Bob Kocis

Every player I ever coached was asking me the same 3 questions. They never said them out loud. It didn't matter what the lineup looked like. It didn't matter what the scoreboard said. They just needed to know 3 things. And every leader, every coach, every parent is being asked the same ones. Here they are. Question #1: Can I trust you? Trust isn't given. It's earned. You earn it through transparency and honesty not when things are going well, but when things are hard. How I built it: • Do what you say you're going to do • Tell them what they need to hear, not what they want to hear • Show up the same way whether you're winning or losing You lose trust fast. You build it slow. Question #2: Can you make me better? This one is on you as a leader. They're not just asking about their swing or their stats. They're asking: do you see me clearly enough to help me grow? Question #3: Do you care about me? This is the most important one. And you can't fake it. You can't lead anybody if they don't believe you care about them beyond what they produce on the field. Three questions. No stat tracks them. But they determine everything.