you bring. I am not one of the Sisters you will gaslight. I may choose to look away , it won't be out out of respect for you but out of protection for my own sanity or I have checked you out and firmly decided that you are not worth my efforts so I block and keep it moving . You leave Muslim Sisters in ruin, you leave them hungry, rub them of dignity due to hunger and lack of provision and you dear moan about them wanting to improve themselves by asking Allah for help and working to sort out the mess? Not around Me. Never will Be. An irresponsible Man will forever remain one, I have so many examples , too many. Please stay away from me and mine. I detest abuse, especially financial abuse especially used as a weapon of control and till I shall take my last breadth I will continue to work in any capacity to get Sisters out of its rots Insha Allah . So watch out. What you bring is what you get, Trust me I can be very Brutal if the occasion calls for it. I didn't get Here to go back there. My Lord is very sufficient, He will bless me with massive Rizk and Barakah till I die and my progeny too.🤲🤲🤲🤲 Boya ke koshi daanu, Awon Olofo.

@Bin__Adam @SDogohn This is funny, Nothing confine either men or women to revealed guidance, their is no compulsion in the religion of Islam, who ever wills let them be guided and whoever wills let them go astray, there’s nothing wrong with women liberation, liberation is not restricted to men only!

@SDogohn A lot. The crux of women's liberation is to liberate women from the confines of revealed guidance.

@Ruky_Baby27 No sis, I’m wondering why she won’t leave an abusive man, maybe the pr!ck is that sweet she’s willing to endure the abuse

@BeebahEnny You don see am na

You see women in abus!ve marriage? Many of them love it. "I advised my own bl0od sister to pack her load immediately and leave the husband when the husband naked her in a very crowdy public place with a serious beating, I was ready to send that man to ja!l, the next day the man called me threatening me to leave him and his wife alone, I was also hearing my sister's voice too shouting, Amuche Chukwu leave us alone ooo!!! Shame nearly finish me that day".

@GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek The financial independence we preach is to help women make independent decisions, it is not to make them arrogant to their husbands

@muminattaofeek Sorry but some don't have the capacity to submit to a man they are richer than. Especially the ones that have been infested with Western ideologies wrapped under the deen. It's a huge problem. That said, I think our sisters have been woven beautifully by the Manufacturer.

There is a particular kind of manipulation that thrives in Nigerian Muslim communities and it has been so normalized that most women do not even recognize it when it is happening to them. It sounds like this: "A woman who chases money will forget her home." "Financial independence will make her arrogant." "She doesn't need to work, that is the man's responsibility." And because it is delivered wrapped in religion, most women swallow it whole. But here is what nobody tells you that is not Islam. That is insecurity dressed in a jalabiya. The Quran gave women property rights over 1400 years ago when Europe had not even conceptualized the idea. Khadijah (RA) was one of the wealthiest merchants in Mecca. She employed the Prophet ﷺ before he became a Prophet. Her financial power never made her less of a wife, less of a Muslimah, or less of a woman. It made her one of the greatest human beings to ever walk this earth. So when did we decide that a woman knowing her money is a threat? I will tell you when. The moment men realized that a woman with options is a woman they cannot manipulate. Financial dependency is not modesty. It is a control mechanism. And we have been conditioned to protect it by calling it deen. I have always believed that money is not a man's conversation it is a human necessity. And as a Muslim woman specifically, understanding wealth is not rebellion. It is your right. It is your protection. It is quite literally built into your religion. Nobody should have to be Beg for maintenance, stay in a toxic marriage because they cannot afford to leave, or shrink their ambitions because a man's ego is more comfortable with their ignorance. Women like @ronkecarew exist in this space and remind me that this is not a radical opinion. It is simply what happens when you actually read when you go back to the source instead of inheriting somebody's cultural anxiety and calling it faith. Know your deen. Own your money. They were never in conflict to begin with. 🤍

@GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek You’re right

@muminattaofeek Allahuma Baarik for this piece. But in my humble opinion it's not complete. "Real men" never look at a woman's money and are never intimidated by it, ever. Already you know that Islam enjoins men to keep giving her even if she earns more than him. That said...continue..

@KBC_Facilitator @pharuc1 If a woman have money, she won’t even fear where to go, your father’s house is not the only place to go as a divorced woman, trust, financial dependence is the most reason most woman remain in abusive homes, money help you make independent decisions

The person that made the comment about money not being the all is right, Financial independence doesn't equal mental independence. The problem of those in abusive marriage is first mental dependence before it's financial, if it's ever financial for some — the rich. But your tweet said "some women", so... But the other responses said "having her money makes it easier to leave", it doesn't, all the time. "...because they can not survive without their husbands", try asking them if they have a home that would accept them with open arms devoid of stigmatization. Many are in abusive marriages because they fear where to go, not necessarily their husband's stupidity

Some women are in abusive marriages because they cannot survive without their husbands. This is where having your own money comes in.

@Accoid That cos it takes away their weapon of manipulation,don’t you know the easiest woman to manipulate is an uneducated,ignorant and financially dependent woman who cant have a life without them,they are the ones usually given the sacred term”submissive”even thou they still abuse her

I don’t even know why some Muslim men are triggered because a Muslim woman is strongly advising women to strive for financial independence. What exactly is triggering about this fgs!

@Ummul_SR @Iam_Musteey But back then, STIs was not as rampant as it is today, if I’m making a conscious effort of protecting myself from it by not having multiple sexual partners, I cannot be patient looking at a man sabotaging it, he should either marry the woman or we divorce

@Iam_Musteey As realistic as your opinion is, it's also overly simplified. In many cases, when women report such issues to their elders they advise them to be patient. Some even go to the extent of telling them how promiscuous their fathers were and how their mothers' patience is rewarded.

As a Muslim woman, the best way to express your disapproval of a promiscuous man is to reject him when he approaches you. If you are married and you find your husband cheating, the best thing is to inform your parents and end the marriage As a Muslim man, the best way to speak against promiscuous men is not to engage in promiscuity yourself. And if you are married and you find your wife cheating, the best thing is to divorce her Only a runs girl would claim that all men cheat. And only a womanizing man would claim that all men or women cheat All these media talks are not it.

@kofoekanbayi @Iam_Musteey Sabr doesn’t not cure sexually transmitted infections, if your husband is cheating, advice him to either marry the woman after ensuring she’s not infected as the religion says or divorce him for your own safety

@Iam_Musteey You only hear few marriages end cos the husband cheated, they always have a reason to cheat and the society justifies it, teach the woman sabr and pretend nothing happens. Ju gbogbo e lo, ani shi fe

@kamaFever You’re not even lying 🥴

Some Nigerian parents see their beautiful daughters as future financial relief. They invest in their looks hoping she marries a rich man who will “save” the family. It turns marriage into a transaction instead of a choice based on love and compatibility.

@ronkecarew You’re the red flag to manipulative men who use Islam as a cover 😁😁😁 I love it 👌

To the Brothers that reminded me of my Divorce Trauma, Below is your Response in full. I have your time Now.🤣🤣🤣🤣 Go and ask about Khadeejah of Sunnah and self esteem of Nija FM UK. then you will know that no be today at all. I am in my full element now, Bring it on. Divorce Does Not Equal Damaged Goods I will say this clearly and unapologetically yet again 🙄. You insult me, I block you straight otherwise you shall get bigger insult. Being a single mother or divorcee does not make a woman damaged. The idea that a woman becomes less worthy of love, respect, or companionship after divorce is not just wrong, it’s dangerous. It silences women in harmful marriages and relationships It forces them to stay for the sake of image. And it breeds a culture of quiet suffering dressed up as “virtue.” Islam does not shame divorced women. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) married divorcees and widows. Our faith honours those who walk away from harm and choose peace. But culture? Culture has often been less forgiving. A woman who chooses herself is called selfish. A woman who protects her children is called bitter. A woman who heals out loud is told she talks too much. And if she dares to love again? They say, “She’s desperate.” or simply Ashawo Hnmmm, May the Lord heal and forgive you My ladies, hear me loud and very clear Divorce is not a badge of shame. It’s a part of life that can happen to anyone. Even the most prayerful, Even the most patient, Even the “perfect couple.” And the married but living singles too. Yes the openly pretentious ones It is better to walk away with dignity than to die slowly in silence. So to every single mother and divorcee You are not less, You are not secondhand, third hand or whatever name the society choose to call you What you call yourself is the most powerful and important. You are not disqualified from love , happiness, peace, companionship, passion , s-ex , fun or joy again . You are a full woman, You are still whole, And you are worthy of peace, protection, and partnership just as you are and as much as any single person out there Carry yourself with grace 👑, yes you are a queen 👸 and absolutely 💯 cut yourself some slack. After all our Lord is that of first, 2nd, 3rd and numerous chances and He is not finished with you. Don't allow the society tell you otherwise. From one woman to another, love ❤️will find you again or you simply find it ! To cap it all Be a Single Mother with shit loads of money 🤑 🤑 🤑 🤑 💰 💰, That scares them the most. Never stop growing or developing, Never give them the benefit of the last laugh 🤣 🤣 #FreshChaptersWithRonke #DivorcedNotDefeated #HealingWithFaith #CulturalAwareness #MuslimWomenDeservePeace #SingleMumStrong

@SamanthaPe71938 @_ayandamay Protect us all from who?

@_ayandamay That’s because men can like, build shit and protect us. All women do is whine about men, and you’re a perfect example of that. 👍🏻

I don't support all women. Some of you bitches uphold the Patriarchy and will do anything for male validation.

@FolajeuwoNelson @_ayandamay That’s not true, women now get their money up, get degrees and started businesses that benefits only them and whoever it is they want it to benefit, only a woman who can’t decanter men will think everything she can ever do is a favor to some man

@_ayandamay Anything women do will still end up favoring men at the end of the day.